| Feb 6, 2006 @ 2:36 PM |
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zoomzoom511
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So...
After what seemed like 2 great dates, the 3rd was unexpectedly cancelled. She said it was moving too fast...
Do I detect a blow off?
I told her that based on this... she would have to make the next move.
Right?
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 2:39 PM |
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Kat_luvr
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Sorry to hear. 
You Are correct........give her space.
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 2:40 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I told her that based on this... she would have to make the next move.
 I agree with Kat..give her some space..
perhaps you were moving too fast for her. 
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 2:42 PM |
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TigerEyes71
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I agree as well.
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 2:42 PM |
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Virtuosa4
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Yup...if you still would like to see her just let her keep the ball in her court. If she does nothing with it then phooey on her! 
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 2:47 PM |
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MD1983
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I agree just give her space and time she will come around. 
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 3:38 PM |
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zoomzoom511
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what about sending her an email in about a week saying...
Thanks... it was fun.
????
Anything there? Or is it still her move?
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 3:44 PM |
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MrMikey
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Personally, I'd just let it go...but if you're really keen...send the email.
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 3:48 PM |
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zulamaze
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I have found that when you ignore someone -- it makes
them want you more.
You ever hear the phrase....
"treat'em like s*** and they will love you forever"!
With some people this would apply --- not all.
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 3:48 PM |
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sjpinatl
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I have done this to men before. It is when I think the guys are ok, and I'm moving along...But then, getting ready for the third date I only like them as a friend. And the third date does not mean sex necessarily, but it usually means a good smooch at the very least. If I'm like "ick" I think it means time to cancel.
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 3:48 PM |
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sfav
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Well then.. why in the heck didn't she just say to you "Hey, this is going a little fast, so why don't we just slow it down a bit?" Last I recall, this was called HONESTY. Give her space? I say give er all she wants. Go on with what you were doing. All women will naturally say "Give her space". Life is too short to put up with games.
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 3:55 PM |
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father_heart
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Dont know bro, sounds like a blow off,
if she was serious about continuing seeing ya wont she have told you on the date?
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 3:57 PM |
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father_heart
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treat me like crap and ill staind ya
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 4:09 PM |
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zoomzoom511
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jeez... more facts?
well the 2nd date was chock full of kissing, so that didn't seem like a prob.
she claims she still wants to do this, but it was going kind of quickly, and there was a whole lot of "dating energy" in her life right now. I said "what's that?"
She said there was no one else... and that she just needed to breathe a bit.
That is when I said... i understood, but in that case, she'd have to make the next connection....
guess i should blow it off, now that i read this all back. maybe a "it was fun" email in a week or so... just to close out the "transaction" or to stoke a low-energy fire.
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 4:13 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Zoom,
Could this be something along the line of a thread we'd had earlier about sex on the third date, where men seem to expect that's what's going to happen? And I'm asking, not anything else. Believe it or not, just the fact that we all have all X chromosomes doesn't make it any more likely that I'll understand where she's coming from than you would...especially since you know her and I don't. Just wondering if she's leery of being expected to get into a physical relationship when she's not sure that's what she wants, or at least not yet. Or worse yet, already be in a physical relationship and she's leery about being more involved emotionally than she feels you might be.
Oops, just read the more facts post. Yeah, the 'dating energy in her life' thing sounds like there might not be another guy, yet, but might be one she wouldn't mind having in her life. I think your idea of an email after a week or so would be your best move. She might just need a timeout for a reality check.
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 4:19 PM |
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father_heart
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i never knew that? we do? well they do?
by the third date?
it usually ends up the next date after its brought up. since i didnt expect and i dont carry a condum, ( kind of along the lines of ladies and wearing old panties on the date )
i dont recall if it was third or forth
yet you could be right, funny ya learn something every day
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 4:25 PM |
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zoomzoom511
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yeah... good call.
i think i can wait it out... and enjoy recoil if and when it occurs.
tg for fbuddies.
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 4:29 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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i think i can wait it out... and enjoy recoil if and when it occurs.
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 4:57 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Second date and it was mostly making out? Sounds to me as though she may have thought you were more focused on sex than getting to know her as a person.
Even if she reciprocated, I'm assuming there was an attraction, but she may have had second thoughts later. In the heat of the moment, some things can get carried away.
If it were me, I would also want to step back. I would also be concerned that the third date would be more sexually intense. She may not want to have to deal with that.
Also, I wouldn't want the guy I had gone out with coming to the forums and discussing such things about me. It's one thing to ask for an opinion, but it is another to get too detailed. Kissing and telling isn't such a good thing.
I wouldn't send her that email, unless you care to apologize for possibly moving too fast. If you like her, tell her. What have you got to lose?
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 5:01 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Good advice Classy!
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