| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:19 PM |
Lets be honest....What would attract a younger woman to a man 15 to 20 years her senior
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zulamaze
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Age is only a number.
It all depeneds on the person.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:49 PM |
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Lee_Danger
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but put this in terms of life mate....for the next say 30 years...what changes, or difficulties, if any, might you forsee?
Can you share with us...some of your views on this question?
~sissy
It would depend on the specific couple/situation. Everyone has difficulties, we all just don't share the same ones. Changes?? We and the wolrd around us are constantly changing.
I don't think this is a black & white topic. Everything depends on each unique situation. Yes, it might seem that the obvious best choice would be to share your life with someone of a similar age, but I just don't think that applies to everyone single person. For instance, some people are only interested in semi-longterm relationships, so growing apart would not be a factor.
Some older men will always enjoy being with a hot younger woman... that's just who they are. You can't change it and it doesn't bother me at all. And, visa versa... if an older woman is capable of knabbing a hot young stud... good for her.
If that's not your cup of tea, then so be it. BUT.... I think judging others regarding this subject is not right. AND... I do think it is possible for a couple of different ages to have a long happy life together.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:51 PM |
Lets be honest....What would attract a younger woman to a man 15 to 20 years her senior
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Lee_Danger
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Lets be honest....What would attract a younger woman to a man 15 to 20 years her senior
I don't see what age has to do with anything????????
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:51 PM |
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Ramjet222
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sis
This thread just keeps traveling along like a glowworm 
Didn't think this topic would get so much attention.
In my post that was deleted I said reading assignment for the night was Gail Sheehey's book "Passsages" she explains the life experiences of 20-40 difference. 10+/- is about the limit so your comments are correct. Anything beyond that like peaches said is just a matter of control...or wanting a father figure...havce seen it many times also.
My neighbor was 20 when she married. He was 40. They were married 53 years. He passed in 2000, she is not expected to make it till the end of this year. She still wears the ring, he was the only man she was with and actually can't wait to see her again. Somehow they made it work.
Personally could never do someone 20...not like those guys on TV...
but like Spongy would like to find someone to staqrt a family...would like to have at least 1. But because of what U said about so many years diff. couldn't do that young. No matter what all those perfect young russian babes keep saying to me. 
Guess I live in a perfect world huh?
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:58 PM |
Lets be honest....What would attract a younger woman to a man 15 to 20 years her senior
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Utopia296
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Well..I'm a guy but I can answer that. Show me the money!!
Mo money , mo money , its your birthday.. Ha!
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:00 PM |
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Utopia296
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P.S. Ask this question to Anna Nicole ....
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:37 PM |
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sissycat411
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Just an add on for some more insight....from a mans point of view..(he is mid 40's so has some experience and interaction with older men's thinking)...captured a well written post from another thread....with permission....and would like the youngers gals input..concerning ..from the mans point of view.....
My only problem with a 40+ year old dating someone twenty years younger is simple honesty about intent. Is that so hard to give in this society anymore?
If the reasons you go after someone so young are love and a genuine relationship, great.
If the reason is just to sleep around to prove your virility and satisfy your ego, that's fine, too. Immoral as h*ll, but I can't stop you.
Just come clean and don't BS me.
It always amazes me when older men or women (mostly men, but the times-they-are-a-changin') boast and backslap about how many sweet young things they've notched on their belts, but when magnified under the glare of scrutiny get all defensive with righteous indignation, and try to wrap themselves around an aura of respectability to defend this shallow behavior.
Oh, for crissakes, quit denying, call it what it is? For those in it only for the tail/c*ck, be mature and step up to the plate. You have no intention of anything serious, right?…you're just out to nail young p*ssy/c*ck and stroke your ego?
Are there exceptions, do some date much younger people out of love, respect, and an honest search for compatibility? Of course, so please don't jump down my throat bashing me with that old argument. But, forgive me, the "majority" of people I read in these forums and defend this kind of behavior are definitely NOT in this group, not by a frickin' long shot…lol.
If you disagree with my characterization of your dating "proclivities", or in denial, or can't stand to look in the mirror and face the truth that you're not the all-around great, wonderful, super person you think you are, too bad.
I'm only giving my opinion. If you don't like it, here's a quarter. Go argue with somebody that cares.
Ram....ty it has been a good discussion....and thanks to all that give some well thought out posting....I know I have gained some insight... 
[Edited on 3/7/2006 2:13 PM]
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:45 PM |
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sissycat411
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Highwayman.... .......as long as they haven't been so JADED in life that they turn into MAN haters.
Could another way of putting that be....women with experience ....no longer accept "bull" call it like it is.....and are harder to pull the wool over their eyes....with shallow...bs...so instead of being "man haters" they are just not so easy to take advantage of anymore.....They know what a man of quality is.....and dont waste their time....on men who aren't gentlemen and respectful and with moral values.......
just more food for thought
Also..Highwayman..instead of just using a term Man Haters.....can you give an example...of what you base your thoughts on....when labeling some one that????
If you're my age and exclude the other gender for a blanket reason like "bitterness", the reality doesn't match the perception. "You're" the one that has a bias and prejudice against women/men your age, and not a victim of it.
Awsome post Mo and Peaches....great insight into your moral charactors....
