| Mar 19, 2006 @ 4:23 AM |
How important is information about parenthood in profiles?
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RareQuestor
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I have read several threads on this issue, but there does not seem to be a consensus so I thought I would address this question here.
Is it important to a woman whether a guy includes information about his choice regarding children in his profile? If a man prefers not to have children, for example, should he state that in his ad or is it simply a very personal question?
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 7:57 AM |
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walkingman
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There are 2 part's in youur profile that you can state that. I think it would not make no sense sense not to state your living situation and your preference with children. It's not like the issue would not come up. It is vitial and not to personal.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 8:37 AM |
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spongebob777
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I think it's important whether a man or a woman has/wants children.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 8:42 AM |
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chinabull2000
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It's absolutely vital in many ways. Firstly my daughter lives with me so it is vitalk that any woman that may wish to become involved with me knows this up front and happily accepts it, and secondly it is equally important whether or not someone wishes to have (more) children in the future.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 10:46 AM |
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pitbullgurl
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I think it's extremely important. It saves all of us a lot of time. 
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 10:53 AM |
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father_heart
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youre here to meet and greet with me not me kids, When and if the time comes that i decide that you would benifit from my angels, then sure ill introduce ya and from there youre on your own. lol
yet then again, it up to the one that post their profile
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 10:58 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Doesn`t really matter to me whether they have that on their profile...I can always ask.. 
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 10:59 AM |
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Loreli
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I think it is important to state that, because if a person does not want more children, but you do, you wouldn't be a match. And if somebody was not a "child lover" then they probably are not going to be a match for somebody with children. Unless those children are grown and moved away. Which a person can fill in on the "about your children" section.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 3:19 PM |
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MrBSteele
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Like has been said, it is really up to the individual. And while I dont know that filling in the "about my children" section is all that important in the first stages of meeting people, the "Do you have?" I do believe is a bit more important for the same reasons stated that some people are not "children" people.
The more information provided in a profile - the more that someone can learn about you, the more likely they may be to answer your ad. I know this is the way I am. The more complete the profile, the more likely I am to respond, but one or two missing "pre-selected answer" questions are generally not that big of a deal.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 3:35 PM |
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Loreli
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The reason I think it's important is because if one is honestly looking for a potential mate, it saves time invested in getting to know somebody. If two people are just looking for intimate activities online chat or whatever, then it really doesn't matter. 
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 4:37 PM |
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Angel54214
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I vote that it is an importance to the profile. Some women can not have any children or any more children.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 11:10 PM |
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moonstarr
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SInce children are very important to their parents, it is an issue that would definitely come into play in a relationship. So I would tend to say that for those looking for a relationship, yes, it's important to know the preference.
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| Mar 25, 2006 @ 12:37 AM |
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wandaful123
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Going with the majority on this one. It;s one of the first things I check in a profile. Can make a major difference in a relationship.
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| Mar 25, 2006 @ 12:48 AM |
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luvshorses644
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I think children are a vital part of our lives (for those of us that have or want) and therefore is important to know. My belief is that if it is in your profile, it would be of benefit to those "potential" matches that are "not children" people and might save some emotional frustration of getting to know someone and then learning that this could be a different lifestyle that what one might originally be looking for. Besides, the subject will come up sooner or later, and it is just as easy to state that you have been "blessed with children", "would like to have more children" or "that you just do not see children in your future "right in the profile.
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| Mar 25, 2006 @ 12:48 AM |
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luvshorses644
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I think children are a vital part of our lives (for those of us that have or want) and therefore is important to know. My belief is that if it is in your profile, it would be of benefit to those "potential" matches that are "not children" people and might save some emotional frustration of getting to know someone and then learning that this could be a different lifestyle that what one might originally be looking for. Besides, the subject will come up sooner or later, and it is just as easy to state that you have been "blessed with children", "would like to have more children" or "that you just do not see children in your future "right in the profile.
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| Mar 25, 2006 @ 7:38 AM |
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altogirl67
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I think it's very important to state whether you want more children or not. I can scan a profile and there a few deal breakers I can spot immediately. If they say they do not want children, I don't even bother reading the rest of it. I want kids and won't compromise on that and it would be a complete waste of my time to even begin corresponding with someone who doesn't. I don't think that information is any more personal than anything else you reveal on your profile. It's very relevant information for a potential mate.
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| Mar 25, 2006 @ 7:52 AM |
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Curiosity408
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I vote yes, also. Very important.
A friend of mine just recently met a guy who really liked her and she him, but because he is a few years younger than she is and has no children, and she is in her early 40s and has a teenage son, he actually told her that she was too old for him! So, I think it's better to save those kind of potentially hurtful comments by not even bothering to meet in the first place.
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| Mar 25, 2006 @ 11:54 AM |
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Magickman
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I think marital status, children, and living situation are basic and necessary information.
Hiding essential information, in the hopes of gaining more contacts, is game playing, and not productive, either.
We are better off by disclosing basics, and letting others decide what they like.
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| Mar 27, 2006 @ 9:05 AM |
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Cupcake43130
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I agree with the masses....it is an important piece of information. I have children and want any prospective partners to be aware of that. There are people out there that don't relate well to kids and don't want to be involved in their lives. I personally welcome a man with children as they can relate to my hectic lifestyle. However, I would not rule out someone just because they don't have/want kids.
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| Apr 3, 2006 @ 12:25 PM |
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RareQuestor
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Thanks for all of the responses!
It is a surprisingly vexing issue. One one hand, the optimist within me (who still exists despite my efforts to snuff him  ) insists that love is one of the most powerful forces in the world and that people can and do change. On the other hand, the realist within me (some cynically call him a cynic) points out that reproduction is a basic human drive and that 99.9% of women either have or want to have children.
I certainly concur that we should acknowledge it if you already children (even if they do not live with you.) It is a set of obligations and choices that comprise a significant part of your life and it is delusional to think that this will not affect your relationships.
The question of whether or not we wish to have children is more difficult to answer. If I state that I do not wish to have children then I am for all practical purposes limited to the .01% of women who do not wish to have children.
It is always difficult to meet that special someone and establish a relationship, of course. It is possible that I am sabotaging the relationship by not providing this information in my profile. The fact that it is a preference (people can usually choose whether or not to have children) gives me cause to think that maybe it would be better if any woman interested in me actually got to know me before I provide this information.
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