| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:13 PM |
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mailorderannie
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I had someone ask me this the other day, and my knee jerk reaction would be to say "Of course!" but decided to really think about it. I was able to think of acts of kindess I had done that week, but will admit, there should have been more.
So tell me, what does kindness mean to you? How do you show other people kindness.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:22 PM |
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sciurusniger
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While I do many things for others, for the most part real kindness is shown simply by being with them when I am with them. Regardless with whom I am interacting, be it family, friends, even the cashier at the grocery store, I give my undivided attention. I try hard to not only listen, but to hear what they are saying.
Of course, if the other person is acting out and being rude, sometimes it's quite hard to hold my tongue. But I do manage it more often than not these days; arguing is most often a cruel sport and hardly ever worth it.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:23 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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If you were busy being kind,
Before you knew it you would find
You'd soon forget to think 'twas true
That someone was unkind to you.
If you were busy being glad,
And cheering people who are sad,
Although your heart might ache a bit,
You'd soon forget to notice it..
Kindness means putting others before me when they are sad.
Kindness means to me a gentle word given to all I encounter.(ok..maybe not all)  
Kindness is a smile..a touch.. 
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:24 PM |
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spongebob777
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I'm kind but the jury is still out on what kind.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:28 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Being thought of as a kind person is like beauty, it's all in the eye of the "beholder", not the person themselves. 
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:30 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Being thought of as a kind person is like beauty, it's all in the eye of the "beholder", not the person themselves.
Good point! 
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:30 PM |
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exiled131
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is not going postal on everyone an act of kindness?
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:32 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Kindness brings happiness; there is nothing you can invest in that will bring greater dividends than kindness and cheery words.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:33 PM |
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Loreli
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I do many things because I care, I don't know if it makes me kind. I get involved in children's issues, medical needs, justice for others type of things. I, like Sci, also try to bite my tongue. I try to say at least one nice thing outside of casual conversation to each person I interact with at work each day, especially those that tend to get ignored. I told an older janitor at work that I thought his hair looked really nice one day. He came back 5 minutes later and said you know, nobody has ever said anything nice about me to me before. Isn't that sad.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:37 PM |
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holding4u
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I always try to be kind. I simply think to myself - how would I want someone to treat me. Sometimes, a simple act of thoughtfulness can mean so much to someone else. When my husband died, I realized something very important. Don't miss a chance to be kind and nice, you may not get another one.
Sponge, I don't know what kind you are either. I am going to research it and get back to you. 
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 1:39 PM |
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mailorderannie
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He came back 5 minutes later and said you know, nobody has ever said anything nice about me to me before. Isn't that sad.
Very, and I'm so glad you told him.
My office is very "clickish". Last year at the Christmas party I was told that a seat had been saved for me at the "in" table. I thanked the person, but noticed a group of people from one of our other offices setting alone, so I went over to talk to them and ended up having a great time. I was even asked in a voice loud enough for everyone to hear "why are you setting with THEM?" and answered "because someone needs to make them feel welcome".
The next week the rumors were flying about me and one of the guys I sat with. I laughed and thought how sad they had to turn it into something it wasn't.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 2:14 PM |
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Jankia
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Whenever I see someone that provides service for us,police,firefighters,servicemen etc. I just go up to them and give them a quick "Thankyou" and a nod.It may startle most at first but they always give back an appreciative smile.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 3:53 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Jankia...thank you
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 5:26 PM |
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sissycat411
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Being thought of as a kind person is like beauty, it's all in the eye of the "beholder", not the person themselves.
Mo....I've always had the opinion...that if one has to pat them selves on the back, call everyone's attention to how good they are...then the good deeds they proclaim....were not done from the heart...but shows another side of themselves...that is shallow.....genuinely kind, caring people don't have to point out their every deed....others see....and know.....
But even genuine kind, caring people, can reach a point of intolerance and become assertive. Usually this intolerance is to people who proclaim...they are something they are not....
I was even asked in a voice loud enough for everyone to hear "why are you setting with THEM?" and answered "because someone needs to make them feel welcome".
Annie...I'm with you....being in the "in crowd" usually means...you have to give up something of your self....agree with the "leader or the mass" or be dismissed..... and subjected to the same type of attitude and treatment, they project to others...and these groups, usually have a "bully mentality" as their bases......We are better than everyone else...so there for...we can treat people as we will.....without common courtesy and respect...
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 5:47 PM |
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mailorderannie
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....being in the "in crowd" usually means...you have to give up something of your self....agree with the "leader or the mass" or be dismissed.
and Sissy, I didn't do that very well in Junior High, so its too late to start it now!
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 5:48 PM |
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AngelLight
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Yes, I am a very kind woman. Am I always kind? No. I don't think we can be anything all of the time
But by and large, I am quit thoughtful in my interactions with others. I am very aware that everyone has "a story", is human, and is deserving of dignity and a humane response, even if outwardly, they don't appear to be "deserving" of a kind response
I too certainly have to bite my tongue at times, but find that if someone is angry, abrupt, or in a bad mood a kind response can often soften them and help them to regain their balance.
I simply try to treat others the way I would want to be treated and cut people slack wherever or whenever I can. If I'm having a hard time, I'd hope someone could give me the same in return.
And as Holding4u said "Don't miss a chance to be kind and nice, you may not get another one" Having worked with the dying I can say with complete certainty that these are true words of wisdom. 
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 7:34 PM |
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sissycat411
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Great post Angel...and much food for thought...thank you
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 11:14 PM |
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AngelLight
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You're welcome Sissy.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 11:20 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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True kindness flows from presence, warmth of heart, openness, self-acceptance and service to a higher purpose. False kindness flows from egoistic self-centeredness, and presents a demand to the world, an insistence on deference. True kindness naturally elicits the respect of others, while false kindness imposes a requirement of respect from others. True kindness acts with grace and kindness, while false kindness grasps to fill the egoism at its core, egoism of attachment to a virtual, non-existent self.
True kindness remains untouched by insults, while the flag of indignation alerts us to an affront to those who display false kindness. Those who hide behide false kindness should notice their own indignation and the glimpse of their own egoism it affords..True kindness doesn`t hide behind a false facade of sugary sweet words..but shows itself in the very acts of kindness that one displays towards others...True kindness doesn`t mean that one is patting themselves on the back or hiding behind a false facade..True kindness comes from the heart..and only those who display true kindness can know that the kindness they display is real and not brought on by some hidden motive.They who speak falsely of others so called deceptions are those that are really hiding behind a false facade of kindness.. But thats only my opinion..
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 11:46 PM |
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Say_Yes
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I can be kind, but I also try to be honest. Sometimes the two don't seem to go hand in hand.
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