| Feb 20, 2006 @ 12:15 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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How do men react to powerful women? Do they become initimidated by them if so why? Do they feel they have to dominate them and why is that? I guess what I really want to know is this. Why is it so hard for some women to find a man who won't either run from you or try to run over you when you are a confident, self-assured, powerful woman?
(The powerful I am referring to is the power to deal with what life brings, to be able to overcome obstacles and deal with problems with grace and style. Someone who does not crumble under pressure.) 
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 12:31 PM |
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MarysPlace
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to be able to overcome obstacles and deal with problems with grace and style
Problem is that those who are TRULY able to do that, gracefully resent being called "powerful".
And that is something that the less fortunate never seem to grasp.
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 12:37 PM |
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MuskogeeBill
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Ok Mary ya got me confused, are you insulting Tink or men?
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 12:44 PM |
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MarysPlace
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I'm not insulting anyone.
I just find all that talk about some imaginary "power" to be utterly ridiculous.
I think it came from one or the other self-help books, designed for people who need something, anything to feel better about themselves and validate what they perceive to be their failures.
So if nobody wants to date me I must be so goddamn powerful they all run for the woods.
Gimme a big fat break.
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 12:55 PM |
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father_heart
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hmm, how do they react. they, men react.
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theres two reactions i have, Yes or No, to any given situation. over dominating anything, is a no. they have no self control. We are all equally powerful. not one more so over the other.
When you do have that moment where you are shining from over coming a difficulty. I CLAP CLAP for you. Look at that style, look at that grace, clap clap
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 12:55 PM |
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torees121
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I do believe there is a reality called a "powerful woman". There are men that fall into the White Knight Syndrome class. They only want women that are weak, or that need to be saved by them.
I have had several men talk about how they feel intimidated by a powerful woman because it makes them feel like they aren't needed. An independent woman is a powerful woman. She does not NEED a man to make her whole.
The only men that would run for the woods are the weak ones who have their own self-esteem issues. They can keep on running.
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 12:58 PM |
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MarysPlace
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The only men that would run for the woods are the weak ones who have their own self-esteem issues. They can keep on running.
I think you misunderstood what I said there...
It wasn't about men running for the woods in intimidation... It was about women thinking they are. While in fact they are running from something entirely different.
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 1:00 PM |
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torees121
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Gotcha Mary 
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 1:00 PM |
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father_heart
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yet what of the true white knight not seeking a damsel in distres, only that of a Queen?
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 1:11 PM |
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MuskogeeBill
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Ah ok i see what you are saying. I have been divorced for over 20 years and in that time I have dated doctors,lawyers and, yep, 1 indian chief. All were very "Powerful" women. I found it amusing that my co-workers thought me not "up" to them and I found them to be less fortunate in their thinking. Too big egos and too small a brain. Well educated no doubt but, as for as reasoniing ability, far from smart.
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 1:16 PM |
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13lucky
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Well if their ego doesn't get in the way no problem... But..No means no :P
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 1:19 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Hmmm... I never understood the corelation between education and "power". Or a good job and "power". If a lawyer or a doctor are "powerful" women, as an architect, I gotta be at least "semi-powerful" (judging by the money and length of school scale). Yippee.
Feminist self help books, I tell ya. The only reason for burning the bra that I can imagine is going lingerie shopping. Or having the gorgeous FDNY guys show at my door.
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 1:37 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 I`m not at all Powerful myself..I just read an artical (not self-help book)about this topic somewhere and thought it would be an interesting topic for discussion..but perhaps I should have found something about the topic of Love.. 
We do need more Love threads.. 
I suppose this topic would have gotten the same reaction if it was titled Is It A Female Thing?
It wasn't about men running for the woods in intimidation... It was about women thinking they are. While in fact they are running from something entirely different.
And I agree with you..
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 1:59 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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Time and time again I see the words (why do men or why do women) The reality is inferiority complexes as well as self esteem issues are not solely the birthright of men. There are women who suffer from those very same issues. But being the strong woman or the strong man that (we) are, the ultimate decision is yours. Whether you choose to incarcerate yourself by getting involved with someone who is plagued with these issues. Love is a very powerful and pure emotion for which we cannot let override our ability to think beyond the whimsical dreams of happily ever after. Knowing who and what you are is the key to being happy. Then again happiness is not something we can find in another. We have to be happy with ourselves meaning who and what we are. happiness cannot be found in others, they can only enhance the happiness that we already have.
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 2:11 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Very well said Silver..
 and I`ll leave it at that since I have to admit that I am not at all happy with myself..but at least I have the guts to admit it and not hide behide a mask. 
wonder how my Cannalbalism topic would go.. 
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 2:14 PM |
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BrokeLostUnhappyandHorny
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Power no power, man woman, who's got the power. It's a bunch of BS.
Silver has the answer. Without a doubt.
It has nothing to do with your gold Rolls Royce but rather about
your level of confidence and self worth.
That's pretty much the end of the story.
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 2:20 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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It has nothing to do with your gold Rolls Royce but rather about
your level of confidence and self worth.
I`m taking a course in that right now...
I may eventually get the hang of it too.. 
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 2:27 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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Once you get it, make sure you tell me the secret !
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 2:30 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Once you get it, make sure you tell me the secret !
Well..isn`t that something one needs to learn on their own?
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 2:32 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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Not neccessarily ! ((((((As silver tips out the room)))))
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