| Apr 6, 2006 @ 8:51 PM |
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Lotus35
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Okay gents...here's the question.
A lady you are interested in has not been in a serious relationship by her own choice, they are complicated and can be a pain to try and maintain. She's up front with you that she wants to be friends and doesn't want the pressure of "dating". The other thing that she has is a friend with benefits...and has had this arrangement for a number of years now. My questions are, is this in any way unclear? What is it about that scenario that would make you dive straight in to dating? Can men and women have a friendly relationship and allow things to happen naturally? Okay...I know...that's more than one.
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 8:58 PM |
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spongebob777
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I can't see myself considering a relationship with a woman who has a friend with benefits. In my eyes she already has a relationship. I could be friends with her but I would seriously struggle with the friend in the background if things became more friendly between myself and the girl.
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 9:01 PM |
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nightrider3281
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i have had a few lady friends that all we do is hang out, Nothing ever happened but it was nice to have each other to lean on if we needed to. so i guess i am saying yes a man and woman can be friends and by chance if something happens it happens, if not the friendship will still be there.
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 9:03 PM |
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Jankia
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From what I can tell by what you posted which is a bit unclear,a relationship just as friends?
Sure
Can men and women have a friendly relationship and allow things to happen naturally?
Of course,Isnt that how its done between friends?
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 9:11 PM |
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waterfire
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Hi
Yes men and women can just have a friend thing going without the date scene. I have female friends I do things with but have never dated, just goof pals.
If like you say a lady was front with me about things and I liked doing things with her then yes I could accept her decision and just enjoy her company when it happens. It is nice when there is no pressure.
Enjoy 
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 9:22 PM |
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Lotus35
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Thanks guys...
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 9:51 PM |
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walkingman
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She has made ti clear to you that she won't get serious. A relationship is supposed to be between 2 people and not 3. Why waste your time.
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 10:01 PM |
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Jankia
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Why not a friendly relationship between three people Jeff?
just curious
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 10:19 PM |
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AngelLight
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Jankia, you look so innocent but you are really a bad boy aren't you? 
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 10:33 PM |
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Jankia
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I take it you havent been to the post office lately AngelLight? 
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 10:37 PM |
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Loreli
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I have...
you ain't in mine!!
....yet
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 10:39 PM |
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walkingman
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well Jankia I was a big three's company fan and could live with that ratio
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 10:43 PM |
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Jankia
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Youve got the picture Jeff 
Speaking of pictures Lori,I am in Iowas post offices.
Ive got a new "most wanted" poster due up here any time now.
Its from days ridin with the James gang.
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 10:44 PM |
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Loreli
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I will sure keep an eye out for it if I ever go back there....
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| Apr 7, 2006 @ 12:22 PM |
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grumblebear
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the idea that Lotus brought up, is a losing proposition... everyone involved loses...
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| Apr 7, 2006 @ 12:42 PM |
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painter007
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I have men friends....PERIOD no benefits allowed. I always welcome new friends and if it goes to something more...its even better. But then they would be my sweetie...and I really dont like sharing.
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| Apr 7, 2006 @ 12:48 PM |
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Haban3ro
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Put the shoe on the other foot.
If you were to tell a gal, "I'm not really into relationships, but if being friends works out, maybe I'll consider it. Oh, and BTW, I have a girlfriend, just a buddy, whom I bang whenever we feel the mood is right. I don't see that changing."
She'd run like the wind!  
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| Apr 7, 2006 @ 1:22 PM |
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garymiko
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good point Haban3ro
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| Apr 7, 2006 @ 3:48 PM |
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Outdoorjoe
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I am pretty much an "old fashioned" kind of guy. I don't believe in friends with benefits, sleeping around, or sex outside of monagamous relationships. I might play on a volleyball team, or casually interact with a woman as you describe, but her having a chance of anything more with me..... Its just NOT going to happen!
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| Apr 7, 2006 @ 6:06 PM |
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Lotus35
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All very good points, thanks.
A friend of mine and I constantly have this argument. I don't believe women can not be sexually involved with someone for any length of time, even if it's casual, without becoming emotionally involved. I agree with Painter that if you're friends and things progress...then, hopefully it's a monogamous thing. I don't share too well either.
But because I have chosen not to "date".. it can get a little....uh..dull ...and a few times a year...I cave...:(
Anyhow, despite it's infrequency...I went out with someone recently that I really clicked with and when asked a direct question, I have the misfortune of not being able to lie...It did not end well, he felt bad...I feel bad....:(
and now.....you know the rest of the story...
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