| Feb 28, 2006 @ 6:59 PM |
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arn_arn
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How do you go about getting to know someone you have met from the internet?
do you google em?
do a background check?
go by and believe what they say?
what has worked for you and had a good result?
(please only respond about people you met through the internet)
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 7:08 PM |
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exiled131
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i tend to talk to them and find out about them by the way they act. i have only met a few and only one really gave me any
sh!t. i would never do a background check. that is a complete invasion of privacy for dating. the only people that should do background checks are potential employers and the policing agencies.
googling is a waste since most people have nothing against them on the internet. it might help avoid a convicted child molester or murderer, but not much else.
time and paying attention work best.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 7:08 PM |
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Thunderscribe
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I don't.
I'm here for the forums.
I prefer dating people that I've met in real-life.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 7:14 PM |
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arn_arn
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@ex, dont be so sure googling someones screen name is so worthless. I once met someone who when I goggled the screen name, found out he had lied about his occupation.
I found out by what came up in the results, he was in reality a well known gay porn writer, not what he had originally told me.
It seems he had some other things he was hiding from me too besides his occupation, being his sexual orientation.
I found the stuff, asked him about it and it heped me make the choice if I wanted to continue seeing him. Since he could not deny it...lol.... I was able to walk away before getting any bad surprises or diseases. 
so, googling has worked for me.
I have found it valuable. saved me from some bad surprises and I cannot be with a bisexual man... although it was sad.... as he was very good looking.
oh well.
[Edited on 2/28/2006 7:17 PM]
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 7:15 PM |
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jazzy73703
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Strategy? NOW I'm suppose to have a strategy? geez....If I'm attracted to them, they are within the age and "other" requirements that I want AND live a reasonable distance...hey, we're a go ! Of course getting him to like me is usually another story...I usually don't get far enough along to worry about a background check...
Jazzy
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 7:18 PM |
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exiled131
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as long as someone doesn't use slash-and-burn or divide-and-conquer as strategies, all is well.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 7:26 PM |
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sissycat411
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Its really funny, the things one can find from googling....I was getting really serious with one gentleman, had met him several times in person.......then as an after thought, because some things begain to bother me.......I googled his full name and his profile name.......
was I surprised to find..listing of cards he had sent to other women ( we all have the right to maintain friendships with those we have met on the internet, men or women)....during the time...he was telling me I was the only woman he was having contact with....not really......was I surprised to read the content of those cards....saying basicly the same words he was saying to me....you bet you
googling can be a real eye opener...and its there in black and white.......one just can not lie...when confronted with written proof.......
As an after thought also....is everyone aware...that our profiles here on matchdoc, are found also by googling......and also the forum topic threads......can be found.....so remember what you type here, what you show of your personality.....can be seen world wide.......
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 7:32 PM |
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arn_arn
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I had googled someone else once, using his full legal name
(not his screen name).
It seems an attorney has using his two DUI cases for advertisment.
Apparently the sweet fella had a drinking problem at least at one time. I decided that possibly he had stopped drinking or at least stopped drinking and driving as nobody can be some dumb to go to prison for a felony for something like this.... right?
( 3 dui's is a felony )
He had already served time for the second dui, so I figured maybe all that was behind him.
So I went to meet him after chatting for some time online and the phone.
When we got to the resturant, he started to drink and heavily.
He did not know I knew of his past.
I asked him if he was driving, he said yes.
So I ate dinner while I watched him get plowed drunk.... and decided to never see him again.
Google can work !
[Edited on 2/28/2006 8:54 PM]
[Edited on 2/28/2006 8:54 PM]
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 8:20 PM |
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LSU79
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Never thought of googling a screen name before, but it works.
But as far as strategy goes, I figure if a woman is willing to take a chance and meet me, I'm way ahead of the game.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 8:25 PM |
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UnconventionalCreativity
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Dating strategy?
*Scratches head dumbly*
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 8:52 PM |
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kattsmeow
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First you have to have the right bait,,,,then some strong string to reel them in!!!!!!!!!!! 
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 8:55 PM |
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arn_arn
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well "first" of all is to decide what you want to fish for....
and if them sucker fish and old tires get caught on your
line, have to have a big knife to cut em loose before they try to jump in the boat and go home with you !
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 8:58 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Na, just unhook them and throw them back in!!!!!!!!!
Catch and release is what I call it!!!
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 8:58 PM |
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Magickman
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My strategy is disguise, an assumed identity, a fake passport, and a fast getaway car. And bribing the border guards.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 9:59 PM |
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Pete73052
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I fish with dynamite. Whatever floats to the top is mine.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 10:37 PM |
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Angel54214
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Wow what a Chum!
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 4:30 AM |
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MICHIGANGIRL11
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I usually take someone at their word. But....after my last relationship failed I admit I did a google search on him and came up with quite a bit of information he did not share w/me. He is originally from Wisconsin. Wisconsin has a circuit court web site, you type in the persons last, first name and their birthdate and it gives you every court case they are involved in. I learned a lot about my former boyfriend he did not share w/me. I'm now very glad he ended the relationship  . He owes the IRS and the state of Wisconsin several thousand dollars for worthless checks he wrote. If I was in a serious relationship I wouldn't have a problem with my partner doing a search on me, I have absolutely nothing to hide.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 9:14 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Dating Strategy?
Well, I alternate between "See and Wait", "Just Make it Past the First Meeting", "Don't Get Rejected First" strategies.
I know, not very proactive or take charge, are they? 
Where's Dr Phil when ya need him? 
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 9:28 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Wisconsin has a circuit court web site, you type in the persons last, first name and their birthdate and it gives you every court case they are involved in.
Be careful with that, Girl.
I had a woman lawyer do that to me, and she stood me up on our first meeting, saying her old boyfriend called at the last minute and she decided to give him another try.
I found out the "real" reason a few weeks ago when she answered my Match profile. I wrote her back saying, "Ah, don't remember me, eh?...you stood me up last year?". Then she writes back, "Oh yeah, I remember you now, you're the one that has a personal protection order in...".
I was flabbergasted? I've never been in trouble with the law in my life, and certainly haven't been in court for anything other than being a witness for a traffic ticket, and that was just two weeks ago.
Sooo, I did a search in the local county court records and sure enough, I saw my name. The only difference was the middle initial, which was different than mine. Evidently, somebody with the same first and last name resides, or did reside, in the same county as me and has a criminal history? They didn't have a field for birthdate.
I couldn't believe it? I've heard stories about people with similar names being branded for crimes they didn't commit, but I never thought I'd be a victim?
I don't believe it's a case of stolen identity because my credit history is unaffected and my bank accounts have never been raided. There's just another person with my name out there.
I wonder how many Smiths and Joneses get mixed up with others in the system, even though they are completely innocent? Terrible.
So, from now on, I always sign everything using my middle initial.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 9:58 AM |
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lj450
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Well, Petes got the "Rod Roddy" pic, and now Mo is sporting one with the "I Dream of Jeanie" pose. I keep waiting for you to blink your eyes real hard. hahaha
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