| Mar 15, 2006 @ 12:29 AM |
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dark_moon
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I know this has been addressed on some thread, but I couldn't find it...
It has been asked why women don't reply to messages, and at least one woman has said that it is because even when we reply politely that we aren't interested we get flamed.
Well guys here you go... I replied to a message, "The distance aside, I don't think we have anything in common. But I did want to be consiterate enough to at least reply. Also, if you don't mind a little advice, a photo with you smiling would improve your profiel."
(This guy lives several hundred miles away, we have nothing in common. And the photo on his profile...he is possitively scowling.)
This is the message I got back...
"Welllll, for your information, your too late anyway as I have found somone who did answer me, and we are getting along fine, and I will give you a little bit of advice,
a little bit more HUMANITY and a lot less smart ass goes a long way also, but I guess thats why Hurricanes happen down in that part of the country from mean people, but please dont take that as an insult, as you said in your own words? "A little bit of advice" but I wanted to so leave you with this advice, and to put you on my blocked senders, but thank god the woman I met and GETTING ALONG WITH GREAT has a bit of CHARM! So in truth You can take your advice and shove it up your Harleys tail pipe! And please leave me alone and I will you! as I have no need for people pretending to be intelligent or giving me advice when they know nothing about me. Oh yeah again your too late anyway, and the 5th person I told this today I met somone! But your the first smart ass I met today also so the day is going good for unintelligent people, but "IT IS MY ADVICE" your words, not mine! And I bid you a fond GET LOST! Rock."
Now do you guys see what we mean about getting flamed? 
And I bet other gals here can give even worse accounts than this one.
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 12:35 AM |
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nah12
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dang Dark if he had not said he had already found someone but got 4 other answers today...   ..i'd think you touched a nerve there......   
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 12:43 AM |
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dark_moon
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Ya he probly thinks I believe all that tripe  Don't we all wish we were sooo lucky as to find someone in mere hours. He must be such a catch. I'm such a dumbass I missed out. I'm really beating myself up over here. 
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 1:06 AM |
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MrBSteele
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That is sad. I figured this sort of thing happened some, but as long as no one was being completely and utterly rude to anyone, it was one of those things that rarely happen, but I suppose I was wrong.
Unfortunately, a few bad apples (that think they must be God's gift to women and/or so insecure in themselves that they have to build themselves up at the expense of others) can make the whole gender look bad.
To all of the ladies on this site I say this, and I am sure I am not alone when I say this:
Not all men are like that. I personally could never see myself replying like the one you received. The one time I did actually get a response that was informing me that the person was not available (not the only response, just the only one stating that they were not interested), I did make a singular reply back basically thanking them for the prompt curteous reply and wishing them the best. When that amounts to the third email sent, at that point in time, I do not expect any further email as my only intention is to thank them for the curteous reply and so forth.
It is indeed a shame that "boys" like that ruin the impressions of the mature men in the audience so to speak. Sad, sad indeed.
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 1:25 AM |
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sirdidymus
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the guy projects himself as a jack*ss and makes it harder for those of us that would humbly appreciate a letter such as the one you sent.
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 1:49 AM |
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dark_moon
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I figured this sort of thing happened some, but as long as no one was being completely and utterly rude to anyone, it was one of those things that rarely happen, but I suppose I was wrong.
It does happen allot. Not rare at all. And I personaly have gotten much worse. Some are not only rude, but also quite vulgar.
I posted this thread to let the nice guys know that it really isn't that women are just rude or get so many messages they can't reply to all of them. I think too many decent guys get discouraged too soon by no or few replies.
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 1:58 AM |
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sirdidymus
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but on the reverse, i'm not sure that women realize how hard it is to be a guy and how easy it is to get discouraged. as an "average" guy i suppose, whatever....easily over 90% of my emails go unresponded to. who knows the reasons, i'm not rich enough, funny enough, bad-boyish enough, tall enough, short enough, good looking enough, all of the above...it's inconsequential really...
the point is - a few people here and there not responding is one thing - but pretty much ~~~everyone~~~ not responding and you can't help but feel like "wow, i don't have a darned thing that even one women is looking for - fancy that".
just a little insight from "this" guy's point of view....
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 6:43 AM |
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LSU79
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Personally, if a woman's not interested, I'd rather not get a reply, but I do appreciate their effort at politeness.
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 6:57 AM |
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GraciePa
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I don't believe the guy got reply's back but only from you. He lashed out cause he wasn't getting any and therefore he saw he had one from you only to be told in a nice way *thanks* but *no thanks*.......Most when they get the Dear John reply's they always make it sound like oh well I have plenty other's that I talk to besides you!!!!!!! And seems to me he has gotten lots of negatives on his emails . He needs anger management!!!! Oh where is that thread on that subject???? 
