| Mar 16, 2006 @ 5:40 PM |
What would happen if Men and Women just talk to each other??
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sissycat411
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We have thread after thread...discussing why men and women don't understand each other.....and we go in circles....couldn't it be just as simple as the fact we don't talk to each other and LISTEN? Love is kinda like a job...at it's basic, most simple...bottom line........in our work lives....we discuss what is needed and wanted to get the job done....jobs have some defining to them...so each knows what is expected of the other.....why cant two people .....just simply TALK and let the other know what the need from each other....and each LISTEN..........????? Is it just to simple??
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 5:47 PM |
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T_i_m
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Men and women talk? Worlds would collide. Dogs and cats living together, mass hysteria!
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 5:48 PM |
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GraciePa
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I always said Sissy COMMUNICATION is the key!!!!! 
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 5:51 PM |
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spongebob777
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I like talking to women.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 5:52 PM |
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Loreli
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I think we have really tried too hard to figure out what love is, who it should be, instead of just letting nature take it's course.There's got to be a happy medium between prearranged weddings and slicing and dicing the theory. Once you get there, both partners should be able to express their feelings.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 5:57 PM |
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exiled131
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after five minutes...an arguement would start
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 5:59 PM |
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LSU79
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I like talking to women
It's the listening that's the hard part.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 6:04 PM |
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someone_me
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Sissy, we do talk and listen to each other... it's just that we do so on different levels! 
And no, I'm not going to become a woman so I can understand her levels of communiction. I'll just appreciate it from afar. Sorry, I just enjoy being a guy way too much. 
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 6:04 PM |
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sissycat411
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after five minutes...an argument would start
It's the listening that's the hard part.
So maybe.....the real reason....we don't understand each other.....boils down to the lack of desire....or true love...and not wanting to take the time necessary.....to really put in the work....that comes with the responsibility of wanting to share a life and love with someone......and we value it too little?
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 6:06 PM |
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exiled131
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ok, so it took 25 minutes in this thread to start one.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 6:07 PM |
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sissycat411
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someone.. it's just that we do so on different levels
can you expand on this.....??? And isn't it just a matter of opening up our minds....listening to what our partner needs...and providing that? Doesn't mean either has to change...but recognize...the others needs may be different from our own.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 6:08 PM |
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Loreli
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It's the listening that's the hard part.
Because we don't? Or don't want to?
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 6:23 PM |
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someone_me
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Well, when you are wired differently in the first place (yes, it can be partly cultural but it's also physiological... not to get into the human growth and development theories of Freud, Skinner, etc.) you tend to approach things differently.
Sure I can open my mind and try to be sensitive to your needs but that doesn't always mean I'll understand them fully. It could mean that my levels of testosterone are making me dense and unaware of what you are really needing. It could also mean that your estrogen levels keep you from understanding what I am saying.
Generally speaking, look at how little girls and boys play. Of course this aspect is cultural, but the girls will break out the dolls and there is lots of relationship building going on in their play (both between the dolls and between the girls playing). The girls will be having a great time.
Now take little boys, they'll break out the bats and balls, or toy guns (oops, not politically correct there), toy trucks, or sticks, whatever, and run around, grunt, hit each other over the head and they are having a blast. It's a different type of play with a different kind of communication and relationship building.
We are just wired differently and thus, communicate differently. I must admit that when I took some couple communication courses, that learning to listen was much harder for me than for the women. On the other hand, I noticed the women also had a hard time learning to listen in a different way than they were used to.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 6:34 PM |
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kattsmeow
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http://www.matchdoctor.com/forums-2-5783-1.aspx
This what I was saying, it is a simple thing.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 6:34 PM |
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nightrider3281
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they might get to know one and other, huh? what a concept and so easy
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 6:43 PM |
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sissycat411
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Sure I can open my mind and try to be sensitive to your needs but that doesn't always mean I'll understand them fully.
Someone.....do we have to understand....or just except?....even two men or two women...don't always understand how each feels or where the other is coming from....Instead of trying to understand.....why not just listen...take it from there and do it cause it makes the other feel good an loved.......
Even in the work place...we don't always know why we are asked to do something....or the effect on down the road....but if we're asked and just do it because...it works....shouldn't that be enough......?
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 7:26 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Listening is important, but two people, be they a man or woman don't always assign the same meanings to words. For instance, I love you to me CAN mean something different than it does to you. For some it can mean just that...I love you...period. Others it can mean I love you and want to be with you forever. How many times have you heard someone say "but I told you such-and-such" and they probably DID but at the time they may have phrased it differently so you didn't get the heart of what they meant. The best conversations can be when you repeat back to someone what you heard using your phrases and see if you heard them correctly.
Instead of trying to understand.
I need to understand the why's because I hate to feel like I HAVE to do something. But, if I understand the reasons why it makes you feel special, then I'm more than happy to do it.
And...just for the record...I like talking to men.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 7:37 PM |
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Jankia
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Divorce attorneys would loose there ass.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 8:23 PM |
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AngelLight
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"It's the listening that's the hard part"
It's listening from the heart that's the easy part.
Without the heart, can we really listen well?
Talking is silver. Listening is gold. When we listen with the heart we can then respond to the other instead of just reacting.........
Talking and listening....I don't think it's just too simple.
I think it's just that simple.
Nice thread Sissycat
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 8:45 PM |
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someone_me
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I would say understanding is a big part of communication. Another example, less generalized this time...
Woman comes in upset and snaps at the guy to "quit being lazy watching the game and take that trash out like I asked you to!" Okay, if I was to just listen from a guy's perspective, I'd take out the trash (not that I listen to women anyway  ). But now I know better. What she really just said was that she's tired and would like some support (emotional and otherwise) because she wants to relax and rest yet feels overwhelmed with all the things that need to be done around the house. Two levels of communication. And yes, quite a few women communicate in this manner.
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