| Mar 5, 2006 @ 10:46 AM |
How do you end a bad date? What do you say?
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DwainP50
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This is what one of the experts had to say:.
1) If you both obviously had a bad time on the date, you won't have as hard a time. You can both agree that you should leave your date to where it ends on a friendly note. The actual language is up to you, but in the long run honesty goes a long way. Simply saying, "I don't think we're really compatible", though very difficult, will make them feel more respected than telling that person "I'll call you", and never following through like a jerk.
2) If you didn't have a good time, and don't want to see them again, but you think they may have had a better experience, then you could have a more difficult problem. Again though, being honest in this situation will leave you in a better position than trying to make something up to "protect" them. If protecting them means lying to, than you aren't doing them a favor. Most people say they would rather know up front if someone likes them.
So, what I got out of this, if you feel uncomfortable, do your best to be honest. Tell them in a respectful way that you had a nice time, but that you'd like to call it a night. Although they might not be happy with this, at least you've been honest, and that, in the end, is respectable.
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 12:35 PM |
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BulldogMedic
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I prefer to be lied to.
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 12:58 PM |
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exiled131
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ending a bad date is easy. it is called ditching the bore.
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 1:00 PM |
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GraciePa
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Upfront, honest, says it like it is, but not hurtful. Didn't want to mislead anyone 
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 1:10 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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If my date and I have nothing in common,I`d endure the date but end it as soon as it is polite to do so.I`d treat him with dignity and the respect that he deserves. And I`d ask that he treat me in the same way.I`d never do anything that makes me feel uncomfortable in an effort to impress my date. Then I`d ask him to take me home,thank him and explain that I didn`t think we were suited for one another.Assuring him that it had nothing to do with him,it was just me.(A little white lie seems appropriate at this time.) 
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 1:50 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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1) If you both obviously had a bad time on the date, you won't have as hard a time. You can both agree that you should leave your date to where it ends on a friendly note.
2) If you didn't have a good time, and don't want to see them again, but you think they may have had a better experience, then you could have a more difficult problem.
It took an "expert" to figure this out?!?!?! Seems common sense to me.
Most people say they would rather know up front if someone likes them.
DUH!!! The problem lies when one doesn't like or isn't attracted to another. Being honest is definitely the way to go, but one must be aware that the other person may not accept the truth gracefully or they may not accept it at all. They may have a delicate ego and the rejection will only cause further pain OR the truth may be taken as a challenge!!!
I've found that setting the record straight BEFORE the date helps alleviate some of the awkwardness if the two people don't click (i.e., "Let's meet to get to know one another and see if there is compatibility").
I believe it goes back to common sense...it doesn't hurt to have the ability to read people either!!!
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 2:07 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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"OK..so...I'll see ya.." and then it never happens.
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 5:52 PM |
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sordofadonkey
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If you're not attracted to her, It's tough to say, but you should tell her anyway. It'll sting, but won't last long. Same thing for her if she isn't into you. If you are attracted to her visually, but think she is a bitch, just ask her if she wants to go to your place and bend over your coffee table. That ought to get to the point of the the situation.
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 8:48 PM |
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7eternity
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I prefer to be lied to.
What's so bad about taking how she feels toward you? It may not be necessarily the truth, but at least, you know that there's nothing for you to keep going that way.
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 8:51 PM |
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spongebob777
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I just tell them that I'll be out in 5 to 15 years. That usually does it.
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| Mar 6, 2006 @ 8:04 PM |
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fuchia04
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If I was on a date and it was not turning out too well, I would try my best to ride it out, but then of course, there would be no second date. I would just tell her later the way I felt about it, if she called.
Now, if I am on a date that is coming along so badly that it is unbearable - such as she is just acting totally rude, unpleasant, or disrespectfully, or the experience is just plain horrible, then I would just call it off immediately - of course, trying to be as nice as I possibly could about it. At this point, if she didn't except that, I would just have to walk away.
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| Mar 6, 2006 @ 8:45 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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of course, trying to be as nice as I possibly could about it. At this point, if she didn't except that, I would just have to walk away.
 Way to go.. 
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| Mar 6, 2006 @ 11:36 PM |
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walkingman
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This is an easy one for me as most of my date's have been bad lately(lol). I just tell then that it was nice meeting them but I just don't think you are my type. I can't see any sense in lying to them. I would rather just be straight. This way you don't lead the person on.
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| Mar 6, 2006 @ 11:57 PM |
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Hiwayman54
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Whats a date???? ( I don't get it)  lol
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 9:58 PM |
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WickedWench
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I have to comment here.
IF I actually go out on a date with someone, there has already been a fair degree of communication by phone, messenger etc. That's the first part of figuring out whether there IS some common turf present.
If during the course of those phone or messenger conversations I pick up a trait or attitude that grates me the wrong way, I don't continue any further with it.
By this I mean specifically if they belay a sexist attitude ( which is easy to pick out) or racist comments or seem disinterested in what I am chatting about, or any other sign that this is really going nowhere, then I don't bother with going thru with a "date". Would be a waste of my time. If they talk on and on about an old girlfriend? I'm outta there. If they continually interrupt me or show very poor manners? GONE! If they make nasty comments about women in general? TOAST. Bad attittude about kids? I have one so...lol
Lots of ways to figure out just by talking that "Mr. Right" isn't for you but I do put the time in just talking initially.
Then there aren't any "bad dates". Mind you, there's very few dates but I'd rather stay at home watching a movie then be on a bad date and go thru the hassle at all.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 12:31 PM |
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t_h_e_b_r_a_t
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"I`d treat him with dignity and the respect that he deserves."
That he "DESERVES". Just not interested, duck the good night kiss and that gives him a pretty clear signal. If he was a major creep, I just leave. Don't even waste my breath telling him where I am going or that I won't be back. Like the jerk that keeps gropping you after you have told him to knock it off!!! Just put my cue down and headed for the door without a word, except to the doorman, "Do NOT let this creep follow me to my car."
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 4:46 PM |
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T_i_m
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:)
[Edited on 3/17/2006 10:41 AM]
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 5:13 PM |
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holding4u
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Tell him my butt hurts - I need to go home?
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| Mar 12, 2006 @ 12:12 AM |
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Say_Yes
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I usually try to make a joke out of it. Normally, if it is not going well for me, then it is not going that well for her either. If it is not working, then I'll let her know that. I try to be nice about it, but honest at the same time. A couple of times, the bad date got better after we both got the tension out of the way, by admitting to one another that it was not going well.
Of course, there are exceptions. If I am lied to by the person and in the first date I discover the lies, I'll normally say something to the effect of "Check please" and just end it there.
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| Mar 12, 2006 @ 12:44 PM |
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painter007
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by saying sorry your not who I thought you were.
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