| Mar 11, 2006 @ 7:36 PM |
Whos motives are harder to figure out in a relationship..men or women?
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I've been amazed at some of the reasons I've heard women give for wanting to be in a relationship. Some are in it to recreate some fictional story. Some are in it for money. Some are in it for real love. Others want drama.
With guys there are very few motives, and most are pretty straight forward. 1. Sex, 2. Love 3. Companionship 4. They're bored
Whos motives are harder to figure out in a relationship..men or women? 
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 7:37 PM |
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RainRainGoAway
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women
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 7:53 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 thank you rain..
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 8:03 PM |
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Loreli
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Think I would have to agree with Rain on this one. Most women today are self-supporting and security and stability seemed to be a driving factor back in my parents/grandparents day. I'm sure there was plenty of love, and must have been plenty of sex, because we were friends with several families that had 8 kids! So if a woman doesn't have to be dependent on a man other than to have children, has her motivation become similar to that of a man?
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 8:08 PM |
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RainRainGoAway
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nope , just ya women are confusing, even yourselves.
A man may not talk about his feelings, but he doesnt change his mind in the middle of them lol .
the man constant, good or bad, you can pretty much predict us. once ya knew us.
Women nottttt gona happen like that.
Maybe it has something to do with the 100000 more nerrve endings or 100000 more chemical compound, , and hormones, what ever it is. We men cant figure yas out lol
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 8:12 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 You have a point there Rain..its a womans perogative to change her mind.. 
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 8:17 PM |
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Loreli
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Aww, cmon Rain-does this mean you don't take 10 minutes to decide if you wear the pink thong with the pink blouse, or the black thong with the black tee?
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 8:25 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Aww, cmon Rain-does this mean you don't take 10 minutes to decide if you wear the pink thong with the pink blouse, or the black thong with the black tee?
 and what would his motive be for wearing those?
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 8:55 PM |
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Loreli
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so he could feel pretty, oh so pretty!!!
(just pointing out that I do that, I put out two outfits if I'm going out, and put one on, then another, then try on shoes.)
I have seen some pretty strange divorce occurrences recently . For one, a friend's family. As we get older and became grandparents, she settled down a little more, and he wanted to start going out more.They have spent alot of time together, doing things together, raising their children. They both love their grandchild tremendously! If they married, wanting children, knowing this would be a future part of his life, did his motives change? Or hers?
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 9:43 PM |
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RainRainGoAway
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nope and WOW
take your time
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 9:44 PM |
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spongebob777
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Womens motives are harder to figure out.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 9:50 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Womens motives are harder to figure out.
I agree to a point...what that point is I haven`t figured out yet.. 
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 9:53 PM |
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Wulfchyld
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Women’s motives are easy. You can figure them out in a week or two. However, they change frequently. By the time you have the answer the question has changed. 
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 9:57 PM |
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Loreli
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OK-backing up here..why men don't talk about their feelings? Shouldn't the mate that they ultimately choose be close enough to them that they are comfortable talking? I know guys like to be tough, the stronger, and hey that's great. I like to be the feminine one.(it would be wierd otherwise!) But they should be able to say sweetie, I'm upset and need to talk- just like the women do. So if men can't open up to their mate-what motive stands in the relationship from a man's point of view? I think I may have to change my mind on this!
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 9:58 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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By the time you have the answer the question has changed
thats cause they forget the first question.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 9:59 PM |
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spongebob777
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OK-backing up here..why men don't talk about their feelings?
I do. In fact one of my reasons for getting a divorce was the fact that my wife didn't want to hear it.
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 9:59 PM |
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holding4u
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I think men's motives are harder to figure out. They remind me of my fickle daughter. I adore you today and I don't like you tomorrow. What happens overnight?
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 10:01 PM |
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RainRainGoAway
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the questions dont change they stay the same they get added to. if anything chagnes it the answers.
I thought you paid attention?
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 10:18 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 I think if they both worked together to try and understand ,that is motivate each other there would be no need to put either one into this category.They would become equals..but thats just my humble opinion..I`m just here too learn..
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| Mar 11, 2006 @ 10:29 PM |
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Loreli
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wife didn't want to hear it.
That's too bad Spongey. There are some of us women that do like open and two sided communications. There for me and there for you. It makes it so much easier to know what your mate needs or wants to just talk honestly about it. The good the bad and the ugly.What was her motive for not wanting to hear it?
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