| Feb 24, 2006 @ 10:36 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I dated the same guy for three years. We've been through so much together. Recently he started complaining of feeling numb, emotionless, and not knowing who he is, and he said he needed time to find that out, so we needed to break up. he promised to come back to me when he's figured everything out, but i'm not sure what this all means.
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 10:42 AM |
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Greystone1
Posts: 1,677
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It means it's over.
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 10:46 AM |
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beachnutRU
Posts: 3,228
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either that or a stroke? You are young according to your profile. 3 years would have made you very young. Too young for forever and ever stuff. Move on its not the kiss of death.
[Edited on 2/24/2006 10:50 AM]
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 10:48 AM |
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Angel54214
Posts: 18,199
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Don't we just love being the puppet to a puppet master?
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 10:55 AM |
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Greystone1
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Too young for forever and ever stuff. Move on its not the kiss of death.
Exactly so. It's over like that last great party you went to; Just a happy memory. Time to go out and find that next great party.
Don't worry... be happy... have fun. 
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 11:30 AM |
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Kat_luvr
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Well if he was Older I would have thought Depression, or Just the cross roads of life, but as it has been pointed out......way to young....Sounds like he needs to sow his wild oats....Time to move on, Step up, NEXT!
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 11:40 AM |
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Pete73052
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If you're here, I guess you've already decided to move on. If I were you, I'd get a little help with my profile. We have a thread for that with experts who will help you fine-tune it. I forgot what the thread is called... sorry.
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 11:48 AM |
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Greystone1
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I disagree, Pete. She should leave her profile just the way it is in order to attract the wuss she is looking for... oops, I mean in order to attract the right person for her.
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 12:10 PM |
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exiled131
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well, five things can come from this:
1- he's just now realizing that he is gay
2- he is going into the woods to live like a hermit in a small cabin
3- it is over and he wants to move on
4- he'll come back and propose to you
5- he met someone else
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 12:20 PM |
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shellygirl5
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i am sorry about your situation, even at your age three years is still a long time, i know it hurts
who knows what his problem is, could be he needs some time to discover who he really is and what he really wants, could be he did meet someone else, could be he just needs his freedom for a while, either way you need to make sure you are ready and healed from that relationship before you move on to something new.
i know it's hard to be alone all of a sudden after being with someone for so long, but remember if you want to start a solid relationship with someone else you need to be happy and comfortable with your self first
once you are at that point you will be ready to find someone else even more great for you, someone else who you can connect even more with,
i wish you all the best, and don't change your profile, you wrote it from the heart about you! screw what anyone else thinks about it, if they don't like you than they don't have to write you!!
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 12:56 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I don't usually say anything about a persons profile. Being that this person is so young,,,yes, I have kids a little older, they are boys too.
I know alot of young girls this age and don't want to see some take advantage of her. Their are so many "scary" people out here. Ya,,I am a mom first,,,,,"thumping LipGlossQueen on the head",
This is being said in a kind manner and a worried mother/woman, trying to help the young ladies. 
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 1:08 PM |
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Greystone1
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You ARE looking for a wuss, and there's nothing wrong with that. As you said, everyone likes different things. That's why I almost never recommend changing the basic nature of a profile.
Safety is another thing. Be safe. I wish you luck in finding the right wuss for you. 
[Edited on 2/24/2006 1:14 PM]
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 1:23 PM |
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MotownManiax
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 Sheesh, Queen....I just read your profile -- 18 yrs-old???
I know you hear it all the time, but you have no idea what a relationship "really" is. It's certainly not the high school stuff you've experienced.
I know it hurts but, believe me, you will get over this, look back in a few years, and say "Why the h*ll did I put myself through all that crap???".
It's part of growing up. 
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 1:34 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Very true Mo,,,,but the pain is still there for her.
I take it that this is/was a high school sweetheart too. Some one who shared the dances, the young tears that these young people had or still have.
It seems like yesterday when my youngest son "broke" a young girls heart, she laid her head on my shoulder and just sobbed. I held her until the tears stopped and helped her wipe them off.
She has since, went on to college and became a wonderful loving nurse. Oh,,,,yes, how I wish he would have kept that one!!!!!
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 1:38 PM |
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wandaful123
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but the pain is still there for her.
So true katt. Emotions are real regardless of the age and sometimes we forget how much our young'uns are feeling and how intensely they feel things. I do agree looking back they tend to minimize but for now they are real. A day at a time LipGloss, focus on yourself and what makes you smile.
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 1:47 PM |
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the_real_me_ok
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Last time a guy told me he wasn't sure what he wanted, he was numb, blah blah blah....the next thing I knew we were filing divorce papers. However everyone is different, maybe he just needs space, but don't count on it. Do what feels right for you. It isn't fair of anyone to ask that you sit around and wait for them to make up their mind. I hate to bring up the age factor, but you do have a lot of years ahead of you, so don't waste them waiting on someone who isn't sure of himself. Be happy 
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 1:48 PM |
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MotownManiax
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 Totally agree, katt and wanda. If anything, we hurt more when we're younger because we haven't gotten jaded and de-sensitized by years of bad experiences.
But again, we're talking about Queen's present predicament, and this guy is not coming back (even if there's a chance, I don't think she should submerge her relationship life for months/years in the "hope" he'll return...get on with things).
Time heals all wounds.
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 2:31 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Yes, she should look to the future,,it is wode open for her.
Oh the things and places you have yet to do and see our young friend!!!!!!
You will always remember this love you shared, LipGlossQueen, put it in a box and pull it back out in a couple of years, and smile,,,
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 3:35 PM |
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zulamaze
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he said he needed time to find that out, so we needed to break up. he promised to come back to me when he's figured everything out, but i'm not sure what this all means.
Queen -- he just let you down gently.
You are way too young to settle down right now anyway.
Enjoy your young years.... while you have them.
Good luck to you.
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| Feb 25, 2006 @ 8:04 PM |
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7eternity
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I'm with Zula and everybody else, (except Exiled) on this one. Lip, I faced that corner not so long ago. I have no doubt you will understand that you must move on even if you don't want to.
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