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AngelLight
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In your most recent (or current) relationship, what did you learn about yourself???
I learned many things but among the most important were:
The power and significance of allowing a person to be exactly who they are at any given time without trying to change things....loving them as they are, for who they are, just as I would like to be loved.
The power and significance of simply abiding in the quiet presence of another.....in doing so, I abide in the presence of Self and learn the meaning of what it means to be separate yet ONE.
The strength that comes from more deeply learning about personal value and worth.
The strength that comes from giving a person what they need, despite my own desire to have a situation as I would like it....in doing so my needs are also met, despite outward appearances.
The strength of knowing that in relationship we are meant to behold, not hold one another.
The strength and power of setting someone free, as in doing so I set myself free in the process.
What type of things have you learned about yourself in Love, by Love, and through Love?
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 7:52 PM |
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Jankia
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Wow! Your learning alot! Was that your first relationship? 
just kiddin
I learned not to trust what I thought was truth.
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 8:08 PM |
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sciurusniger
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I was shown very clearly that, indeed, the fear of being alone (them) is not the basis for a truly healthy relationship and though it is hard to break things off (me), it is really is kinder for everyone in the long run.
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 8:16 PM |
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soul_decisions
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I have learned that even if I'm making someone happy, I have to be happy too and after looking and giving the relationship a chance, I have become stronger on making decisions on taking care of # 1.....ME.
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 8:21 PM |
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Say_Yes
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To my dismay, I learned that Love does not overcome all. It is possible for both parties in a relationship to love the other, but still be unable to make the relationship work. I guess that is why I have so little use for religion these days. I got tired of coming in second in a relationship. My partner loved me (and I loved her), but she loved her god more.
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 8:39 PM |
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Cupcake43130
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My last relationship was a disaster and I did learn alot, I learned that:
- a liar is a liar is a liar...plain and simple. Some people can't tell the truth to save their own soul.
-being told "I love you" doesn't mean the person REALLY loves you.
-checking out strange numbers on the cell phone bill can really be an eye opener.
-once trust is gone, it is impossible to get back.
-if he hits you once....he WILL hit you again.
-I have incredible inner strength that helped me overcome all of the bad that came from that relationship and made me the stronger and better person that I am today.
Am I bitter??? Not a bit. I have forgiven......but I haven't forgotten. I have went on with my life. Lessons learned....the hard way......but it is my past and will STAY my past. I have too much good in my life to let that get in my way. 
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 8:49 PM |
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AngelLight
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Say_Yes
If it is possible for both parties to love each other but still not be able to make the relationship work, is it possible that by this very experience LOVE did overcome all in that it gave you the desire and clarity necessary to seek another relationship where you now know the type of relationship you most need?
I'm just wondering if this could be true for you in thinking about it this way? or no?
Sci
I totally understand what you shared. Sometimes the things that are the hardest to do are ultimately the most loving or kind thing that can be done, for both parties involved.
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 8:58 PM |
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Say_Yes
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Say_Yes
If it is possible for both parties to love each other but still not be able to make the relationship work, is it possible that by this very experience LOVE did overcome all in that it gave you the desire and clarity necessary to seek another relationship where you now know the type of relationship you most need? I'm just wondering if this could be true for you in thinking about it this way? or no?
To an extent, yes it did, though I already had the desire and clarity to seek a permanent relationship. I know the type of person I want in my life and she fit it in so many ways. In the end though, she could not marry someone who did not put god first in his life, while I could not marry someone that did. I am many things, but I am not a hypocrite. A part of me will always love her, but I have to move on in my life. Now, I know that dating a woman that is religious is just a bad idea for me.
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 9:04 PM |
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torees121
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I have been burned way too many times lately. I have put off having fulfilling sexual relationships to wait on a lasting relationship. Well I am not getting any younger. I have now decided to heck with love and just concentrate on pleasure for me. I know it sounds selfish, but oh well. Will I be happy? Yes I will because it is what I want. I am not looking for Mr. Right, just Mr. Right Now. Sometimes I think love is way overrated.
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 9:28 PM |
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dowens
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i hate to admit it......and i'm having a hard time accepting it.....but i learned that i've become very jaded......and because of this, i'm very guarded. i tend to use my sense of humor to keep myself "safe".........like i said, i'm not proud to admit it......but it is what i've learned about myself.......but i'm workin' on it!
oh!....one more thng......don't let her go in the backyard on a muddy day........the "shallow graves" tend to become exposed!...... 
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 9:45 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I learned not to trust what I thought was truth.
Me too, but I thought he was lying to me and found out he wasn't. We both know this isn't going to last forever, we're chalk and cheese in too many ways, but we're absolutely dynamite together in others, especially my favorite one...
 
Yep, sometimes forever's just not in the cards, and even when we think it is, we never know for sure. Best to always treasure the good moments while we have them!
[Edited on 4/13/2006 10:13 PM]
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 9:51 PM |
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kattsmeow
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That some people were not suppose to be together forever.
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 10:14 PM |
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Jade777
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oh!....one more thng......don't let her go in the backyard on a muddy day........the "shallow graves" tend to become exposed!
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 10:28 PM |
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AngelLight
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"...and because of this, i'm very guarded. i tend to use my sense of humor to keep myself "safe".........like i said, i'm not proud to admit it......but it is what i've learned about myself.......but i'm workin' on it!"
That's pretty awesome Dowens 
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 10:37 PM |
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spongebob777
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I learned that I can endure the most horrific pain imaginable and even that was nothing compared to the suffering of another. Wewere both a lot stronger than I thought.
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 10:48 PM |
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dowens
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thanks Angel.....but no "bowing"......i prefer a good ole "atta boy".....
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 10:50 PM |
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painter007
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I learned that I have to speak or say things dirrerently because people misunderstand them....I get accused of things that I really dont do....
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 11:11 PM |
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LanceVarden
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I think I learned that it is easy. I used to worry, "Oh my goodness, how do I get them to like me" All that trouble and strategy for nothing. The real truth is, there isn't a dang thing you can do. Sometimes people are attracted to people who treat them terrible, sometimes people who treat them nice, and everything in between.
It is sort of like a butterfly landing on your knee. If it happens wonderful. If not, there's not a lot you can do to make it happen, so better luck next time.
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 11:16 PM |
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AngelLight
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Ok, atty boy dowens
Sorry about the bow 
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| Apr 13, 2006 @ 11:30 PM |
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dowens
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.....Angel, if you wanna bow.....you go ahead and bow!!! i'm just thrilled that next time i go to my psyc. dr. ....i can tell him i actually got some positive feedback!......and i liked it!!!......... ..... ....
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