| Apr 3, 2006 @ 10:54 PM |
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WickedWench
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Whaddya think of this? Would you ask for one or how would you respond if you were asked to sign one.
Personally I'd ask for one. Other than the obvious that I don't wish to lose my home, I'd want my partner to know I don't want his $$$. Seems a lot of people (men especially) end up getting cleaned right out so to stop that .........
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| Apr 3, 2006 @ 10:58 PM |
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richmondcowgirl83
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my ex & I have talked about this one..... we would just so I don't get cleaned out cause I'm worth more not to mention his ex-wife would try to take what I have if we had gotten married.
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| Apr 3, 2006 @ 11:05 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Yes, and yes. I'd want one and I'd sign one. To quote Holding4U, I don't share my money or my chocolates. And the flip side of that is God Bless the Child that's Got His or Her Own. It's not even about trust, it just makes it simple.
Of course, you can be an extremist like my grandma. She was widowed and remarried (didn't like sleeping alone). They had a really simple agreement, her kids got what she brought to the marriage, his kids got what he brought to the marriage, and the survivor's children inherited all the jointly held property. Grandma had a stroke and was totally paralyzed for 7 years; she died one week after gramps, and I'll swear to my dying day it was so her kids would inherit.
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| Apr 3, 2006 @ 11:12 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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Well, if I ever get married again, ya darn tootin I want a prenupt. When I win the lottery I have big plans! Gonna have a full body cosemtic surgery done and turn myself into a young Julia Roberts and then I'm going on a whirl wind fling across the country! Gonna live it up and do all the things I wanna do! Ain't gonna have time to dally around in court fighting over whether I should share my money with him! After all... I WON IT!!! .....hehehe  
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| Apr 3, 2006 @ 11:14 PM |
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sleeping_beauty
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interesting idea....i may opt for this. i get the house . he gets the dog.
the only problem being that would your partner agree with this? anyway, i think this is important if you are realistic and thinking ahead of the potential most drastic thing that could happen if he suddenly divorced you.
regards,
Sleeping_Beauty
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| Apr 3, 2006 @ 11:32 PM |
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fineartist
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The reality of marriage, at least in North America, much of Europe, etc., basically modern marriage, is that aside from the romantic ideal of two people coming together to become one, you are also combining earnings and assets. We would all like to think that "I've found the one and nothing can go wrong." but things do happen. Not all marriages work out and the last thing people need during the difficult period of separation from their spouse is to fight over "who gets what?".
Implementing a prenuptial agreement is like buying insurance. You are simply preparing for the possibility of life taking an unexpected turn. Expect the best but prepare for the worst. Such preparation can and will save much head(and heart)ache down the road.
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 12:16 AM |
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swingpup
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Wowsa....Nothing can kill romance faster for some than the word prenup. But with about one in three of all first marriages ending in divorce, and 50 percent of second or third ones hitting the skids, a prenup is smart idea per financial planning, legal out comes and to minimize financial losses.
A person who has managed to save $30,000 may be more protective of their little nest egg than someone who has millions. Those are sometimes the most jealously guarded assets because it has taken a lot of hard work to accumulate a small amount.
If you possess assets such as a home, stock or retirement funds
own all or part of a business, may be receiving an inheritance or have children and/or grandchildren from a previous marriage a prenup maybe something for you to consider.
Also if one of you is much wealthier than the other, one of you will be supporting the other through college or have loved ones who need to be taken care of, such as elderly parents, again think about it. You have or the "other" are pursuing a degree or license in a potentially lucrative profession such as medicine, it maybe a great idea. You could see a big increase in income because your business is taking off, or that garage band you play in has just gotten a contract with a big record company, etc., etc., etc.
Wicked is on the right track.  Professionally speaking, it's a very good idea. Fees for prenups depend on how long they take to draft can range from $150 to $500 an hour depending on where you reside. It's money well spent. 
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 2:43 AM |
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grumblebear
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Pre-nupt's are a great idea, but many states don't recognize some parts...
Minnesota when you marry, its automatic half of your house is now the spouse's.... 10 years of marriage, half of your pension is now theirs...
20 years of marriage alimony...
Assets, brought into the marriage except the house, can be excluded, but after 10 years of marriage, prenupt's are no longer valid here...
so check your local reg.s and laws...
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 7:08 AM |
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Cupcake43130
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I would insist on one and I would sign one without hesitation. I think what each party brings into the marriage should be theirs in the unfortunate case the marriage fails. Joint property obtained during the marriage should be divided equally.
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 8:00 AM |
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MICHIGANGIRL11
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After having to pay a large settlement to my ex...you bet I would have a prenup.
Migirl11
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 8:09 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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No I wouldn`t ask for a prenupt..
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 9:26 AM |
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zulamaze
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I see nothing wrong with it.
I already lost my ass in divorce, so
yes, I would welcome one..
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 9:29 AM |
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Jankia
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I had a prenupt, still lost my tail in the divorce but not nearly as bad as I would of if we didnt.
It was an escalating setup where she would acquire 3 percent of business for every year we were married.
Seven years = 21%.
That seemed fair to me at the time except she didnt acquire 21% of my debt.
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 4:55 PM |
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chinabull2000
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If I ever get married again, then I will definitely have a pre-nup.... I've started over from scratch once already, and I'm certainly got gonna ever go through that again!!
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 7:19 PM |
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holding4u
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In this era of steadily increasing divorce rates, I would highly recommend anyone who has large personal assets or who as already been burned to sign a prenup. If you really love someone, you should not be interested in their money, unless you help them acquire it.
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 10:31 PM |
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dark_moon
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Because of the laws in my state, and because my last husband turned out to be a gold digger (willing to kill to get what he was after), I would not get married again without one.
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| Apr 5, 2006 @ 4:51 PM |
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someone_me
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Prenups? Heck no! Then how will I ever marry Wicked and then divorce her a week later, taking half her money?
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| Apr 5, 2006 @ 5:04 PM |
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horselady9
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DarkMoon, I'm with you! But you have to consider local (state) laws in the process! In some states, that prenupt won't stand up to scrutiny or testing!
The other consideration is that independent of a prenupt, one's obligations regarding debts incurred by the other party in the marriage can eat into even the best intended agreement! And that can apply even if the spouse leaves you, and leaves the state, leaving you holding the unexpected bag....
On second thought... I can't see any reason to marry again, prenupt or no! 
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| Apr 5, 2006 @ 8:10 PM |
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Pete73052
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No WAY would I go for a pre-nup. I want half of whatever she's got. 
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| Apr 5, 2006 @ 8:16 PM |
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WickedWench
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Prenups? Heck no! Then how will I ever marry Wicked and then divorce her a week later, taking half her money?
You can't even catch me with your sneakers on..... Never mind marry me
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