| Feb 3, 2006 @ 10:56 AM |
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mangolover60
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I'm also with the other guy, Greystone.
What are you trying to get him to commit to?
a. Marrige? (to you specifically)
b. Not dating other women?
c. Not looking at other women?
d. Eating sushi?
e. Washing his own socks?
What? 
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 11:56 AM |
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chinabull2000
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lookahead, I would dump his ass... you are quite obviously looking for more than what he is prepared or willing to give you, and that won't change!
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 12:09 PM |
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zulamaze
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China is right---- he is not fulfilling what you want.
Dump him!
And I don't think men are afraid to commit. They are just like us, waiting to find the one they want to be committed to.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 12:11 PM |
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lj450
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Anyone have any good tips? Or good advice?
Buy a dog. 
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 12:43 PM |
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beachnutRU
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Buy a dog.
better yet save a dog go to the pound or Humane Society. 
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 3:47 PM |
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T_i_m
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Quote - painter007
dont sleep with him...believe it or not sex does not capture someone...its just a fringe benefit.
From the movie "Vanilla Sky". . .
"When you sleep with someone your body makes a promise whether you do or not."
I have often (if not always) found this to be true, which is why I now try to keep from having sex with someone too soon in a relationship no matter how right it feels at first.
Easier said than done of course.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 3:55 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I have often (if not always) found this to be true, which is why I now try to keep from having sex with someone too soon in a relationship no matter how right it feels at first.
 Good for you..I`d comment further here but I just put all my thoughts on why I think a man is afraid to commit in my blog.
Feel free to read it.  
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 5:16 PM |
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7eternity
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"When you sleep with someone your body makes a promise whether you do or not."
Tim,
That one shot through me straight like an arrow in the heart!.. Beautifully said, and in behalf of a woman, I'd say it's true, except for transexuals. Can I steal your expression and keep it in my personal diary?
'Kiie, thank ya! You xoo xweet 
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 5:34 PM |
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soultry_one
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DUMP HIM. Go out with other guys. Play the field!! U won't be sorry.
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 5:34 PM |
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sweet5red
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Yeah it would change things if you stopped giving yourself out to him like that. Either he'll dump you or he'll want to seriously talk. The truth will come out sooner or later..
yea the "booty call" thing is NOT a relationship... whats that expresion why buy the cow if the milk is free.. think about it.. sometimes old fashioned is good .. thats why i stick to my ways.. Sweet N Louisiana  
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| Feb 3, 2006 @ 7:41 PM |
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AngelLight
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Ya bein' played woman.
Unless you decide not to play, nothing will change.
Go with what you know and your instinct "......and seems to only think of me when he wants something, if you know what I mean."
Yes, we know what you mean.
The question is, do you know what you mean?
Sounds like you do!
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| Feb 4, 2006 @ 12:34 PM |
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Greystone1
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Hmmmmm...
We assume we know what she is wanting him to commit to...
We assume to know his motive(s) for not wanting to commit to it...
We act upon our assumptions by offering advice based upon them...
Even the thread title contains these assumptions...
What's wrong with this picture?
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| Feb 4, 2006 @ 12:40 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Well I don`t rightly know Grey..mighty suspicious if you ask me..and if she really likes him why does she put whatever works on her profile and why would she be on a dating site if she and looking when she already has a fella..and how does a person who is self employed make over $150,000 a year...Just my opinions..she isn`t really telling us anything at all.
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| Feb 4, 2006 @ 1:59 PM |
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father_heart
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not afraid to commit.
just not gona sttloe with one that not worth comitting to
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| Feb 4, 2006 @ 2:49 PM |
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painter007
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why would anyone settle doent make sense
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| Feb 5, 2006 @ 2:31 PM |
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edgeinsight
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sounds like he is 'mr right now' as opposed to 'mr right!!'
I would make myself very busy and 'unavailable' to him for a while and see if distance suddenly make the heart grow fonder..if he is still emotionally detached then move out of his bed, move on... and put a 'single statues' profile on this site letting guys know u are well and trully single and ready for some serious attention and good old fashioned romancing!!
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| Feb 5, 2006 @ 3:41 PM |
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Angel54214
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"edge", I totally agree with you there...
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| Feb 7, 2006 @ 7:12 AM |
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Greystone1
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Imagine that somebody dares you to do something. If you refuse, they say you are "chicken". If you then take the dare, you are a fool.
If the dare includes a long term commitment, you are worse than a fool. You are now stuck with a controlling, manipulative woman who will spend her life pushing your buttons.
If a woman told me I had a fear of commitment, I would run not walk in the opposite direction. I would sure as hell have a fear of commiting to HER.
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| Feb 11, 2006 @ 11:21 AM |
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alholzm
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The word COMMIT also means RESPONSEABILITY which I find is lacking in many people today. Committement to marriage means forever to me, not until the next love muffin should come along. I have been single for more than 5 years now and I have found that women don't want to commit to anyone. Prove me wrong I am still available!
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| Feb 11, 2006 @ 11:56 AM |
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crackerchickie
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OK, you'll need a dead cat, a gunney sack, a live chicken (white preferably), a bag of salt, lots of candles, string, a cigar (cuban or honduran), a long sharp knife, a small goblet or caldron, some strands of his hair, a picture of him (8 x 10 is fine), some garlic, a Pepsi bottle (empty), some rabbits blood and a Richard Simmons exercise video. Let me know when you have collected everything.
 Priceless!
Advice: say bye and say hi to someone interested in you, not your beddybye skills. This person doesn't know what they want, and life's too short to waste ONE minute trying to figure it out.  Take care of yourself, you deserve better. 
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