| Mar 16, 2006 @ 11:06 PM |
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Magickman
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Dry Spells. This can be a painful topic. I suppose nearly all of us have had dry spells, periods of time with no dating partners, and no relationships.
The reasons could be various and diverse. Dating burn out. Emotional pain. Out of work. Can't seem to meet anyone new. Anger at the opposite sex. Could not find a date. Recently out of a LTR. Lots of things.
I have had some extended dry spells, the longest being about ten years. For that long, I did not meet any single women. None. 500 dateless weekends. Bummer.
How about you folks? What was your longest dry spell? What do you think caused it? How did it end? Or is it still continuing?
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 12:16 AM |
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JesterDrawers
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The reasons could be various and diverse. Dating burn out. Emotional pain. Out of work.
Wrong shoes.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 12:26 AM |
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definitelydi
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 I love you Jester!
But seriously, yes, we've all had dry spells. Most of mine were due to not being in a position within myself to be in any kind of relationship. I'm not suffering a dry spell currently, and for that I am thankful! He must like my shoes! 
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 12:48 AM |
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Magickman
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This thread generates two responses, and both mention shoes.
Touche.
For decades, mostly dateless decades, I was a tennis shoe guy.
Only after I started up with the high heeled boots, did the women begin warming to me. The shoes that made me taller, albeit ersatz taller, gave me more confidence.
Confidence, even high heeled confidence, helped me to get dates. Anything that helps diminish the dry spells, is OK with me.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 12:49 AM |
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sweet5red
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well my daughter says i dont get out enough .. I do work strange hours and my days off vary... im not the bar type so i have to find other venues to meet people.. although i was kinda burned out on the dating thing had to kinda back up and regroup... but after 7 years divorced/ single i sure would love to meet someone.. sweet N Louisiana 
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 5:52 AM |
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mailorderannie
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Confidence,
That's the key right there!
I've had my dry spells and there were a couple that I absolutely hated. I'm not dating right now, but I see this time as a "fertile period" to work toward my personal goals. Its just a matter of perspective. If I meet someone right now, great...if I don't, I'm not wasting time sitting around waiting. At my age, wasting time is a bad thing, lol.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 6:50 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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What do you think caused it?
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My choice not too..no other reason. 
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 9:07 AM |
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holding4u
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Dry spell - more like arid desert. But what the heck - I like to play in the sand.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 9:22 AM |
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mailorderannie
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That's it holding! when you find yourself in sand, make sand castles! 
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 9:31 AM |
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beachnutRU
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dry spells I am in the middle of the NV desert. Tell me about it. Oh you are talking about other types.
That too.  
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 9:40 AM |
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zulamaze
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Dry spells? Oh that is when it has not rained in a while.
I get it now.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 10:56 AM |
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razzired
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(sweet5red.....Hi from mingles!!  )
I can so relate to this topic! I do date, but so far, there hasn't been anyone I wanted to see naked in a long -- long -- loonnnnggg -- time. But that's my own fault, since I have very definite ideas about what I'm looking for.
I can't say I'm exactly happy to be in this situation, but you know what they say...better safe than taking penicillin the rest of your life.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 11:05 AM |
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SylvanDreams
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I suppose one could say I have been in a dry spell since my divorce 13 years ago. However, it was by my choice--I had four young children to raise.
Now, they are (almost) raised, and here I am on MD, "testing the social waters"... I am not sure the dry spell will end anytime soon, but it will still be by my choice. When I am ready, it'll end. For now, I am learning from and enjoying the MD community.
I don' need no stinkin' date to be happy....I have MD ... and dancing bananas! 
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 12:56 PM |
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ahnyceleven
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my longest dry spell, as you call it, was from the time I awakened this morning until right now.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 12:58 PM |
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ahnyceleven
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oh...I am sorry my good man...I misunderstood what you meant exactly by the phrase dry spell. In that case, my longest dry spell has been from about 40 mins AFTER I awakened this morning until just now.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 1:01 PM |
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ahnyceleven
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I've been told I must behave. I will. Even in the face of the horrible memory of your shopping date post.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 1:14 PM |
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someone_me
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Magick,
I've found if you take the time to learn and understand how the whole attraction thing works for women and men, that once you start to get a grip on it you'll have fewer and further in between dry spells.
Okay, maybe not for those who refuse to try to grow personally in this area, but it sure worked that way for me. I got frustrated enough with it all that I made the decision to learn about it and seems now the only dry spells I have are the ones where I decide to take them.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 1:14 PM |
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holding4u
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 1:23 PM |
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sissycat411
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educating ones self .....does wonders.....also knowing yourself...your desires, your wants and needs.....and what you have to offer someone else....you might invite into your life........if you have a good understanding of these things...its not dry spells........it's waiting for the right person....and not having to be with someone just to be with someone......you wait and look for the right someone........makes life so much easier...
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 1:36 PM |
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beachnutRU
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Sissy you sparked something here, a book I almost finished called In the Meantime:Finding Yourself and the Love You Want....... by Iyanla Vanzant. She talks about these in between or dry zones and how helpful they can be.
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