| Feb 8, 2006 @ 11:38 PM |
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bigboy37042
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Okay. Here's my problem. I've been seeing this girl for a couple months now. Met her on here actually. Things seem like they are going good. When we talk, she acts like she's falling for me. Has told some of her friends that I'm the best lover she's had. They asked me if it was true. Only reason I found out. But, out of curiousity, I looked at her profile on here. She's changed her profile recently. And she's still actively checking it out. Am I just being paranoid? Help me out here.
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 11:40 PM |
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exiled131
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she may just have friends that she still chats with. don't read too much into it...but don't ever dismiss anything either.
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 11:53 PM |
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the_real_me_ok
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Hmmm, your profile doesn't say anything about being in a relationship though. So what do you want her profile to say? Also if you're posting here in forums and if you are checking out her profile, you are also still coming into the site....so why question her for doing exactly the same as what you are doing? That is hardly fair. 
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 1:59 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Let me see. You've only been seeing one another for a matter of weeks. You've already had sex. Hmmmmm.
I had someone tell me I was the best lover he had ever had, but he wasn't in love with me. That statement doesn't necessarily mean much beyond physical involvement.
Neither of you have a commitment to one another. You still have YOUR profile here. Are you still keeping your options open? It looks as though she is. I probably would too, if a monogamous relationship had not yet been established.
You talk to her friends, so why can't you talk to her? You men really need to learn how to communicate your feelings more. Ask HER.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 2:42 AM |
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real_women4_realman
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Hey , I just wondering, did either of you say that you where exclusive or that it wasn't anything more than what it is . I am not trying to put a damper on how you feel about her or the realationship that you have had so far. Have you tried talking to her about how you feel, and where you want this to go. I think that if you are feeling uncomfortable about how things are going that she is the first one that you should talk to. We can all give you all the advice that you might or might not want to hear , but she is after all the one that you might have a future with. I urge you to talk to her, and don't do like i have and asume that you know how she is feeling about things. I can tell you from experience what happens , well I went on a solo holiday by myself to a far off and beautiful land with the man now who I know truly still loves me and did then. I presumed to know how he felt and what he wanted and well the end result was that I lost the love of my life. He is still in my life but now has a baby with someone that he didn';t want to have a baby with , and still loves me dearly and I have to live with that everyday. So talk to her first, then come and run it buy us all ,were here for you. Good luck
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 3:30 AM |
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Always_Striving
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Get her to fall MAAAAADLY in love with you then she'll revise her profile like the rest of them usually do, now saying: she's taken or now has a hubby and is here only for the chat & friends......look for the Patterns to solve this puzzle.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 9:07 AM |
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exiled131
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let me add this to my previous statement: don't get heavily involved with her until the profiles are down(yours and hers) and if this is a long distance thing- stop. go no further.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 9:12 AM |
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father_heart
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she may just have friends that she still chats with. don't read too much into it...but don't ever dismiss anything either.
very smerts....
here a thought talk to her. we cant truely fix this for ya. But she can. One way or another.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 9:37 AM |
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MarysPlace
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Has told some of her friends that I'm the best lover she's had. They asked me if it was true. Only reason I found out.
I can't freakin' believe what I'm reading here...
You people talk way too much.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 9:39 AM |
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father_heart
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I can't freakin' believe what I'm reading here...
99.95% of time
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 9:48 AM |
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MarysPlace
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Hey, sure beats Dear Abby. :)
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 10:06 AM |
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bigboy37042
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Thanks for the advice guys. I'm not being critical of her for coming on here. I know she likes to read the forums. So I knew she would still be coming on here. And I'm not a jealous person. I just didn't want her to think wrong of it when I did talk to her about it. Makes me look like the jealous boyfriend. And that's not it at all.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 10:09 AM |
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MarysPlace
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You know she reads the forums so you post a Q about her...?
I wouldn't call that the smartest thing to do.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 10:12 AM |
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2Biatchy4U
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Me either and I guess his question totally went over my head cuz I dont quite understand what the ? is. I thought he just wanted everyone to know/think he was a good lover.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 10:27 AM |
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MarysPlace
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I thought he just wanted everyone to know/think he was a good lover.
Should we form a line here or down the street? ;)
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 10:38 AM |
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spongebob777
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Should we form a line here or down the street? ;)
Aww what the hell, it's free, count me in. 
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 10:39 AM |
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Pete73052
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I can just see the dating of the future - Two lovers having that after first sex cigarette "I guess that means we have to take our profiles down now."
(Damn... somehow I ended up behind Bob on this one) 
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 10:44 AM |
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MarysPlace
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I can just see the dating of the future - Two lovers having that after first sex cigarette "I guess that means we have to take our profiles down now."
Goddammit, Pete, you make me wish that I were an 18 yo in a thong!
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 10:48 AM |
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bigboy37042
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Yea. I didn't quite think about her stumbling onto my question. But oh well. Too late now. As far as the lover part, I was just trying to give as much detail as possible to explain the situation. Sex isn't that big of a deal to me, so I'm not trying to get a line formed outside my door.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 10:49 AM |
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MarysPlace
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so I'm not trying to get a line formed outside my door.
Too late. You already have Bob and Pete a-knockin'...
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