Now we all can relate to the *being rejected* mood!!!!!
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 8:42 AM |
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sjpinatl
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I got one about two weeks ago...I told him thanks, he seems nice, but I am not into mustaches, personal choice.
He flamed me but it was so stupid I did not understand what he was saying. I really would have gotten over the mustache, but he was stupid too. But did not want to call him stupid.
For those who will say, "You should have just said that you two are not a match"...If you just say that, they whine until you tell them why.
I have 6 messages from one guy I am not interested in from another site THIS WEEK! No answer means, not interested!!!
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 9:07 AM |
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jazzy73703
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I got one a few days ago. The guy lives several states away. His profile said he was looking for his "soulmate" and basically made it sound like he was willing to move anywhere. His profile made him sound desperate and untrusting. I replied that he lived too far away. He replies that my soulmate might not live next door and i replied that I didn't believe in soulmates. So, he replied "You are a rock in a puddle." I told him he was an a**.
Jazzy
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 9:14 AM |
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holding4u
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I have gotten some that were just so blatant sexually it was like reading a porn novel. Now, how do you reply - what is the correct answer. I am old but I don't think you can do that on the internet. It is immature and childish and I just delete. The nice messages I will acknowledge. 
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 10:52 AM |
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DwainP50
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I will give you a little bit of advice,
a little bit more HUMANITY and a lot less smart ass goes a long way also
I feel that it is ludicrous to imply the reason you don’t answer email is because one or two rude emails received back. Plus he did mention something of a smart ass remark? Am I the only one who read that? Could it be that you egged on this immature reply? If so, you can give it and can’t take it back? Hmmmm?
I have replied back to a few inquiries with a nice note and received some very kind notes back. Myself I felt respect for them for being so gracious. But then I received some condescending and smart ass remarks back that are totally uncalled for. They get no response, just hit the ignore button. That is what the ignore button was made for. Plan and simple!
If you are afraid of the rebuttal, then just hit the ignore button once your courtesy reply is sent. Or if you are one of the lucky ladies who receive oodles and oodles of winks and email, just delete! Nothing gain nothing lost!
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 11:04 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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If you are afraid of the rebuttal, then just hit the ignore button once your courtesy reply is sent. Or if you are one of the lucky ladies who receive oodles and oodles of winks and email, just delete! Nothing gain nothing lost!
I couldn`t agree more..well put post Dwain..
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 11:18 AM |
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kattsmeow
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have gotten some that were just so blatant sexually it was like reading a porn novel. Now, how do you reply - what is the correct answer. I am old but I don't think you can do that on the internet. It is immature and childish and I just delete. The nice messages I will acknowledge.
Holding, this is the kind of mail that can be brought to the attention of the Mods here ok? I have did it.
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 11:47 AM |
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Jehosaphat
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So the jerk guys have ruined it for all the nice guys?
Regardless if they have the charisma of a spider in this day and age of e-communications the polite thing to do is reply. you can allways delete, block, or ignore the follow-up. But please... at least let us know you recived it and read it.
so far I have sent out 10 e-mails and only one got replied to. not very encouraging IMHO
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 11:50 AM |
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kinglouis2005
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thats why i dont email.......often......I just hang out and reply.
This way I cannot be accused of being the "jerk"..
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 11:52 AM |
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chinabull2000
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You haven't said what this guy said to you in his first email.. but, to be fair, I don't think that criticism of his profile and/or photo was necessary, even though it wasn't done in a nasty way. His second email to you was not really called for and I'm not defending that (he's obviously an asshole), but I think that before you go and criticize someone's profile or photo, either you should know them better or they should have asked for help with their profile.
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 2:51 PM |
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sissycat411
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dark said.. The distance aside, I don't think we have anything in common. But I did want to be considerate enough to at least reply. Also, if you don't mind a little advice, a photo with you smiling would improve your profile."
Dwain said..Plus he did mention something of a smart ass remark? Am I the only one who read that? Could it be that you egged on this immature reply? If so, you can give it and can’t take it back? Hmmmm
I must be blind....but no where did I see any smart ars remark in what dark sent back.......
I'm betting, even if he does get a positive response from some gal....its going to take her about three more of his emails, to see his immaturity...his anger, his nasty insides...and she will move on also....he'll still be sitting there saying....WHAT THE F---?? Saying it couldnt possibably be him....it has to be the women.... 
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 6:06 PM |
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someone_me
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and a lot less smart ass goes a long way also
Hey dark, takes a lot of being a smartass to go a long way with me. 
Just had to give you an alternative point of view. 
Oh yeah... bike pic looks good too.
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