| Feb 28, 2006 @ 1:40 PM |
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sweet5red
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is it wrong to want to fall head over heels in love.. to feel that teenage hearts fluttering kinda feeling even if you are over 40 ( in my case i am 50 but told i look younger) Is anyone looking for that kinda love.. where you look into that persons eyes and it takes your breath for a heart beat.. so where are you.. find me... can your kiss make me tingle to my toes.. Sweet N Louisiana
so do yall think its wrong that i want this?? give me feedback
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 1:42 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Its never wrong to fall in Love,or to seek what you are looking for..its so Romantic 
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 1:45 PM |
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Lee_Danger
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Wrong??? Heck no!!!!!!!!
And... age is only a number of years your body has been on earth.
Nothing wrong at all with what your desiring, Sweet, nothing at all 
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 1:56 PM |
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mailorderannie
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It what every single one of us is looking for, even the ones who won't admit it.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 2:08 PM |
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arn_arn
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@sweet5, the problem with this" head over heels" kind of love is that it does in now way imply this person is someone for you, someone who is compatible with you, someone who is able to love, wants a relationship or can be in a healthy one.
The feelings we get of lust and physical attraction are there so we ca connect with someone but it cannot build or maintain a relationship. There are many who feel this "head over heels" feeling is love and think they must feel this way throughout the relationship.
The intital aspects of attraction and the honeymon phase are only temporary. Those things are of attraction but NOT INTENDED TO BE at the same intensity through the duration of a relationship.
Many go person to person seeking the "high" thinking its love and the feeling ( the high) means they are in love. These people are dangerous bets to put your heart into... as when
the feeling and "high" of it start to wane, they are gone.
If people do not take the time to build the attraction they feel for one another into a solid relationship and most people don't... its only a matter of time, usually a short time ebfore they are off seeking a new person to make them "feel"
the love, to be "head over heels"...
Those people are addicted to the rush of hormones from that physical attraction... sometimes too jaded or emtionally empty to do the work to build a solid foundation.
So, choose well if your going to go that route...
often these people have had many sexual partners, are jaded, emtionally empty, sometimes bitter behind that allure of physical chemistry... high rate of STD's out there too that you will expse yourself to in sexual activity with them.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 2:13 PM |
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SunBabe
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It's not at ALL wrong to want it, Sweet, but I'm not sure that it happens all that often by directly looking for it. It's something that just "happens" (but the more people you do meet, the more likely "just happens" could happen....um, if you know what I mean ~grin~)
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 2:19 PM |
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sweet5red
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yes sunbabe i understand what you mean... the whole single and dating thing gets old after while.. 7 years divorced is a long time to me.. but i refuse to settle... sweet N Louisiana
 
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 2:25 PM |
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arn_arn
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You know that head over heels feeling?
lol
When you feel that way about your life, waking up each day and all the wonder of life around you.... so deeply appriciate it.... you are in "love" are you not?
lol
I would rather base my love on things like that. than a man.....
not that my door is closed but I sure don't go looking. If it came to me one day... I would be open to the possibility, after to getting to know if that person is a good match for me.....
otherwise with age comes some wisdom, better ability to control ones impulses.....
which is maybe a good thing or we would be doing some real silly things as older people.
;)
When your ready for something real and not just the illusion of it... not only will it come, you will be better able to see and enjoy it. It will be something of value, not a fleeting feeling that will die in time and based upon someones affection, attraction and estimation of your value to them.
Your love of self and self respect is something people cannot take from you.. unless you let them.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 6:27 PM |
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walkingman
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Abosolutely it is not wrong. I can't really say I have ever been head over heal's in love. It is a feeling that I look forward to . I think as we get older we become wiser. We have a clear idea of exactly the type of person we are looking for. We learn from all of our past experience's. I dream of meeting that lady that I can see just from looking into her eye's that we want the same thing's. There is no negative for being picky. If you you settle for someone that you don't really want then you will just be un happier.Why not just wait and be happy in the mean time. Life is to short to waste being un happy. I believe with all my heart that one day I will fall in love and we will grow old together. I hope we all share that belief.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 8:53 PM |
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the_real_me_ok
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No it's not wrong....but a lot of those feelings are borne of innocence....and youth, being naive. When you are older and have already been in love, gotten your heart broken a time or two....it's only natural for your heart, soul, mind...to be reluctant and to have walls, maybe to never allow you to feel those butterflies again. Wrong, no. Possible? I wonder.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 10:31 PM |
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altogirl67
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Of course it's not wrong! That's exactly what I'm looking for!!!!
[Edited on 2/28/2006 10:39 PM]
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 10:35 PM |
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Loreli
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no it isn't wrong. Nobody should ever settle for less than what makes our heart happy.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 10:41 PM |
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SwaggerNStrut
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There's wrong, then there's WRONG, then there's this! Falling in love at ANY age is wrong! Just kidding. I thought I'd be the only dissenter here. 
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 10:45 PM |
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SunBabe
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a lot of those feelings are borne of innocence
And conversely, a lot of those feelings can be enjoyed far more intensly (and more permanently) through wisdom, maturity and experience...
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 12:49 AM |
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DestinyAngel49
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NO! It's definately not wrong!
I think that most of us would love to be able to feel that
'Hearts Fluttering' and 'Butterflies' feeling again.
I know I would
Sweet.. I hope you find it
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 12:11 PM |
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rosebowl
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I agree with you that age is only a number. I am 28 and I have age preference of 18-50 in woman I would date.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 12:56 PM |
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SylvanDreams
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No, it's definitely not wrong to want to fall head over heels in love, regardless of age. Settling for less than what you really want would be wrong.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 2:02 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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i'm only 18, but i don't think it's wrong. dan and i are on a hiatus right now, but we've been together for three years...i remember when the honeymoon phase ended. we had been together for about five months and suddenly i just stopped feeling so obsessed, so needy. it really, really scared me at first, i was afraid i didn't want to be with him anymore, but as we went on i figured out that i still did want to be with him it was just that the whole honeymoon thing was over, and that's ok.
i know i probably wasn't any help.  sorry.
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