| Nov 9, 2005 @ 6:47 PM |
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Microchip
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Why do women say they are a "few extra pounds" when they are really "QUITE A FEW extra pounds"?
Why do women say they are "average" when they are OBESE?
Don't they think that we will eventually meet them?
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 6:51 PM |
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DipityDoo
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That's a men AND women thing but men tend to say "muscular" when they are neither big nor ripped.
What do you consider obest for a woman, anyway?
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 6:58 PM |
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exiled131
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"average" is a bad term. The CDC states that over 70% of the population in the U.S. is overweight- hence, they are average if they have a few extra pounds.
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 7:07 PM |
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gigi0704
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For the same reason men say they are "in shape" or average, muscular, and they are not. These terms had has different meaning to others, then they do to you. I have meet several men that say they are in shape and are at least 30 pounds plus over weight. It goes both ways.
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 7:22 PM |
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buni
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Interesting how this subject is one that gets brought up the most on these sites....
I don't think people are trying to be dishonest for the most part. It is just that since most of the population in the US is overweight people assume that is average...but...average is when you can shop in the regular size clothing at most stores, anything above that you are overweight/considered obese,and you most likely have to shop in the plus size/husky stores/sections of stores.
Oh,and if you can't shop in the 'average' size clothing and you have to shop in the kids section then most likely you are anorexic/bulimic unless you are a very small person.
I really don't think anyone really knows though....average obese too skinny too fat.....does anyone know?
I don't know..my head hurts thinking about this... 
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 7:27 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Not true. The kids sizes have gone haywire too. I can fit in kids' 16 for the most part and my son, who is 9, can take the pants size 8 off unbuttoned.
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 7:50 PM |
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summersquall
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Regardless of sizes and descriptions, there is a suitable weight based on your body mass index. If you set aside the differences between a healthy weight/body fat ratio and what society would have people believe is the right weight there is a pretty big difference.
If your heart has to work harder because of any additional weight you carry, it's unhealthy and should be addressed. If yo can't run up a set of stairs without huffing and puffing, you've got a problem.
Apart from that, you'll have the folks that have a 'few extra pounds' not seeing it as a problem and the people that are more fit seeing that it is in fact a problem.
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 8:06 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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I'm a few extra pounds myself but I can carry it pretty well for my height and body type. Most don't believe my weight when I tell em because I have big arms with muscle in em and Im thick across the back. I got called a mud wrestling wueen one night in a bar years ago over my big arms and boy did that one really ring my bell, so in fact I rang his for being so damned stupid to say it outloud  He was always sweet as chocolate after that for some odd reason.
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 9:50 PM |
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amanda22fun
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because most women think that a guy wont talk to them if they say big and beautif or if they say that they are 250 pounds.
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 10:54 PM |
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grumblebear
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at 6'5", and 350 lbs... I have never said I was average... while I'm not a tub of goom I know I'm over sized,obese... etc
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 10:55 PM |
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bluevelvet759
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Hey, i wrote "curvy" on my profile, I got alot of them, maybe not exactly in the right places, but hey I got em. Does that make it a lie, or a half truth?
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 11:19 PM |
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Pete73052
Posts: 19,368
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Here's a little help deciphering Ad Speak:
A Few Extra Pounds = Fat
Curvy = Fat
Average = Fat
Big and Beautiful = Very Fat
Stocky = Fat
Muscular = Fat but went to the gym once
Active = Fat but trying to burn it off by going to the mall
Slim / Slender = No Tits, No Ass
Great Sense of Humor = Willing to take a lot of verbal abuse
Outgoing/Good Communicator = Never stops talking
Does that help? 
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 7:24 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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For the thousands of men who don't like a woman with "extra pounds" there are thousands more that do.
Bottom line: Gotta love and accept yourself before anyone else is gonna 
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 7:28 AM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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You got that right Snappy. I've never had a problem getting dates with this few extra lbs and curves at any time. 90% of men today would rather have a woman with some biscuit on her over one that looks like a heroin addict/ethiopian poster child..
Pete I hope you were joking
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 9:32 AM |
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summersquall
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I'm sure Pete was joking.
Gotta love and accept yourself before anyone else is gonna
I fully agree! However doesn't that mean that one also should stay healthy as well?
A few extra pounds (in the truest sense of the words) is one thing, being a health risk is quite another I think.
I also don't agree with 90% of the men wanting a heroin addicted barbie doll for a partner....;)
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 10:06 AM |
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Pete73052
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Yes, I was joking - but what I was trying to say is that language in personal ads is becoming misleading. It's kinda like real-estate ads - "rustic kitchen" means run-down, "recent upgrades" means they bought a smoke detector. I give credit to our FreestyleGreek friend who says (and says, and says) he's fat and ugly. At least we know what to expect with him  . I think terms like "average" and "curvy" are sometimes used in a deceitful way.
Pete (average)
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 12:23 PM |
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altogirl67
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I don't think that most of it necessarily misleading but rather subjective. My opinion of average, a few extra pounds, curvy, etc. may be different from another person's view but that doesn't mean that either of us are wrong. If you want a woman that weighs about the same as a loaf of bread, then just say that in your ad. If that woman views herself as needing to lose a few pounds then she won't answer your email. Simple as that. I don't really see the importance but whatever. My only thing with weight as far as a date is that I like to ride my bike and go hiking and I don't really want someone who can't keep up. Plus, if guy is really overweight he may not live a long life. I'm looking for a mate for life. Call me crazy but that's what I want and I want him to live at least as long as I do. My profile says I'm curvy and ya know what? I AM!!!! I think sportin' 38DDs qualifies me for that category and while I do weigh more than a loaf of bread, I guarantee I could outhike and outbike most of you guys who want a tiny fragile woman. Oh, and I can move a refrigerater by myself! It's your choice and your freedom to go after whomever you want but let's not be hateful and basically call all of us liars who put curvy or a few extra pounds on our profiles. About the only other option we have, if we're not slender or muscular is big and beautiful. To me, that's bigger than I am and I refuse to put that on my profile. If I WAS big and beautiful then that's exactly what I WOULD put. Geez... getting tired of these types of threads. 
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 1:01 PM |
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jojo12_16
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I am a few extra pounds, at least I think I am. Some might consider me fat, or obese (by gov't standards my bf is obese at 6'2 and 190# and he is skinny!) It's all personal tastes anyway, if you don't like fat chicks, don't talk to someone who is "a few extra pounds". All men are different and like different things. My bf says, I'm curvy and soft like a woman should be, I think I'm fat! LOL If you want a thin woman then that's what ya look for right?
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 3:28 PM |
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freestylegreek
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Do I look like a few extra pounds? I say average cause Im not a "balloon".
Ive met girls that have said yes im average or "medium" weight. Well I meet them and there huuuuuuuuuuuuuge im not saying average or medium but huge. I say what was that pic you should me there like oh that was take a few years ago.
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 4:24 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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Summer.. without offering excuses..sometimes, our weight is out of our control for a while. as in my case. There were reasons. And I am a very active woman. My job with special education kids keeps me busy and I also walk daily, changed my eating habits and am working on being healthy.
I started with the mind with meditation and am focused and aware of where I am going, because to me, if the mind isn't healhty, the rest won't be either.
I agree that being healthy is important, and if a person has self acceptance it doesn't automatically mean they let themselves go to pot.. they change the things they can and learn to live with the ones they can't.
Good point Summer 
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