| Mar 19, 2006 @ 10:04 AM |
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raykl
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Love at first sight is best
Can we say "Harlequin Novels"- How about Lust- This is just an initial attraction. Love is something that builds over time.
Think about those who you did not give a chance.
Having sex early
Does the word "slut" or "easy" ring a bell? If you need it then by all means go for it- otherwise, stop and think. Men appreciate a roll in the hay, but their insecurities begin to form about how many others you have done this with.
Someone who’s taken.
Sure, they will leave their family or love for you and later they will leave you for the next one. You are just a temporary relief for the boredom that they feel. Move on.
Telling friends you’re seriously not looking.
Fact: Most relationships happen through being "fixed up" by someone- Why lose this source?
Ignoring red flags
Alcohol-abuse-cheating-drugs-seldom available-etc. You are NOT going to change a person, no matter how much you try or they say they will change. Move on and spend your charity work on people who appreciate it.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 10:10 AM |
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spongebob777
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"Harlequin Novels"
I had a girlfriend who lived for those things, she got new ones in the mail a couple of times a week. Unfortunately she was a youngster and seemed to believe that the novels were the way real life was supposed to be and I could only play Fabio's role for so long.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 10:12 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Thinking that even if there's no real chemistry, it may develop in time
This one's for the ladies...I think a man can charm us enough over time, but I don't think it ever works in the opposite direction.
Not being on the same page about having kids
It's a lose-lose situation if one of you decides to have a child you don't really feel ready for, to please the other.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 10:16 AM |
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Loreli
Posts: 25,399
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Not being who you really are in the early dating stages on
The truth will come out and people will get hurt later.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 4:36 PM |
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holding4u
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Ray, thanks for the enlightenment. I have often wondered what men's opinions were on such things. You have enlightened me.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 4:45 PM |
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Angel54214
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Being honest up front on important life issues should be first on the communication agenda. Compatibility in life style second. If one jumps into dating with out first self evaluation can cause a havoc later on. Being prepared ahead of time is an intelligent asset.
It's like wondering in a forest without being familiar with the surroundings, time of day or direction. Being unprepared with no concept of getting lost or being victim of dangers that could lie ahead. The forest is oh so pretty and drawing, but one should take heed to preparation before the exciting journey.
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| Mar 19, 2006 @ 8:56 PM |
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painter007
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I ignore the red flags and dont open as I should. Im cautious
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| Mar 20, 2006 @ 9:31 AM |
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father_heart
Posts: 1,110
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this really should go in the lastfor words post yet fittign here too.
I have 3 sons.
I need......,
and
I want.......,
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| Mar 20, 2006 @ 8:26 PM |
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sapphirerose
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A love/dating mistake is when someone believes that they "love" someone because they "need" them.
Shouldn't it be they "need" them because they "love" them
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| Mar 20, 2006 @ 9:10 PM |
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JesterDrawers
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I'd like to think it's more of "I WANT you because I love you."
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| Mar 20, 2006 @ 9:29 PM |
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weyout931
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i would like to say that being older we do not put these things, in the right prospective, that we do not need someone for the sexual side of life as much as we need compionship. i think i need some one to spend the rest of my life with. i love the romantic side of life and the things that go with being with some one. love for your family and friends become more important than having the love of your life.
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| Mar 23, 2006 @ 9:56 AM |
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WickedWench
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Thinking that even if there's no real chemistry, it may develop in time
That's a myth. It's either there or it's not and it won't "grow". It's on a level beyond your control.
Does the word "slut" or "easy" ring a bell?
Because a woman is sexually active? What era is that from? If a woman is out there having sex she's prolly doing it with a guy. 
I find it funny that men are called "studs" if they're out boffing lots of women but women are "sluts" for doing the same as men. A wee double standard
ok for guys but not women. 
First mistake would be using double standards like that and referring to a woman as a "slut" or any other nasty name. No respect.
STRIKE ONE!!!!!!!!!!!
and what other little un-evolved ideas are lurking in his mind hmmmmmm? does he call woman other derogatory names too? hmmm 
[Edited on 3/23/2006 10:01 AM]
[Edited on 3/23/2006 10:05 AM]
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 11:55 PM |
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grumblebear
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No matter what sex you are, it is wrong on too many levels to sleep around, its a sure way of losing respect of others, as well as your self respect...
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 10:00 AM |
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DrewinJersey
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Having Sex Early.
Does the word "slut" or "easy" ring a bell? If you need it then by all means go for it- otherwise, stop and think. Men appreciate a roll in the hay, but their insecurities begin to form about how many others you have done this with.
See, this one I take some serious issue with, but it's really the only one. I have no problem respecting a girl who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to let it be known and let nature take it's course; if the chemistry and the attraction is there, and two people are mature enough to do it and still respect each other afterwards, then I think it's unfair to call a girl a slut or easy for sleeping with a guy early.
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