| Feb 23, 2006 @ 11:49 PM |
A good start.
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sjpinatl
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What is a good, above average, start to an online-hopefully-to-in-person thing? Some guy just wrote me and said "I'd like to take you to dinner sometime." That is a good darn start to me! I'll suggest coffee because it is safer and will want to talk to him on the phone first, but this is better than some guy writing that he is "interested" or saying something sleazy, or saying something insecure, or acting flippant or a local guy asking me to IM like 99% of the first comunications are...
I am kinda lukewarm about his profile and it is not very descriptive, but I gotta give the guy some points. 
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| Feb 23, 2006 @ 11:56 PM |
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Angel54214
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good for you "sjp", you know something? The way I look at it on profiles, in most cases that is. It's not set in stone on what people write. When upon joining a date site and in writing out the profile, how many of us really look at ourselves and determine a self judgement on a regular basis? So if we are comfortable and like his profile on the basics and the respectfulness given, he could turn out to be one fantastic guy! I wish you the best on your journey
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 12:03 AM |
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sjpinatl
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Thanks, oh, and another guy just wrote me and asked about my work. Another good start, acting genuinely interested in me, not just my pics.
When I was a still photographer for years, men would not ask me about my images. I always thought I'd fall for the guy who would ask me about my work. A lot of them would never ask to see my stuff (which was pretty darn good) and would make me sit through seeing all their favorite amateur crap from vacations and photography 101 classes  . Time I will never get back.
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 12:06 AM |
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the_real_me_ok
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It is indeed a good start....different than most I've received that's for sure. I agree on the coffee thing, it's easier than dinner. As for the profile, I agree with Angel. I have struggled with writing my own profile so many times, I know it doesn't truly depict all of "me"...but not everyone is good with words, and it's just an outline of sorts, a brief description. Unless there's something really specific that stands out about him, I'd say go for it, and have a good time. Let us know how it goes!! 
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 7:41 AM |
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Kat_luvr
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If I was Approached With an offer for dinner? A Whole lot better then, "hey baby....Would love to rock your world"..... or some other sleazy comment.
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 12:36 PM |
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shellygirl5
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i agree... dinner is much better than a sexual "wanna chat" sounding thing... i agree with you on coffee though, you can always go to dinner after coffee if you like eachother, and if he turns out to be a loser you can ditch him faster over coffee :)
dinner you are stuck at for at least an hour if you are lucky...
good luck let us know how it goes
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 12:52 PM |
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13lucky
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Coffee is good...and take a friend .. Even Filipina Girls bring a cousin with them the first time..
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 11:11 PM |
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sjpinatl
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He gave me his number, but, oh, hell, I have cold feet. I'm not into his profile. I hate it when women are tempramental, especially when it is me! 
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| Feb 25, 2006 @ 9:42 AM |
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walkingman
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I am a firm believer in talking by phone.It is not easy for everyone to post a good profile. There is just so much more you can get from talking to someone on the phone.If there are thing's in his profile that concern you then just come out and ask him. If saftey is an issue then do that thing where he can't read what your phone number is or call on a pay phone. I feel you can cover more in 15 minute's on a phone than talking for hour's on a messenger. I guess I am just more straight and really love to talk on the phone. It give's you the missing element of emotion and can tell you so much . I can call somone and they can hear my daughter's say "Dad I need you" and it tell's them alot. I know I may be a bit naive and want to believe we are all honest. I have never had a problem with anyone I have talked on the phone to. I just see no downside to talking on the phone. I may be a bit biased as I just love to talk on the phone .Good luck
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| Feb 25, 2006 @ 10:34 AM |
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LSU79
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I like to IM with a webcam with someone I just met, but it's hard to get past the bad connotations that has.But that way there are less surprises when you do meet.
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| Feb 25, 2006 @ 11:03 AM |
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crackerchickie
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I'm not so much into the dinner thing. If I were ever to meet a person (not likely, as I'm a pain in the ass) I would rather do it over coffee. That way, it can be as long or short as you like. Also, I pay my own way always, and I can't stand being stuck with a bore, and a huge bill.
If someone wanted to impress me, they should say something like, "Would you like to volunteer with me to feed the homeless down at (this) shelter on (this) holiday?" That I would definitely notice.
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| Feb 26, 2006 @ 1:52 PM |
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7eternity
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A good start doesn't really matter to me. When you first meet or encounter someone, they act polite, nice and stuff. It's kinda artificial, and the downhill is ahead. I'm not trying to be pessimist or negative, but disappointment is tough to avoid, and I just had it. The end, however, is what makes everything count, if there is any.
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| Feb 26, 2006 @ 1:54 PM |
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Thunderscribe
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Yes, starts and beginnings can often be false.
Reserve judgment and stay open-minded.
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