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Pavlysha1
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Ah, younger women.
    
I recently read somewhere that when men get married for the SECOND time; they marry women an AVERAGE of 10 years younger.
And something like 20% of men who marry for a second time wind up marrying a woman that is over 20 YEARS YOUNGER.
I also recall reading somewhere that women are universally attracted to men who are older than them, and that the "average" relationship contains a man that is four years older than the woman.
Interesting stuff.
Remember Humphrey Bogart and Lauren Bacall? >> Bastard.
Or how about Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones?>> I hate him, too.
In my own family there were age gaps ranging from 10 years to over 40 years.
Yeah, you read that one right. Over 40 years.
I won't even go there...
Let's just say that it brings a whole new meaning to your life "After my divorce 2 years ago I traded my 43 years Old Russian in for a 37 Ukrainian very attractive and professional lady". Who requires nothing of me as my 43 years old did. I guess we’re just too busy enjoying our lives and having fun as much as we can.
What I'm trying to say here is that this pattern of older men dating and marrying
younger women isn't going away anytime soon. In fact, I personally believe that the more
"socially acceptable" it becomes, the MORE it's going to happen.
For most of my adult life, I've dated women that were either my own age, or very close.
But for some reason, right about when I turned 40, I began sometimes dating women who were younger than me.
At first it was a little bit strange. I didn't feel like I had anything to talk about
with a woman who was five or ten years younger than me. But the more it happened, the more I realized that younger women have a certain appeal that goes far beyond just the "physical beauty".
I believe younger women just have a different VIBE.
If you meet the right younger woman, you'll find that she can bring an amazing energy, vibe, and youthful atmosphere to your life.
After having the experience myself, talking to other guys who have shared it, and reading about it a lot, I can say that many guys have the experience of FEELING YOUNGER and MORE VITAL when dating a younger woman. It can also be a blast.
Now, I'm not saying that it's a bad idea to date women your own age, or women who are older than you. Not at all, in fact. I'm just saying that if you find yourself
attracted to younger women, in my opinion it's perfectly OK.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 8:32 AM |
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father_heart
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LOL this thread is funny
it doesnt matter age of the vase the flower comes in.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 8:50 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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And no, not all 35 year old and up women are bitter when they give advice, only those who are actually bitter when giving advice are.
You got that right Some of us Older women can be nice unlike those who are bitter and negative with their opinions.And our advise is usually sincere. 
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 8:51 AM |
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MotownManiax
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I'm 45. Maybe I go against the grain of most men's thinking at my age, but I have no "desire" to date a woman 15+ years younger than me?
I know 40 and 50 year old women that would bury a lot of women in their 20's. I'm just hugely attracted to women my age and older; think they're super sexy.
I'm sure a woman in her 20's "might" (depends on a lot of things: weight, lifestyle, if she takes care of herself, etc) have more energy than someone in her 40's (although I know a lot of women my age that are extremely energetic and put younger woman to shame). Duh?
There's always exceptions, but don't you think some 20-something guys have more energy than 40+ yr-olds?
It's called aging. Some people are comfortable with it and don't panic when they hit a certain age, others freak out and feel they need the "energy" of a young thing to keep them feeling youthful.
As far as I can tell, there is absolutely no reason to "only" go after people 20 years younger, and exclude everyone in your age group, "unless" it's out of selfish, narcissistic, ego-driven reasons. I hear the arguments, "I just can't find anybody my age that has the energy I want, or they have too much baggage, or not attractive enough...". Bull. You're just not looking, because I see plenty out here. No, what's happened is you've already closed your mind to even seeking a woman your own age of older.
That's fine, if you're my age and only want a 22 yr-old cookie go for it, but don't insult my intelligence by declaring it's out of love or altruistic concern for her well-being. You're doing it because it makes "you" feel good; it's a huge ego boost for "you", not them.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 9:31 AM |
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holding4u
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I love these forums. I have a 25 year old drop dead gorgeous daughter who thinks internet dating is for those who have emotional problems. (Maybe that says something about me)
I have watched men fall all over themselves, walk into poles, etc. since she was 15. Her philosophy on older men - "I would rather poke my eyes out with a dull pencil before I would date anyone over 28." From the mouths of babes.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 9:34 AM |
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Pete73052
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It's mostly trying to avoid the bitterness. The thing many men find in women who are younger is that they aren't bitter. It has nothing to do with looks. Younger women tend to look up to older men, older women tend to look down on them. Older women seem to be united in the notion that all men are idiots. Younger women tend to hold respect for men. It has to do with attitude much more than age... IME.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 9:36 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Older women seem to be united in the notion that all men are idiots. Younger women tend to hold respect for men. It has to do with attitude much more than age... IME
 Not at all..i myself don`t think their idiots..just a wee bit silly.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 9:53 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Most attractive women in their 40's and 50's could get any 20-year-old. I know that just from talking with them and remembering when I was in my 20's.
Young men have a fixation with older women just as seemingly strong as young women do with older men, but most older women don't take advantage of it. Why? Maybe because most realize it's inherently awkward, uncomfortable, and just plain wrong to date a kid younger than their sons and daughters. It goes to the mindset of maturity.
