| Apr 4, 2006 @ 4:23 PM |
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Danger
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i know some people will prefer younger men/women and some..prefer older men/women. myself i have always 'prefered' older men but found that younger men were more attracted to me-but since i like the older men i guess i never have been 'happy'.
about a month or so ago i started chatting to a man that was older then me. we dated and really have hit it off. he is everything i have wanted in a man and more...so what is stopping me-or holding me back?? i think of him every moment my mind is clear for thought...(got to remember i am blonde so don't happen as often as most people)...
any advice??
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 4:53 PM |
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chinabull2000
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After so many years of either being single or with the wrong woman, I'm sure that if the "right" woman came along then I'd probably fluff my lines, along with everything else! I suspect that this is what you're going through now, and my only advice is to grab your chance of happiness before it's too late and he thinks that you're not REALLY interested.
It sounds like you're getting along really well, so why not tell him your worries, and let him help you. I am sure that if he really is the right guy for you, then he will understand and help you, also helping himself.
Good luck Danger!!
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 4:57 PM |
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spongebob777
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Not everybody does well with commitment. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just the way you are.
Me? I can't wait to be committed.
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 4:59 PM |
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lj450
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Sounds like you are missing the "thrill of the chase"......whether young or old, some people just enjoy the pursuit/being pursued part the most......when that is over, they begin to think of greener grass.
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 5:10 PM |
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the_real_me_ok
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The best and only advice I would give in a situation like yours is if you really think you feel strongly about him, meet him face to face. Very seldom do "internet" relationships go very far. If it's meant to be, it will work out but you will only know that in person. Keeping it online isn't realistic. Make a plan ASAP, like within the next couple of weeks and find out if it's the real thing.
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 5:27 PM |
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SylvanDreams
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Danger, it seems you might be afraid he is "too good to be true." You have met in person, since you said you dated? And you said he is everything you wanted.
Have you noticed anything that threw up a red flag? If not, you might just be afraid that they are there, but you can't see them.
My advice is to enjoy getting to know your new guy, and relax. If any red flags fly up, that is when you might need to consider worrying...but until, and IF, that happens....just ENJOY! 
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 6:05 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Hm, some one different? Or the same guy?
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 6:11 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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i think of him every moment my mind is clear for thought...(
If you feel that strongly about him..then I say take a chance you never know he might be the one for you...but only you can make the final decision.. 
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 7:31 PM |
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walkingman
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These best thing you can do is to take it one day at a time.I think we all have a tendency to wonder when thing's are going so well after many time's that it has not. Don't think about why you are so happy . Just enjoy it.
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 7:54 PM |
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LSU79
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i think of him every moment my mind is clear for thought...
That's usually referred to as infatuation. Not a bad thing, as long as you recognize it for what it is. Best of luck on having it grow into something more.
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 8:07 PM |
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Danger
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Danger, it seems you might be afraid he is "too good to be true." You have met in person, since you said you dated? And you said he is everything you wanted.
omg! i think that IS it...i have never experienced a 'red flag' with him...all are green.
yes, katt-the same guy... 
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 8:10 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Oh, then by all means, snag him up and run for the goal line my dear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I will be on the side lines cheering for you  
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 8:59 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Oooooooohhhhh!!! Have I met this man?  If I have, Katt is right on. Nice man, so don't let some other smart woman make her move on him. You may be sorry.
Has he discussed his feelings with you? 
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 9:12 PM |
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altogirl67
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Danger, I have found that I am afraid of the good things that I truly want in life. It's as though there's a little feeling or voice in the back of my mind and heart telling me I don't deserve to have wonderful things in my life. It's a constant battle to relax and accept good things and not fight them so hard.
There's something in your message that makes me think you are doing the same thing... like there is something in you that causes you not to believe that you deserve the very best. It all boils down to self-esteem. If you love yourself, you will believe that you DO deserve wonderful things and you'll stop fighting so hard to push those things away and joyfully accept them into your life. Try to relax, focus on the very best parts of you and what you have to offer this world and accept this wonderful thing that is happening to you. You DO deserve it, ok?
Best of luck... 
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 9:15 PM |
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SunBabe
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DANGER!!! I turn my back for a few weeks and find out you've met somebody REAL?  OMG, enjoy-enjoy-enjoy, lady...and remember: You're worth it -- you're probably making him as happy as he's making you. BOTH of you take the time to enjoy-enjoy-enjoy  
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 11:57 PM |
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swingpup
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so what is stopping me-or holding me back??
Enjoy your new found friend/lover. Don't worry about "what's holding you back," go with it and have fun. 
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| Apr 5, 2006 @ 12:54 AM |
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bevrice
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Sometimes there are hidden reasons for your hesitancy and thing that you see and know in your heart and your mind refuses to accept, yet, they are there. There is definitely a reason for your hesitancy, so look inside deep, open yourself up,and you will find that reason.
Maybe it is the concerns about younger/older things trying to surface. Maybe you have a father complex and need to deal with it, there can be lots of reasons, but the hesitancy is there so don't jump too quickly.
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| Apr 5, 2006 @ 12:47 PM |
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someone_me
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about a month or so ago i started chatting to a man that was older then me. we dated and really have hit it off.
No one has brought this part up yet? A month or so? Why not come back in a year or so and see if you are feeling the same way then? I wouldn't take away any of your excitement or joy here but do you honestly think you can really know someone after a month or so? Heck, I won't even begin to think this way till after three or four minimum. Just give things time to progress naturally, you'll have your answer.
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| Apr 5, 2006 @ 2:33 PM |
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AngelLight
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Relaaaax, go with the flow , observe and examine your inner responses to what is, remain open to yourself and to him and just take it from there.....one moment and day at a time
In time, you will not hesitate to go one way or another as you will know from deep within what is yours, and what is not.
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