| Mar 24, 2006 @ 1:16 PM |
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painter007
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With all this online dating it seems like the art of "courting" someone has disappeared. Does anyone remember how ?and whats your favorite way ?
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 1:29 PM |
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MotownManiax
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 Hmmm, Courting?
Was that when men waxed down their moustaches and women pressed their pantaloons in anticipation of the first meeting in the parlor?
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 1:35 PM |
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Loreli
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Courting really has gone by the wayside. I remember it as
calling and talking
dinner/dancing
leaving little gifts and notes for no reason
him bringing flowers, her baking his favorite treats
meeting the families
getting engaged
Planning your life together
(and the first four should never stop!)
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 1:43 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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pantaloons
 more like knickers..
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 1:46 PM |
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Curiosity408
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Courting...........good question!
Is that close to what they call "stalking" nowadays? 
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 1:50 PM |
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flirt_with_me
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Awww Loreli,
That sounds dreamy, What did happen to all that?
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 1:52 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Reading poetry to each other.. 
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 1:54 PM |
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Curiosity408
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That sounds dreamy, What did happen to all that?
I think it was called "the woman's movement".
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 1:57 PM |
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keeno
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hmmmm, i guess i had it wrong, i thought courting was part of the divorce process.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 2:17 PM |
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someone_me
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Hey Painter, I'd let you fly out here and court me. 
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 2:18 PM |
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MotownManiax
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hmmmm, i guess i had it wrong, i thought courting was part of the divorce process.
Wow, have times changed. 
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 2:22 PM |
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swingpup
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That sounds dreamy, What did happen to all that?
It was replaced by computers, cell phones and iced tea (no sugar) 
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 2:48 PM |
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keeno
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hey mo, i was just trying to be funny, i actually feel more like swingpups responce, replaced by computers and technology. courting should come/happen if we actually decide on dating someone, but then i have never said no to a woman that has asked me out. maybe the ladies here would find more romance if they said yes once in awhile, just a thought, ken
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 3:05 PM |
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MotownManiax
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I'm with ya Keeno...for once "I'd" like to be wined and dined.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 3:16 PM |
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Jankia
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[/QUOTE]What did happen to all that?[QUOTE]
Swingpup and Curiousity408 gave splendid answers but I am going to add one...
For some damn reason we had to graduate highschool and "growup" so to speak.
Courting like Lori remembers was my favorite way.I would go to a girls house in my best clothes,not a suit but in clean and ironed gear,not even thinking that sex was going to be on the menu but wanting to make a good impression for her family.I would also bring along something special that she could keep forever to remember me by.Not expensive jewelry or flowers that eventually die but something simple that I made,like a maple candle holder turned on the lathe or a small wooden jewelry box.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 3:28 PM |
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flirt_with_me
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I saw a counselor after my divorce, he told me when I have a date we should have the sex at the very begging of the date and get it over with so the rest of the time could be spent getting to know each other without that distraction or the anticipation getting in the way. 
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 3:33 PM |
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DawolfLover
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Maybe i'm just sheltered or something, but I hadn't realized that courting had gone by the wayside. I still follow most everything that Loreli said to the letter. My idea of a great first date is getting to know someone and ends with a hug or maybe a kiss at absolute most if things feel right. In my opinion sex isn't even on my mind until we've dated quite a few times and I realize we might have a lengthy future in front of us.
As a matter of fact, my last girlfriend was a little taken back when I left her a little note and stuffed animal on her car while she was at work. She wasn't used to spontaneous acts of chivalry.
The only part of courting I think Loreli left out was compliment one another often. But she is definitely right that you need to keep courting your love far after marriage. Imagine how nice it feels when someone does something for you that makes you feel special. Give that to someone everyday and I guarantee they'll stick by your side.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 3:33 PM |
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Outdoorjoe
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Dang! here I go again with another "couldn't resist".
I think the internet is a great way to MEET someone and decide if a "courtship" is in oder.
As defined by Loreli;
.... I remember it as
calling and talking
dinner/dancing
leaving little gifts and notes for no reason
him bringing flowers, her baking his favorite treats
meeting the families
getting engaged
Planning your life together
(and the first four should never stop!)
Other than "gettting engaged and planning your life together", I am surprised that much of the above list isn't really a part of everyone's definition of dating. Call me a hopeless romantic, I guess!
In any case, planning a life together and engagement; maybe sooner than I think.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 3:37 PM |
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beachnutRU
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I think it was called "the woman's movement".
I think it was the internet and singles sites that did away with courtship. We used to have to ask the dads permission. Curiousity you may have hit on something.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 3:40 PM |
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Curiosity408
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Ya know, Jankia mentioned high school and brought up an old memory of mine.
I guess that WAS the last (if not only) time I was ever really "courted". *sigh* You know, not long ago, I even tried to find that guy, but had no luck. Now there's a regret (that I ever let HIM go. He joined the Navy, and I dropped off communication with him. Oh.........stupid me!)
Even though I'm not an incurable romantic-type, I do like the compliment each other thing. I have no problem complimenting men quite often (now that I think about it), and I do like hearing things like that from men, also.
Ah..........the good ole days!
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