| Feb 2, 2006 @ 11:04 PM |
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lookahead
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Ok, I know that if you look at my profile, it says I am in a relationship.
I am....
It is just that I have been seeing the same guy for awhile now and he makes me feel like he doesn't care so much about me. He has alot of girls that are friends and seems to only think of me when he wants something, if you know what I mean.
When I confront him about this, he tries to re-assure me that he does care for me and that he really loves being with me.
Please tell me what to do. Should I just forget him. I have alot of men that ask me out. Even alot of his friends. I just really like him.
If there was a way to make him fall for me completely, I would do it. What ever it was.
Anyone have any good tips? Or good advice?
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| Feb 2, 2006 @ 11:09 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 You can`t make anyone fall for you..either he does it on his own or he doesn`t..Sounds to me like hes using you.
I think you need to have a serious talk with him.
But thats just my opinion...good luck.
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| Feb 2, 2006 @ 11:16 PM |
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Angel54214
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What kind of relationship do you have together, like do you go out with other friends or do interests? Do you spend quality time like talking about anything, planning a future? If you answer "no" to both questions, I have to say its not a relationship no matter how long you been together.
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| Feb 2, 2006 @ 11:21 PM |
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Greystone1
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What does any of this have to do with "Men Afraid to Commit"?
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| Feb 2, 2006 @ 11:22 PM |
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lookahead
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we go out alot, but we spend more time at his place in bed. I have met all of his friends and I have alot of fun when we are together, but when I try to talk seriously to him about us, he seems scared.
he says his walls are because his last relationship was a bad one. does that mean they will never come down?
we talk alot, just not about anything that matters.
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| Feb 2, 2006 @ 11:24 PM |
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lookahead
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grey,
isn't what he is doing because he is afraid of commitment? or am i getting the signs wrong.
sorry if i don't make sense. i am new to the forums.
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| Feb 2, 2006 @ 11:25 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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It sounds as though you may be making yourself too easily available to him. You say you have been dating for a while. How long is a while?
If he is only calling you for sex, that is a problem. Sadly, I've noticed many men no longer believe in courtship. He should be asking you out on dates. I'm not talking about spending a ton of money on you. A date can be a picnic in the park, a hike, a nice drive, etc.
I'm assuming he has not commited to you. Therefore, you have the right to date others. For whatever reason, a woman is often more attractive to a man, when he feels there is a challenge. If he thinks another man may be interested, he becomes somewhat territorial.
Maybe the next time he wants a booty call, tell him you have other plans, even if you don't. As difficult as it may be, just do it. See how he reacts.
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| Feb 2, 2006 @ 11:29 PM |
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painter007
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dont sleep with him...believe it or not sex does not capture someone...its just a fringe benefit.
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| Feb 2, 2006 @ 11:53 PM |
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lookahead
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hey painter, I already have many times. should I stop? would that change things?
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 12:12 AM |
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Pete73052
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Please tell me what to do. ... If there was a way to make him fall for me completely, I would do it. What ever it was.
OK, you'll need a dead cat, a gunney sack, a live chicken (white preferably), a bag of salt, lots of candles, string, a cigar (cuban or honduran), a long sharp knife, a small goblet or caldron, some strands of his hair, a picture of him (8 x 10 is fine), some garlic, a Pepsi bottle (empty), some rabbits blood and a Richard Simmons exercise video. Let me know when you have collected everything.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 12:24 AM |
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7eternity
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I already have many times. should I stop? would that change things?
Yeah it would change things if you stopped giving yourself out to him like that. Either he'll dump you or he'll want to seriously talk. The truth will come out sooner or later...
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 1:05 AM |
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sjpinatl
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If he is only calling you for sex, that is a problem. Sadly, I've noticed many men no longer believe in courtship. He should be asking you out on dates. I'm not talking about spending a ton of money on you. A date can be a picnic in the park, a hike, a nice drive, etc.
I hear that!!!
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 1:11 AM |
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Ocee35
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7 makes a valid point. If ya cut him off he will either leave or start working on his communication skills very fast.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 1:19 AM |
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Angel54214
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he says his walls are because his last relationship was a bad one. does that mean they will never come down?
Aren't all last relationships or marriages bad ones? thats why they ended. Human nature is to learn, heal and move forward. People continue to grow, he is not allowing himself to grow, he is not letting your grow either. He build a protective cage around his very being and he lives off of what is in that cage, that is you! You just need to ask yourself if you are happy in his cage with him.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 4:19 AM |
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walkingman
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if I can't have a decent converstation with the person then It's not someone I would pursue a relationship with.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 5:39 AM |
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beatriceistheone
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the world is filled with both genders who are not over their exs that continue to date people who are sincere when it comes to relationships. However what can you do we live in a self-absorbed world.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 6:48 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 A self-absorbed world with self-absorbed people...
hey painter, I already have many times. should I stop? would that change things?
Only you can decide that
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 8:08 AM |
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Greystone1
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Reading through the thread, I have no idea what it is that you want him to commit to, much less whether he is willing to commit to whatever that is, much less whether he is afraid to commit or just doesn't want to commit to whatever it is that you want him to commit to.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 8:54 AM |
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wvbluebaby
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as far as commitment goes...stop giving in to him..
mama always told me why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 10:45 AM |
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beachnutRU
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Sometimes I think we confuse possession with commitment. If you are willing to do anything.........which usually means compromising yourself.......you'll have to keep it up or else you will lose him. Why not be yourself and see if that works. If not please move on find you then look for something compatible. It takes time. Right now its just good sex.
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