| Nov 16, 2005 @ 5:03 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Now wait a minute. My husband is "perfect" for me. That is the thing. 
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 6:34 PM |
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TiredofZGame
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"All we need is love"
If that were alowed to be then there would be no need to shop or go to work. Nobody could sell us stuff to make us happy or make us work to earn the money to pay for it. We would all be a bunch of hippies:) Ofcourse that had to be screwed up...
I think anything worth loving is something worth working for. I don't think it's as black and white as you are making it out to be.
You sound a bit jaded?
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 6:36 PM |
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TiredofZGame
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Bingo!
That's it. Who I think is perfect is not going to be the same design and make up as the next.
I think it's GREAT to see someone say their husband is "perfect for them".
Loving, lasting relationships are a dying breed.
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 5:01 AM |
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Pontus6
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In Vietnam you are allowed as many wives and husbands as you want. The east is more progressive on this. I never liked fundamentalist religion. Too black and white, good and evil, right and wrong....
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 9:56 AM |
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summersquall
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Many men struggle to provide enough attention and love for one woman, let alone two of them.
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 12:09 PM |
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TiredofZGame
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Perhaps just a ready-made excuse to be unfaithful, who knows?
Excusing bad behaviour in the name of culture and ideology is the oldest trick in the book. The Chinese have been doing it for eons.
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 12:42 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Summersqual!!!!! 
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 1:50 PM |
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someone_me
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Why is it that so many people are looking for the perfect person? Why aren't they focused on being the perfect person that everyone is looking for?
That's my philosophy and approach. I'm working on being the kind of person who'll attract the type of person I want so when she comes along, I'll be ready.  The rest is just details. In the meantime, I'm going to enjoy the process. Each time I go out is nothing more than just practice for making me better, as long as I learn something and have fun doing so. 
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 3:44 PM |
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Pontus6
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Monogamy is a gift from the church.
It is how they kept power over us in the age of faith.
They told us who we could and could not love.
Control is the killer.
Love wants to be free.
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 6:17 PM |
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2aspires
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The problem is you shouldnt be looking for the perfect
person, just sombody that compliments you, makes you smile, look forward to riseing in the morning, just being alive.Cause the next day is not promised.So live the day you awake to the fulles with the one you're with.
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| Nov 18, 2005 @ 11:21 AM |
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Pontus6
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Yup, People are just so much into themselves and what they want and expect that they just never even consider to give the other person anything or to be something to someone. And they wonder why they are alone and complain that life is unfair or that all men are liars and cheaters. As if they got a guarantee with life when they got it…
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| Nov 18, 2005 @ 12:32 PM |
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grumblebear
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Perfection:
1. The quality or condition of being perfect.
2. The act or process of perfecting: Perfection of the invention took years.
3. A person or thing considered to be perfect.
4. An instance of excellence.
Everything has flaws, that is life. Perfect diamonds have flaws and are cut along the flaw...
I have no desire or need for perfection, I choose my friends for flaws we share and enjoy....
Love is messy, it has many weaknesses, it needs constant maintenance, things need to be adjusted, cleaned, rebuilt.
so many people don't see it or understand it...
Love is a shared obsession with another person. "You and Me against the World",
we all want and crave this... and yet some of us will not find it....
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| Nov 18, 2005 @ 1:20 PM |
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Pontus6
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I found love...
It took me 10 years to get out of it...
I have no regrets.
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| Nov 24, 2005 @ 9:45 PM |
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freebird71
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I believe there is no one perfect person, won't go into the religious aspect, a perfect person if you have to use the term is the person that complements the other. We all have our faults, imperfections, that is what makes us individuals and interesting. If you are seeking Mr/Ms perfect...you must be dillusional, come back to reality. If we could be perfect, we would never make mistakes, know the road to travel, and probably be boring. Just my opinion.
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| Nov 24, 2005 @ 10:53 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Look at it this way, if you’re a man and want a harem, polygamy is on the rise in Central Asia, move there. But bring plenty of money because from what I’ve read only rich businessmen and corrupt politicians can afford a lot of wives.
If you’re a woman and want worshipful husbands there’s the Minangkabau society in Western Sumatra. They’ve had a matriarchal society for hundreds of years, although the rise of western culture is threatening that existence.
But we live here, and in this society only monogamy is legal and tolerated, sooooooo, we abide by the culture we live in.
Blaming religious or state intervention for oppression when it comes to relationship choice is just not credible. There’s no one keeping anyone here.
As for looking for perfection, yes, the problem is most people are centered on Me, Me, Me...what are you going to do for ME in everything, instead of what we can bring TO the relationship. That doesn’t mean we have to be doormats or slaves, just be complimentary partners. Unfortunately, what I see is we are some of the most selfish, impatient, demanding, and unrealistic people on earth.
But I’m still optimistic.
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| Nov 25, 2005 @ 8:47 PM |
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Scooterkist
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No one is perfect...until you fall in love with them.
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| Nov 26, 2005 @ 1:00 AM |
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conny90045
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There is no "perfect" person on this earth. The only one is "GOD"!!!!   
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| Nov 27, 2005 @ 10:06 AM |
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ash_uk
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well god made one mistake, he created the perfect arse hole, man...  
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 10:18 PM |
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sordofadonkey
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I'm not saying that this is good or the right way to go about things, but the older I get and the more I get let down, dumped, cheated on etc., the more cynical I get, which in turn makes me bitter and care less. When I act that way, smarter and better looking women seem to be attracted to me. When I do let my guard down and tell a woman that I really like her, I can hear their attraction vanish before her next sentence is fininshed. Strange but true in my case. So, for men, I say be a bastard and try to maintain that mindset at all costs. It seems to increase my value at least....shrug
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| Nov 29, 2005 @ 11:32 PM |
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Angel54214
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well god made one mistake, he created the perfect arse hole, man...
Then God made wo-man for him, he saw that she was good...until she opened her mouth  then all hell broke loose.. 
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