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 2:10 PM |
Lets be honest....What would attract a younger woman to a man 15 to 20 years her senior
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sweetpotatoqueen25
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Well I had something happended to me that was unconvievable. I was at a singles' dance in McDonough, Georgia at a church-sponsored event with refereshments, booze is optional-and just about all of the men that go to these things are over 40. Me-who has a tendency to get on my high horse-figures I would be getting more attention than older women for reasons that ou have already given-believe it or not, in the Deep South men loook for women close to their own age. I don't know any May-Decenber couples nearby in the state of Georgia. The event's emcee told me there was a cluster of single men nearby that wanted to meet some younger women. So I made a beeline for their table and in the first ten minutes of talking I have never seen such disrespectful middle-aged men in my entire life. When I mentioned that I got divorced at 26, my nearest seatmate said "You're kidding! You're so young!" And people in the South just get married young. I was asked why I liked older men like I was another Anna Nicole sugar-daddy-seeking wannabe. These guys were like old enough to be my father, one had grandchildren btw, case closed! As long as we're on the subject, yes, I DO like older men- but by that I mean b/w 2-10 years older, not "who's your daddy!" older. Anyway, they all were talking to themselves the whole time-at a dance hoping to meet women and yet they're only interested in their own male camaraderie??GUESS WHAT, I'M BEING BLOWN OFF BECAUSE THEY THINK I';M TOO YOUNG! Am I missing something here? By the way, if any of you want to label me as "arrogant" and "pompous' feel free! 
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 2:19 PM |
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sissycat411
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Not at all Sweet.....insightful input....well written and ty for sharing........
Can you also share as to what attracts you to "older" men...say those that might be 10 or more years your senior?
I was asked why I liked older men
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 2:57 PM |
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Hiwayman54
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I've been around a number of women in my life that was truly OBSESSED with EVERY wrong they thought was done them.They was so damn sensitive that discussing anything was a battle royal. Naw there are plenty of jaded women out there and yes a number of man haters.I stand by my post TY.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 6:23 PM |
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sissycat411
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Hiway....just a thought...but do you think some of the older men.....having been irresponsible in their younger years...having women who had to take over and be mature and responsible in raising the children, run the house hold,,,then when the children were grown...divored the husband...for those same reasons.............................
might be just a little jaded toward women....they might see as they see their ex......Naggers......with that in mind....they might see all women their age....who point out some of the problem they expereinced in marriage.....as pointing the finger at them...?
Care to give some feed back regarding this???? 
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| May 4, 2006 @ 2:33 PM |
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Kimmaranclh
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Ok..honestly...a bunch of different things would attract me to a man that is 15 - 20 years older than me:
Maturity - Men my age usually just don't cut it in that department
Charm - Older men have mastered this...lol
Security - Usually they are settled and know where their life is going
Experience - They've been around the block a few times and know how to have a relationship..;-)
Respect - alot of older men appreciate a woman and know how to treat them...
Conversation - They aren't just interested in cars, women, and sports....or at least they know enough to pretend to be interested in more..LOL
So that's it for me...I'm sure there's more but i can't think of it right now
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| May 4, 2006 @ 7:21 PM |
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Greystone1
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Another factor that enters in here is chronological age vs apparent age. I have always ended up hanging with a younger crowd, simply because I look younger. I was carded in bars up until I grew the beard in my mid 30's. I could chop ten years off my stated age and nobody would know the difference.
Generally, I end up with women who are 10-15 years younger than me, or women slightly younger than me who look young for their age.
So... how old am I?... my chronological age or my apparent age?
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| May 4, 2006 @ 7:32 PM |
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SunBabe
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I hear ya there, Grey -- I've found myself in that situation most of my life...trouble is that I have a hard time finding someone in his mid 40's who's retired and free to PLAY all the time!
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| May 5, 2006 @ 2:00 AM |
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sweet5red
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when i was 46 i was dating a 30 year old.. He broke My heart but i wouldnt trade the experience for anything.. it was priceless..........  Sweet N Louisiana
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| May 5, 2006 @ 3:52 AM |
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bevrice
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You hit it right on the nose, ramjet, it is what I have been saying all along, ten years either way is the outside limit, beyond that, it IS a money thing, or a father thing, maybe they will go jump on the author of the book for saying that and not me, now, lol, or maybe you.
I am in trouble on another thread for saying this, oh well. Like the flowers in the wind song, when will they ever learn?
I grow very tired of hearing from men who have done the marrying much younger thing and how messed up their lives are, I am very sorry for them, but then, I figure they were just like the ones in here and didn't want to hear it. So, they made their bed.
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| May 5, 2006 @ 7:20 AM |
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HarleysB_WV
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 If you search long enough you can always find a printed/published book that will verify every opinion you have. I'm just amazed that anyone would think they have the right to say they KNOW why people do anything. You don't really know what is on another person's mind. People can make educated guesses based on a study of a certain group, but that certainly doesn't mean that is how ALL people in that situation feel.
I'll repeat what I said in the other thread also, my father and step-mother just celebrated their 27th wedding anniversary. They are more than 10 years apart in age, but have a truly blessed marriage. I wish all people were as happy as they are.
I wish people would stop speaking for everyone else as if they really had some nugget of information the rest of the world doesn't have.
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| May 5, 2006 @ 7:41 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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that certainly doesn't mean that is how ALL people in that situation feel.
Harley, I couldn't agree more. My best friend is married to a man who's 15 years older than she is, it was her first marriage and his second. They've been blissfully married for 25 years and I've never known two people who love each other more devotedly than these two do. What attracted her to him? Hmmm...intelligence, warmth and downright sexiness. And we're close enough friends that I know those are still the things that attract her to him 25 years later. I don't think they're anything like typical, but then I don't think their marriage is typical regardless of their ages. We should all be so lucky...of course, for me that would make him 77...but then, who knows? BTW, she's 50 and he's 65.
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| May 5, 2006 @ 7:44 AM |
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MotownManiax
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They should rename this "The Thread That Won't Die"...Moo-ha-ha.
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