| Apr 10, 2006 @ 8:27 PM |
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sophie313
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What do you do when the one you love doesn't return your feelings? Everything feels right. Best friends, the whole nine yards. Everything in me tells me this is the one.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 8:30 PM |
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richmondcowgirl83
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I told him how I felt & that I wanted a serious relationship & he showed me the door.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 8:35 PM |
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spongebob777
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It sucks but there's really nothing you can do. I used to get drunk but I can't even do that anymore.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 8:35 PM |
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soul_decisions
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Accept it as it is, as difficult as it is and heal the heart as best you can
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 8:37 PM |
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wandaful123
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Does he know how you feel? Do you know how he feels? or are you assuming?
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 8:41 PM |
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sophie313
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Nothing has been left to assumption, no.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 8:48 PM |
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wandaful123
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You definitely deserve Kudo's for being brave enough to tell him, no regrets. Are you able to maintain a friendship or is it too difficult for you? Perhaps, if you are strong enough to accept he doesn't feel the same and not take it personal, you could continue in a wonderful friendship with someone you respect and who gives you the same back.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 8:55 PM |
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sophie313
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I'm trying. To lose the friendship would be unforgiveable.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 8:56 PM |
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sciurusniger
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There is absolutely nothing you can do. It's often kinder (to you) to break things off completely for a while, to put space and time between the two of you so that your heart can heal.
Of course there's always a chance that eventually he will see things the way you do today, but you can't put your life on hold in the meantime. It's just not right, nor is it fair. If something is meant to be, it will be. The best action you can take is to simply pray for everyone to find happiness, no matter what form that might take.
Bear in mind that esoterically speaking he may be merely the precursor to the real One. A "test", so to speak, of your ability to be open to such a thing. And closing down now instead of moving forward will negate this potential.
I'm sorry, though. I know it really stinks and how badly it hurts.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 9:02 PM |
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Loreli
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Sophie, maybe he will come around. But I wouldn't count on that. If you can handle being friends and hearing about or watching his social life outside of you, that's great. I agree you probably need a little space before settling. And, if you give it a little space, maybe you will realize he didn't mean as much to you as you thought.
I feel for you. I wish you the best whatever you decide to do...
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 9:12 PM |
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holding4u
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Sophie, it is so much better to know up front and then you can move on. You are a cutie and there will be someone else who will love you back.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 9:12 PM |
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waterfire
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Let a tear fall, smile and wait for understanding and acceptance. 
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 9:17 PM |
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introspective1
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What waterfire said  The right one will come, Sophie. Maybe he is it, but not ready, or he is not the one. At least you can enjoy the memories, and the journey. And the friendship, if you can maintain it. Good luck, dear.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 9:43 PM |
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Jankia
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To say that there is nothing that you can do and to just move on,I cannot agree with because you said that you love him.If you truly do love him and all he wants to return is friendship to you,accept his friendship and still love him.
Maybe his friendship will turn to love and maybe it will not,that you will never know by giving up the feelings that you have for him.
I'm not telling you to wait for him in particular and for his love,I'm telling you to keep yours.
Thats what I would do.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 9:46 PM |
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richmondcowgirl83
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do you know how hard it is to be friends with someone you love & know they don't love you back. It hurts so bad just to see their face knowing they don't feel the same way.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 9:53 PM |
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Jankia
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As a matter of fact yes, I do know that and I think most everyone else does too.I cannot give up that strong feeling of love just because it isnt being returned to me in the same way.
It does hurt.
Life doesnt always feel good.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 9:54 PM |
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sciurusniger
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If you truly do love him and all he wants to return is friendship to you,accept his friendship and still love him.
I do not disagree with you, Jankia, but sometimes we need some space in order to relevel our Selves so we can reach that place within us that will accept the proffered friendship. Call it a "cooling down period", if you will.
Friendships are precious things, but any unresolved unreciprocated feelings inside one or the other can often make having a simple friendship very difficult, resulting in losing it altogether. Which is always a shame.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 10:10 PM |
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Jankia
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I answered her question in simple terms with no big words or therapeutic help I know, and yes loosing a friendship is a shame.
Thats why I said thats what I would do and life doesnt always feel good
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 10:17 PM |
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richmondcowgirl83
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there is a difference between not feeling good & bursting into tears when seeing him with another person, when throwing up after hearing his voice cause after everything you have done for him you feel betrayed.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 10:20 PM |
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grumblebear
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I've been in a couple spots like that, and I move on... because I've had women take advantage of my feelings... so for me I leave... I learned a long time ago...
whoever cares the least in a relationship has all the power....
i don't remember where I read it, but it is the truth
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