| Apr 11, 2006 @ 10:54 AM |
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ChgoSingleDad
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Here's the dilemma....or question, if you will. It is primarily directed at the ladies.. but it's really for anyone...
If someone compliments you via email, what is your reaction? Ladies, say some guy emails you, just to tell you you are beautiful... What's your reaction?
Does it make your day? Or make you feel creepy? Or, does it depend on what the guy looks like who sent it to you? Do you take it at face value, or assume there is another ulterior motive? Just wondering...(Discount any compliments sent by men from overseas..we all know why they are complimenting)
How do you guys feel? Is it creepy, or cool, when some girl emails and says you're the sexiest thing she's ever seen.. (This question DOES not count those sent by the green-card seeking ladies from overseas.)
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 10:58 AM |
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ezzangel
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Well I guess it depends on who is complimenting you. When someone is genuine and just says something nice, I just thank them politely and try to change the subject usually!
Unfortunately a lot of older men compliment me on my "tight petite" body and want to chat about it - uh huh not cool. I have voiced my opinions on this topic in my blog and it was not complimentary at all.
People who compliment you like "you pretty" "you are nice eyes" "me want to talk to you" - obviously after a green card. But its funny cos I am not American so its not like I can get them one anyway!
My accent gets a lot of compliments - so I just reply with something stupid like "thanks mate! maybe we should throw a shrimp on the barbie sometime!"
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 11:35 AM |
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razzired
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Depends on the tone and tenor of the compliments.
I think everyone appreciates sincere compliments. When I get emails that start with "omg, you're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen," etc., however, I (personally) hit the delete button. Slimy ooze is not charming.
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 11:54 AM |
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nice_girl_here
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Well for me, i do not believe those who are making compliments why say something nice or bad if you do not know the person yet.
There are a lot of fakers who claim that they are like this and like that, and they will also tell you things that is not true or sometimes maybe they're just guessing....
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 12:53 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Its just like in "real life" if its a genuine compliment, great! But...if it sounds fakey and like a line, that shows too.
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 12:55 PM |
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chinabull2000
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This question DOES not count those sent by the green-card seeking ladies from overseas Well damn, now I have no experience to draw on! 
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 12:58 PM |
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sweet5red
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LOL or they email u and have never really read your profile.. i hate that.. just my opinion.. sweet N Louisiana
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 1:00 PM |
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chinabull2000
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LOL or they email u and have never really read your profile.. i hate that.. just my opinion.. sweet N Louisiana Yep, that is so aggravating. I've got a profile on one site that states all the bad things about me, and some ofd them are pretty scary, and I still get emails from foreign women stating how they "like my structure", obviously not having read my profile at all! 
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 1:10 PM |
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grumblebear
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I'll admit, I write some people and compliment them... but usually its from something on the forums, or from the chatroom... and even if you compliment idea's.... some people react poorly.... and most don't bother to reply...
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 1:23 PM |
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one_dimple
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When I get a sincere compliment....and I usually judge it's sincerity by the grammer used...I always reply with at least a smile and a thank you. Remember, "attractive" is in the eyes of the beholder...
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 1:25 PM |
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Atone74
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Well send me a Compliment and you'll learn 1st hand how I respond..
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 2:21 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I always thank them.
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 2:48 PM |
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someone_me
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This is a topic I find amusing with women. Sometimes I'll just send out a straight forward compliment, not expecting anything in return, just to see what happens. Then I'll also send out backhanded compliments to see what happens.
What I've found? The majority of straight forward compliments will go unanswered (I really think it has to do with knowing the person and their motivations). The backhanded compliments get many more responses (even from those who don't "get" them) and are more fun.
Most beautiful women receive them all the time. After a while they just become numb to them. In person, I never use compliments to try to meet a good looking woman I'm interested in. It just comes across as giving away your personal power to them.
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 2:51 PM |
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the_real_me_ok
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Katts, depends on the nature of the compliment honestly....if it is sexual it's obvious they want to engage in some kind of cybersex or whatever. I delete those right away. If someone says "you have beautiful eyes" or "I like the smile in your picture" I write back and say thank you. No reason not to.
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 2:55 PM |
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AngelLight
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Most people enjoy compliments but I agree with Razz that whether or not the compliment is enjoyed depends on tone and tenor.
Also, if someone simply compliments on photos but says nothing whatsoever of what is communicated in profile, I do no truly feel complimented.
When complimented on both, I do.
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 2:59 PM |
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SylvanDreams
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Like most everyone else, when it is sincere, I thank the person.
I recently got one from a guy in England. His comments showed he had obviously read my profile, then he complimented me and added that it was too bad he lived so far away.
Since he had no agenda and his compliment was sincerely meant, I appreciated it and wrote him back, thanking him for the nice compliment.
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 3:21 PM |
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synfllyswt
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I agree.
If you get a compliment, it matters what the rest of the content of the letter states. I get them that just say "You are sexy, wanna chat?"
I maybe sexy but he doesn't know that because we haven't talked. To me sexy is an attitude and attractive is a visual.
Some do not read the profile at all and say " I liked your profile." Then they carry on to tell me they would like to hook up. My profile states nothing but, I dont want to hook up. So why not just say I liked your picture?
I have gotten a few that were honest and said you are lovely, to bad your taken. That, even short and sweet, I respond to and appreciate.
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 3:35 PM |
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DwainP50
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A compliment can have many interpretations it seems as we all have read in this tread. For example they need to be genuine, with tone and tenor; fakery can be spotted if it sounds like a line and it better sound sincere. It seems to me that you dammed if you do or dammed if you don’t. To me why bother. Too many assumptions as to the validity of the compliment. If you feel compelled to give a compliment, then I guess keep it short and sweet with something on the profile and then the picture. Then hope that whomever you sent the compliment to and whatever gauge being used by that person if it is interpreted as a compliment. To hard folks! Keep the compliments to yourself until you meet face to face and then it can be interpret as genuine and sincere. Just my opinion folks! 
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 3:41 PM |
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DawolfLover
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synfllyswt, you're sexy and attractive. I really liked your profile. You wanna hook up?
I just had to be a little goofy. I agree with the synflly though. How can someone tell how nice or great I am before ever talking to me. Sure it's cool to comment on things in my profile. Like hey I thought you're picture looked really nice, or your profile makes you sound like a winner. Would you like to chat?
It's all about actually reading through the profile. Which includes the blogs. Why not take advantage of looking through someone's personal public thoughts? It lets you understand them a little more than the constraints of the "Describe yourself and the one you want" modes.
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| Apr 11, 2006 @ 3:45 PM |
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grumblebear
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now I feel crushed... I must not be sincere in my compliments... lol
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