I always had huge crushes on older women when I was much younger because I thought they'd make better lovers (more experience), had more filled-out, voluptuous, sexy bodies, and just had more maturity than women my age…at the time.
That doesn't mean all my assumptions were correct. I was just going on fantasy because I had no idea what women in their late 30's, 40's, 50's were like. Just like 20+ young women do about older men.
Again, if you're my age or older and want to cruise around for a 20-yr-old sweet cheeks, have fun. But you're doing it for your own sense of ego and simple selfishness. Quit trying to defend the behavior as completely normal and respectable.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 10:08 AM |
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holding4u
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Pete, I am old, but not bitter. All life's experiences make us who we are. I think the problem with men wanting younger women and I can understand it - First is the ego thing and secondly 25 definitely looks better than 56. 
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 10:10 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I prefer a fella closer to my own age,although it doesn`t hurt to drool over a younger guy.  I just feel like their lookin` for a momma figure.Not all old-timers are wearin` depends yet ..they still have a little pep in their step.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 11:17 AM |
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MotownManiax
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It's mostly trying to avoid the bitterness. The thing many men find in women who are younger is that they aren't bitter....Younger women tend to look up to older men, older women tend to look down on them. Older women seem to be united in the notion that all men are idiots...
 Could be put another way, Pete....older women are wiser and less tolerant about putting up with our bullsh*t?
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 11:48 AM |
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kattsmeow
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I have always dated,,or married older men. Not sure why though.
I am with Mo on not dating guys that are the same age or younger than my boys!!!!!
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 12:06 PM |
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MotownManiax
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 Katts, you're 45. I don't think any guy would be accused of robbing the cradle by being in a relationship with you...lol.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 12:06 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Could be put another way, Pete....older women are wiser and less tolerant about putting up with our bullsh*t?
got that right!
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 12:32 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Katts, you're 45. I don't think any guy would be accused of robbing the cradle by being in a relationship with you...lol.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 1:28 PM |
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Haban3ro
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Oh, I don't know. Katt seems younger than springtime to me. Sometimes at daybreak, or when she smiles, she looks like a young girl of 20. And sometimes she looks as perfect and ageless as our Sierras.
I'm just crazy about her, what can I say?
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 2:05 PM |
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bevrice
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Lol, am still laughing about the younger women looking up to older men, I don't now, and I didn't when I was young, thought they were dirty old men if they hit on me, made me very angry, lol. What a crock, look up to you, yeah, as long as your gifts and your money are flowing, lol. By the way, anyone who has to go to Russia for a wife, a woman who would do ANYTHING to get here is desperate, I don't know who is the most dispicable, the woman who uses the man to get over here, or the man who buys them. Oh, well, I guess as long as you are both happy, to me would be giving up one prison for another. We can't depend on mates or men or women to make us happy, we will fail. That lies within ourselves. They can't make us young, lol, and it sure doesn't make a man look good when he is in his forties and comes in with a wife or girlfriend who is twenty, lol, makes him look even older and very foolish. Everyone knows why she is with him, is spelled MONEY, lol, guys, gee, does it take a sledgehammer over your head to make you see that?
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 2:16 PM |
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MotownManiax
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I'm just crazy about her, what can I say?
You two are a great couple, Haban and Katts.
Obviously, my comments were not directed at you in any way, shape, or form. For one, you seem to be together for the right reasons, and second, like I mentioned earlier, your ages aren't really objectionable, at least not to me.
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 3:20 PM |
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Pete73052
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I think the problem with men wanting younger women and I can understand it - First is the ego thing and secondly 25 definitely looks better than 56.
Not necessarily. There are some very attractive older women and some very unattractive younger women. It's really nothing to do with looks (for me at least) and everything to do with attitude.
Could be put another way, Pete....older women are wiser and less tolerant about putting up with our bullsh*t?
Yes!!! Absolutely. And really, older guys prefer women who will put up with their bulls***... at least sometimes. And really, by the time a guy is, say, 50, there really isn't all that much bulls*** going on. Guys in their 50's are hopefully more mature and less needy than younger guys. But women in their 50's are guarding against all the bulls*** they've received their whole lives. (I realize these are all generalizations, BTW).
They can't make us young, lol, and it sure doesn't make a man look good when he is in his forties and comes in with a wife or girlfriend who is twenty, lol, makes him look even older and very foolish. Everyone knows why she is with him, is spelled MONEY, lol, guys, gee, does it take a sledgehammer over your head to make you see that?
Yes, I suppose it does. Are you suggesting only a shallow golddigging woman would date an older man? That's just pure nonsense, IMO and IME. Some women are genuine in their appreciation of older men. Lots of different people are attracted to lots of different people. It's not always about money... in fact, in my experience, it's rarely about money and most often about maturity.
[Edited on 3/2/2006 3:26 PM]
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| Mar 2, 2006 @ 4:07 PM |
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kattsmeow
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You two are a great couple, Haban and Katts.
Obviously, my comments were not directed at you in any way, shape, or form. For one, you seem to be together for the right reasons, and second, like I mentioned earlier, your ages aren't really objectionable, at least not to me.
Thank you Mo.
Oh and my husband looks so good in his rose colored glasses..(or he is going blind).
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