| Mar 16, 2006 @ 8:48 PM |
What would happen if Men and Women just talk to each other??
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spongebob777
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I think it's just that simple.
Yep. Ifshe has any real intelligence at all, I can listen and talk all day long.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 8:52 PM |
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bio_teacher
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There may be a ring of truth in the female complaint that men never seem to listen to a word they say.
Well, when you are wired differently in the first place (yes, it can be partly cultural but it's also physiological...
Researchers in the U.S. have found that men only listen with half their brain, while women use both sides.
A listening study found men use the left side of the brain - traditionally associated with understanding language - to pick up conversations. But women also used the right side.
Dr Joseph T Lurito (researcher) said women use more of their brain to listen to conversations; said it could show women could listen to two conversations at once.
The study used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) to measure brain activity by producing multi-dimensional images of blood flow to various parts of the brain.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 8:57 PM |
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Jankia
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Could be just poor hearing
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 9:04 PM |
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Loreli
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could be a game on tv
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 9:06 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Don't most women learn to have 2 conversations at once when they become mothers?
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 9:07 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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What would happen if Men and Women just talk to each other??
 If Men and Women weren`t Talking and Listening then why on earth are there so many that are meeting and in relationships..Not only on this site but there are success stories on other sites too..Mental Telepathy perhaps..Don`t think so..Talking and Listening is more like it.
Just my opinion. 
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 9:45 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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ok, so it took 25 minutes in this thread to start one. Exiled, sort of what I was thinking too! 
I've had soooooo many men tell me, "Men are simple...dot dot the end. We make a statement and that's what we mean. Women then complicate things by trying to analyze a simple statement." From this repeated comment from different men, I see a prime example:
Someone stated:
it's just that we do so on different levels. (dot dot the end)
Sissy replied:
can you expand on this.....??? And isn't it just a matter of opening up our minds....listening to what our partner needs...and providing that? Doesn't mean either has to change...but recognize...the others needs may be different from our own (analysis)
Synopsis:
"it's just that we do so on different levels" equals "And isn't it just a matter of opening up our minds....listening to what our partner needs...and providing that? Doesn't mean either has to change...but recognize...the others needs may be different from our own".
IMO, same concept, different number of syllables.  
A male "simple" statement was made; a female basically questioned the depth of the male's comment, thus, resulting in the female feeling the male is not talking or communicating and the male feeling the woman is not listening to him.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 10:19 PM |
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torees121
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A male "simple" statement was made; a female basically questioned the depth of the male's comment, thus, resulting in the female feeling the male is not talking or communicating and the male feeling the woman is not listening to him.
You go girl!!!! 
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 2:43 AM |
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keeno
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What would happen if Men and Women just talk to each other??
simple question huh? how did it get so involved in the answers?
seems to me that this is not a dating site. we are all here to amuse each other, impress each other with our intellect or wit, or in some cases baffle each other with b.s.
what would happen if we started conversations with each other? would it lead to romance and a relationship, damn i hope not, lol.
i think, we have all become so jaded and our filters set so high that we don't give anyone a chance to get to know one another. we read a persons profile and poof no chance of that person being right for me. heaven forbide someone email us that we have already judged as unworthy of our time or trouble.
give someone a chance to talk to you, get to know you, i know from experience talking to someone directly is much more rewarding that staring at this screen posting random thoughts. a spontaneous conversation sharpens your wit, allows you to share your wisdom, and perhaps touch someones heart.
enjoy the day, ken
edit:
sorry i went on about this i just read the locked thread "Answer to why women don't reply to messages"
that explained it all, sorry, guess we all have to much to loose by actually talking to one another outside of the forums. as it says on the header of each page,"free community for singles and friends" dating is not mentioned and it is no longer a goal of mine here. i will however do my best to baffle you all with b.s.
[Edited on 3/17/2006 3:22 AM]
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 8:46 AM |
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sissycat411
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keeno.... what would happen if we started conversations with each other? would it lead to romance and a relationship,
It really is.....just that simple....thanks....
Sure, there are some making connections....some even getting into real relationships....but is that the norm....or the exception?
And regarding the high divorce rates...could one of the causes be LACK OF TALKING AND LISTENING...TO YOUR PARTNER?
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 9:08 AM |
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Loreli
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There are far too many reasons people could list for divorce-from incompatability to cheating to abuse. Certainly lack of communication has been named by some in the divorce process or during counseling. But, if people started out talking with each other and listening to each other, and that fades away, it may not even be that is the driving problem! It could be one of the above that halted communication. On the other hand, if a person chooses somebody who is not comfortable talking, whether genetic-based personality trait, or something in their past, the communication issue, or lack thereof, should be worked out before getting deeply involved, or accepted.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 9:40 AM |
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sissycat411
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Loreli..... There are far too many reasons people could list for divorce-from incompatibility to cheating to abuse.
Absolutely true.....but if your really looking and talking in the early stages.....won't values, morals, truths...come up in those conversations?......and as we get older....people have past trail records....that give some indication.....of those values and morals.........they are called red flags...the things to avoid...and personality traits that usually don't change...
It takes deep conversations...to discover...real compatibility....not walking into relationships blindly...lots of evaluations....that can only be made...from indepth talking and listening.....
