| Nov 12, 2005 @ 8:04 AM |
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Wibber
Posts: 162
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I'm at a point where I'm not getting any mail or winks (except from married men or people in other countries) so I guess I have run out of people to date who are anywhere near me. This site needs new blood!!
Does anyone find that after a couple of months on this (or other dating sites) all the action just stops and nobody even looks at you anymore?
I've tried to keep my profile fresh by editing it every week or so and putting up new pictures, but I guess I'm done meeting anyone, and I've only met 4 people from this site in as many months. Cie la vie.
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 9:05 AM |
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MarysPlace
Posts: 2,930
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Ooops. You are actually taking all this seriously?
I must have boarded the bus without the ticket again...
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 9:18 AM |
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Wibber
Posts: 162
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Yeah, I guess it's naive of me to go to a dating site and expect to find someone to actually date. 
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 9:23 AM |
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MarysPlace
Posts: 2,930
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Well, I'll be damned. It didn't even cross my mind...!
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 9:25 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
Posts: 13,047
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Tickets??? We're supposed to have tickets??? 
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 9:30 AM |
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MarysPlace
Posts: 2,930
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Yep. Tickets for Albuquerque. Why? You don't have one? 
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 10:12 AM |
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Wibber
Posts: 162
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Isn't that an old Partridge Family song? "Point me in the direction of Albequerque." It would be scary if I could use my mind for anything useful...
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 10:17 AM |
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summersquall
Posts: 518
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I'm all 'back of the bus' when it comes to winks and mail...
That is by design though...;)
Wibber, I just read your profile and I'm not the least bit surprised that you don't get any winks or emails. Here is a little constructive criticism, please don't take offense.
Your entire profile (rather lengthy) is based on everything you say you are not or don't want. Here are a few things from your profile;
I'm not a pain in the ass.
To be honest, I need to lose 20 pounds and I perceive every other woman on the face of the earth to have much better hair than mine, resulting in poor self esteem.
I think the concept of "soulmate" is a load of crap.
Marriage is a lot of work and I don't plan to work that hard ever again.
So basically you're telling everyone that reads your profile you have low self esteem and a jaded point of view on a relationship at best. Here is my suggestion, if you're only looking for casual dating, then just tell people that's what you want.
Try shortening your profile and using some positives about yourself rather than all those negatives. Change your picture to something with a smile. Be a little positive about yourself, tell people why you would be fun to take out, not why you wouldn't be.
Just my 2 cents, take it for what it's worth...
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 10:24 AM |
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MarysPlace
Posts: 2,930
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I'm officially appointing summersquall as the smartest bear in this thread. Or maybe this forum. Oh, alright, you can have the site. ;)
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 10:55 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
Posts: 13,047
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Alburquerque!!  I thought they said, "Albert's querky". I agreed and went to the next shortest line...a free scenic bus tour of BFE!!!!!!! 
 
And, yes, I agree....Summersquall does seem to have his picnic basket squared away!!!!  Great advice to anybody and anybody!!!
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 11:39 AM |
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Pete73052
Posts: 19,370
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I thought the "turn left at Albuquerque" was a Bugs Bunny line???
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 5:29 PM |
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misskitty56
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i didnt realize there was a bus.... and its scary if someone remembers a Partridge famaily song...its scary,period..out there...dating sucks...lol..mnaybe squalss needs to bne the official profile writier, like there are ppl who write resumes...
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 5:44 PM |
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altogirl67
Posts: 1,309
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Again, I have to agree with summersquall. I thought I'd take a look at your profile and see is there was anything that jumped out at me. Sweetie, I think you're great but your profile starts off in a very negative tone and then just keeps going. I'd bet you that a lot of guys who look at your profile along after the first line. It's not that you think you need to lose 20 lbs but rather that starting off with something you DON'T like about yourself is a turn-off to a lot of people. Not that my profile is just fantastic but I've been on here for a long time and I still get winks and emails everyday. I truly don't think that to most people, it's about your actual physical attributes but rather how confident you are in yourself. Change the tone of your profile so that it reeks with confidence and positive energy and I promise you that you will get better results. Just try it, ok? And GOOD LUCK!!!!!! 
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| Nov 14, 2005 @ 2:49 PM |
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altogirl67
Posts: 1,309
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HEY! Check out WIBBER's new profile! It's awesome!
How's it goin' for ya? 
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| Nov 14, 2005 @ 4:04 PM |
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summersquall
Posts: 518
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I did see it and I agree! Very big improvements!
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| Nov 14, 2005 @ 4:49 PM |
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Wibber
Posts: 162
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HEY! Check out WIBBER's new profile! It's awesome!
How's it goin' for ya?
Actually the only mail I'm getting are from people on the forums. But having friends to write to is cool too. Thanks you guys.
Gail
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| Nov 14, 2005 @ 5:08 PM |
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lecriveuse
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but, wibber, u may never know how u could meet someone. and writing 2 people from the forum can help the waiting time seem less longer. until ur mr right comes along, just be deviant with other folks. 
good luck (as if you'll need it). 
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| Nov 14, 2005 @ 5:33 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
Posts: 13,047
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Gail....You did a marvelous job on your new profile!!!! Very upbeat and positive....you go girl It's a difference of night and day and I know that you'll be seeing the results soon!!!!!
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| Nov 15, 2005 @ 8:25 PM |
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sunchaser59
Posts: 528
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Good response, Wibber :)
Hange in there and keep the faith.
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| Nov 15, 2005 @ 8:35 PM |
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sunchaser59
Posts: 528
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Oooops! That would be hang....in there.
P.S.
Nobodys perfect, thank goodness, no matter what *they* may think.... Perfect would be,very,difficult/impossible to live with, anyway.
I love all the comments. BUT, here we all are. 
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