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Is using a decoy right or wrong?
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Bet you thought this was about Ducks.. 
I just want to know if you think it's wrong to set your partner up with a decoy. And I do know you shouldn't be in a relationship where you can't trust the other person.
But lets just say you find yourself wondering about that person. Would you set them up with say a good friend to see if they will cheat on you?
Personally I wouldn`t do such a thing myself even if I had doubts about my partner.I`d rather confront him myself. 
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:07 PM |
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RachelVaz
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U either trust the person - or ya don't.... U can either see their heart for you - or u can't.... I've lived in fear & lived with unfaithfulness quite a bit - I'm way too old anymore to play games....
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:10 PM |
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george3
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good answer........I have been burned so many times what's one more
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:11 PM |
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Loreli
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I wouldn't either.
Kinda on topic, yet not, but my sister's lifelong friend was dating this (disgusting) man, and he hit on my sister. When she told her friend, the friend threw away their lifelong friendship. He then hit on his girlfriend's sister, who told, and it ruined the sister relationship also. Of course, neither of these were set up to be decoys, yet the answer was there.
I would say if a person chose to do that, they better be ready for the answer they will get. It may not be pleasant.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:15 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I would say if a person chose to do that, they better be ready for the answer they will get. It may not be pleasant.
Exactly..they could end up finding out what they didn`t really want to know in the first place. Or they could also find out that they were worrying for nothing. But could end up losing anyway when the deceived one found out.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:23 PM |
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Loreli
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I think often the signs of deception are there. Hopefully you trust the person enough not to be scrutinizing them daily for it, but to recognize the signs when they stare you in the face. Then, talk.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:24 PM |
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bevrice
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You know, for me, this is really a hard question. I hate guys who play around, for sure don't like men in a relationship or married who contact me. You know, usually when you get the feeling that someone is fooling around, they usually are, our instincts are usually right. Now, if I really cared and wanted to know for sure, I don't know if I would use a decoy, but might do a little investigating on my own.
A decoy might be helpful if you were planning on marrying someone and wanted to see if they were, or could be faithful.
I would want to know if they were the unfaithful kind of man. I don't share well. But then, I don't expect any more of a man than I expect of myself, I don't think anyone should.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 12:49 PM |
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zulamaze
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No need for a set up--- if they are being unfaithful,,
sooner or later it will catch up with them.
If I have to worry about that with a mate---
then I don't need to be with that mate.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:01 PM |
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Hiwayman54
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well for me if I ever found out that any gal had used a decoy to catch me being unfaithfull.I'd dump the gal. If she is that devious I sure don't want anything to do with her. I usually give everyone the benifit of the doupt til proven otherwise.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:06 PM |
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Utopia296
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Certainly. One must always use decoys when trying to catch
deer , elk , ducks and at times depending on where ya live
rabbit and coon. Dam Tinker , thought this was the hunting
channel. Sorry bout that. LOL!
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:06 PM |
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mangolover60
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I'd agree with Hiway. Who would do such a thing? I guess there are all types. Then again, you just may give him what he wanted. Your friend!
How far is the decoy willing to go? At what point to you decide that he has crossed the line? Yikes. If you don't want some events to happen, then don't cause them. 
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:09 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Dam Tinker , thought this was the hunting
channel. Sorry bout that. LOL!
Did you miss the first sentence?
Bet you thought this was about Ducks..
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:15 PM |
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pitbullgurl
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I don't think a decoy would be needed...in my case, anyway. I would do a little investigative research of my own. I'm really quite good at it...as my son went through a very brief rebellious stage. It didn't matter where he was...I would always find him...he was rather shocked on a couple of occasions, asking how I knew he was there...
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:29 PM |
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DwainP50
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Using a decoy to see if you mate or future mate is faithful is just not right. It might look good and funny in the movies or TV but in real life it can cause some REAL hurt feelings. If done to me and found out, they will be drop like a hot potato. I don’t play them kind of games and wouldn’t to play them on someone I am in a close relationship with. The trust issue should have been worked while getting to know each other. Plus as an adult if you felt that something is wrong, confront the person and ask. You are in a relationship right? I guess they could lie, but then they will be on notice that you suspect something is up.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:35 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 A lot of GREAT responses here.. 
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:55 PM |
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kattsmeow
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 I should have been a detective....
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 1:58 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I should have been a detective....
Think I`ll look into becoming one.. 
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 2:18 PM |
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bevrice
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I always thought being a detective looked like a lot of fun.
Seriously, if I was faithful, if I had no intentions of doing anything wrong, I could care less if a man used a decoy on me, I would have nothing to hide.
Devious? I am thinking about that one, devious, well, I don't know. I don't think detectives or police investigators or devious, I think they are searching out the truth.
The sad thing is that people often present themselves as something they are not, it makes it really hard to know the real person. People tend to try to become what you are searching for to impress you. If I were the least bit suspicious, would sure do some investigating on my own. It is better to investigate and find out these things than to marry and find out later, too much later. We should probably all be wise enough to do that. Like most of you, and most people, though, I tend to follow my heart. With so many players and predators on the internet, though, that leaves us wide open for hurt.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 2:28 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 But after you`ve been through it a few times you should be pretty much smartened up on it and learn to spot the liars and the fakes.
But I to think its all a matter of trust.Trusting yourself and also trusting the other person.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 2:36 PM |
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DwainP50
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I don’t feel that devious was used in that context. It was use as “If she is that devious”. When police and detectives in the course of doing there work it should be called investigate. Investigate isn’t a synonym of devious. But devious can be use when someone used a decoy to do an integrity check on someone else.
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