| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:12 PM |
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Angel178
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A good friend once said to me.....and I often think it is possibly true...*Trust someone.....until they prove they cant be trusted*....maybe that is a good motto to live by. I dont know. LOL
I like that! 
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:15 PM |
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marylou
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Angel178.....yeah its not bad is it? LOL.
I guess that way it saves one from mistrusting everyone.......because of the bastards who couldnt be trusted....LOL. That way we dont put them all in the same category...lol
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:16 PM |
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Angel178
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Since we're chatting, don't be so formal....
Most just call me Angel....nice seeing you 
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:21 PM |
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marylou
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Ok Angel.....I will call you anything you want me to call you.....hehe...LOL
Its just habit....I am so used to copying and pasting.....instead of typing.....
Seeing we are getting intimate here.....heheehe...LOL...(peeing my pants laughing).....you can call me Lou if you like......that way you only have to type more than 3 letters....LOL LOL LOL.
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:22 PM |
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marylou
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woops.....I meant you DONT have to type more than 3 letters....(think peeing my pants laughing made me forget the DONT...LOL)
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:23 PM |
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Angel178
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 Lou...you are funny today
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:28 PM |
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marylou
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Angel.....yeah i dont know whats got into me.....I am sipping some Irish Cream.....so maybe a little of it has gone to my head....
I trust Port more than I trustg Irish cream when I am on here...LOL *hic hic*....hehe
I might go and have a look what I can find on the net re trust....its a never ending topic really.
Just hope I come back with something more profound....LOL
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:30 PM |
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Angel178
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Ok, enjoy your drink!
Keep us posted....I'm off to a b-day party for a 1 year old...Pray for me!!
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:41 PM |
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marylou
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oK aNGEL.....have a good time......littlies parties are fun and cute.....
(am praying now even as we speak....LOL).....let me know if you feel any different next time your on....hehehhe...LOL
Am looking up TRUST IN YAHOO....
it says....
Once trust is lost, by obvious violation of one of these three determinants, it is very hard to regain trust. Thus there is a clear a-symmetry in building versus destruction of trust. Hence being and acting trustworthy should be considered the only sure way to maintain a trust level.
.....this is what I have got up to so far.....but finding it difficult to work out what the big words mean.....LOL....(specially drinking irish cream...lol)
see you next time Angel....have fun....byee
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:43 PM |
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JesterDrawers
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A birthday party for a ONE year old???????????
Hmmmm....is this one of those "bring your own bottle" things???? 
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:47 PM |
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marylou
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JesterDrawers.......hehe....I think your too late.....I think she has gone...LOL
....Angel is off to the birthday party.....I am the one who has my own bottle....LOL LOL LOL
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:48 PM |
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JesterDrawers
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I am the one who has my own bottle....LOL LOL LOL The day is young....and so are you.........enjoy!!!!! 
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:49 PM |
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Angel178
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I think it's supplied
Oh, you meant for the kids....
Where is my mind!
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 12:55 PM |
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marylou
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slaprock......... I found this website re TRUST.....havent read all of it yet.....but it sounds ok.... it is interesting reading anyway re trust......you can check it out and see what you think...
http://www.innerself.com/Relationships/Four_Stages_of_Trust.htm
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 1:00 PM |
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marylou
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this part is good.....from that website....similar to what I told Angel a friend of mine once told me....gosh....and here I find it in this reading..........
When Cathy, a college professor, was betrayed, she experienced total mistrust at first. She asked me, "Can I trust anyone: myself, other people, or even God?" I asked her if she remembered feeling this way before. She thought for a moment and then replied, "Yes. When I was a little girl. My father was a minister devoted to spreading the word of God. Yet he beat me and my brother regularly. It seemed so crazy to me. How could someone who was supposed to be so good act so bad? If I couldn't trust him to back up his words with actions, then I couldn't trust anyone else." Since I fully empathized with how Cathy was feeling, it was difficult to disagree with her. But I did tell her that unless she changed her attitude she wouldn't have healthy love relationships in the future.
None of us become adults and retain the perfect trust we were born with. But that doesn't mean we have to go to the opposite extreme. As my good friend author and public speaker Cheewa James puts it, "I trust everybody at the beginning. I assume everyone is loving until proven otherwise". For best results, start off a relationship with the assumption that the other person is trustworthy. Be careful to protect yourself, but give him (or her) the benefit of the doubt.
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 2:41 PM |
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blueyes101
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I give others trust and respect, it is their choice to show they are worthy of it..... I hope they choose wisely...
I do put some reservations on that the trust/respect..... ( Like I would not let a stranger borrow my car ).
I try to put right amount of respect/trust for each person and circumstance.
I'm a people watcher, so with very little time and effort, I can get a pretty good read on most people.. I look for the genuineness in their soul......... And go from there.
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 3:11 PM |
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Loreli
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Slap hasn't been around for a few years, but Ihave one ting to say on guidance to him.
You can read away all you want. Self help books, IMHO are noting but a "you need me"moneymaking business.
A person either trusts or they don't.
The bad part is-there ARE liars and cheats out there.
Their names aren't in any book.
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 3:35 PM |
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twotall911
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your too cute
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 3:58 PM |
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Loreli
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So are you! 
(I put your name in my book-is that ok?)
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| Nov 10, 2007 @ 6:05 PM |
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Angel178
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Mary and Jester....adult beverages supplied in plenty
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