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 10:23 AM |
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Loreli
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Sissy-
One would like to think, and hope, that when a relationship starts to develop, there would be a lot of communication and honesty. Unfortunately, I think there are people out there with underlying motives (they just want to settle down, money, have a family) and they choose a mate all the while they have underlying problems bubbling that do not show up as red flags at the time. Look at all the stories of abused women, murdered wives (and men for that matter) that thought their spouse was the most wonderful person in the world and "something happened" during the relationship.
For example, we had a couple at work that were so FUN and so happy together and nice. They talked, they were very open people.They went everywhere together, he was helping raise two kids. Somewhere about 6 years into the relationship he started being really jealous for some reason...she spent most of her time with him and her kids, her job. He started hitting her. She left him. He found her on the job and gunned her down in the street. Something had just snapped in him that nobody saw coming until the abuse started.
Although I agree entirely with your theory that it should work that way, sometimes all the talk in the world can't give the whole impression.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 11:40 AM |
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sissycat411
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Lorile....you so correct....we can not predict the future....but with age...we also get some insight....me I watch how others handle traffic situations...how they deal with other people....how they think and treat other family members...men their attitude towards their mothers and women in general....little comments they make regarding other situations....discussing items in the news and their view points.....also a good reason to spend extra time in another's space....really seeing an watching what they are all about....its in the actions....not the words...others reveal them selves to us.... The actions...have to be aligned with their words......
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 11:44 AM |
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WickedWench
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Men and women are socialized differently so it stands to reason that because, from the very beginning we truly are "wired" differently, that our communication is different.
Accepting that difference is the opening door to "talking to" each other. Understanding that, and that men are men and women are women is another crucial difference. Women process information differently then men do.
So what's the secret? I can talk easily to men but I find women to be difficult sometimes so I don't really know.
I do know that obviously communicating can't be that bad because we're still wanting to "mate" with each other after all these years 
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 12:58 PM |
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someone_me
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I think bio_teacher has it down. I'm a lazy male who enjoys just listening with half my brain so I don't have to do as much work.  But it sure doesn't mean I don't like listening to women. It's even more fun understanding what's going on with them and teasing them about it. Not that I would ever do such a thing mind you. 
I do know that obviously communicating can't be that bad because we're still wanting to "mate" with each other after all these years
Wicked, I would add that's a whole other form of communication.  Take flirting, it's a form of sexual communication in and of itself. Took me till I was in my forties to understand this. Like most guys, I never realized women usually see it just as that, whereas guys usually see it as a means to an end. Once I realized that flirting was just that and didn't have to go anywhere, it became a whole lot more fun to do. And when you can use it to build up that tension and expectation... Again, I would never tease a woman in such a way.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 8:00 PM |
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WickedWench
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I would never tease a woman in such a way
Pity 
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| Mar 18, 2006 @ 1:21 AM |
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JesterDrawers
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EYES - GREAT observation!!!!!
As far as men and women talking to each other on different levels is concerned, oftentimes the difference can be seen in how each relates to members of his/her own gender. For example, let's suppose that two people - John and Mary - have a dinner date Friday night. They're both suitably impressed with one another and before the night is through they're already making plans for their next date. Things went splendidly.
The following day, John is out with his buddies and Mary is out with her girlfriends. Each mentions the previous night's date.
John tells his friends, "I went out with Mary last night."
His friends ask, "Oh? How was it?"
To which he replies, "Great! We had a great time!"
End of discussion.
Mary tells her friends, "I went out with John last night."
Her friends ask, "Was it a date? Or was it a 'date date'?" (I'll never understand that one!)
Then they proceed to ask, "Well, where did you go? What did you do? What did you have to eat? What did you talk about? What does he do for a living? Is he divorced? Does he have any kids? How many? Hold old are they? Boys or girls? etc etc etc"
DETAILS....most women want all the details, to the point where it usually takes as long to tell about the date as it did to actually GO on the date. (Okay, perhaps I'm exaggerating a bit, but it's only to make a point.)
And similarly, men and women relate to one another on the level they've become accustomed to operating on their entire lives. It can be a major paradigm shift to actually "hear" the other in the same language in which they are speaking.
Much of this, as has been pointed out, is physiological. Women do use both halves of their brain the vast majority of the time. Their cerebral cortex is much larger than a man's. And that's why she's able to relate so rapidly and so well what's she's "feeling" at any given moment. As noted, most men are left-brained, and tend to communicate in a more linear fashion. As such, when asked about their "feelings", most men want to run and hide. For the woman, it's relatively easy to put words to those feelings. For most men, it's a major hurdle, one to which they would most times like to reply, "Okay, I'll explain exactly what I'm feeling......tomorrow!" We need time to find the words to express what we're feeling...they don't come nearly as quickly to us as they do to a woman.
Okay, too long (again)...my apologies.....
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| Mar 18, 2006 @ 1:25 AM |
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Angel54214
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After all the talking, when does the kissing start? 
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| Mar 18, 2006 @ 1:53 AM |
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JesterDrawers
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Now THERE'S a form of communication I understand COMPLETELY!!!!!
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