| Apr 20, 2006 @ 8:42 PM |
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girlseekingboy83
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Ever wonder what could have been with an ex? I've been thinking about that for a few days now. There this guy whom I was seeing I guess about 4 years ago. Nothing major, and actually looking back on it we both used each other. It ended pretty bad with me decided to not speak to him any more. Which needless to say with the ending we had wasn't a hard choice to make. Well 4 years later we have recently started to talk again online. Nothing major just a bit of catching up on each other lives. We haven't had a chanace to really have a long talk, but each time I find myself wondering about what could have been with him.
He surpised me tonight. I noticed him online, but was kind of in my own little world just finishing some stuff up, and he IM me out of no where. Just to see how I'm doing, and to tell me to have a good night (he work the night shift). I guess you can say that just surpised me a bit. He was never really the kind of guy to do some little things like that, and he knows one thing I love is just little thinking of you thoughts.
So does anyone else every wonder about an ex?
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| Apr 20, 2006 @ 8:45 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 I never wonder...and don`t think I`d ever want too...its nice that your ex IM`d to say hello... 
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| Apr 20, 2006 @ 8:50 PM |
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girlseekingboy83
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I never wonder...and don`t think I`d ever want too...its nice that your ex IM`d to say hello
I always find myself wondering what could have been. Normally though it's like just after I ended it. But I just found it sweet of him to IM me. Kind of makes me wonder if he changed.
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| Apr 20, 2006 @ 9:24 PM |
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grumblebear
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no wondering here... with my broken picker, I always hook up with alcoholics, junkies, liars, cheats and thieves...
good riddance
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| Apr 20, 2006 @ 9:55 PM |
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the_real_me_ok
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Yes it's nice he sent you that nice message to say hi. While I have things about my ex that I miss, and probably always will...the past is the past and we can never go back there. "Wondering" and "What ifs" aren't very productive to where we are in the present. Just my opinion.
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| Apr 20, 2006 @ 10:18 PM |
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T_i_m
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I have. And it's not just someone I had been involved with, but women I have known through work or kept seeing in public.
Nothing wrong with examining the past; just don't focus or obsess on it.
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| Apr 20, 2006 @ 11:44 PM |
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crackerchickie
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Yes, I wonder from time to time. My exhusband wasn't a bad guy. He was responsible, practical, reliable and incredibly boring. Sometimes when I am experiencing one of my rollercoaster affairs, I often think of Doug. Maybe I should have stayed where it was safe and warm.  I don't think it would have been fair to him though. He deserves to be loved for who he is...
As for revisiting ex's, heck, that's how I found my current houseplant! 
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| Apr 21, 2006 @ 12:24 AM |
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richmondcowgirl83
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It is so weird that this is up cause I just ran into an ex of mine today. I always wondered what had happened to him. I didn't realize how bad off we were. When we were together we were both big drug addicts. I have been clean for going on 5 years. I was actually pregnant with this guys child but lost it due to the drugs & thats what made me change my life. He didn't feel the same way & picked his pipe over me. Like I said I saw him today. He just recently got serious about getting clean, only cause his mother died & he promised her he would. I gave him my number if he needed support but I see in him what could have happened to me. I wouldn't have my daughter now & probably wouldn't be alive right now after hearing about some of our old "friends"
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| Apr 21, 2006 @ 12:31 AM |
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sjpinatl
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My experience is that if you try again you will get the same result.
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| Apr 21, 2006 @ 12:44 AM |
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nah12
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more true than not SJP.....
Think about it this way, when you look back for ever good thing remember 1 bad thing and compare the list....what makes you believe things would have changed or be any different the 2nd time around? Have you changed that much yourself that it would work on just your changes alone? If not what do you think will happen?
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| Apr 21, 2006 @ 2:10 AM |
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chinabull2000
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My ex-wife popped up online a couple of weeks ago to say hi (or something). I blocked her!! 
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| Apr 21, 2006 @ 2:42 AM |
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Jade777
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I dont wonder....they are an EX for a reason.
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| Apr 21, 2006 @ 3:33 AM |
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walkingman
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I agree with Jade. I work in the same town my ex doe's but I could care less what she doe's. It is the past for a reason ,
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| Apr 21, 2006 @ 4:18 AM |
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lonewolf299
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I never wonder...and don`t think
That explains alot.
Anyways, there were a few what could have beens, or what ifs. At one point in time I just pondered what if I told her how I really felt would she have left, or what if I told her told her sooner would she have left. After thinking about it I realized that they would have left either way. There's no to know what might have been, it is nice to think about from time to time but don't think about it too much because nothing good comes from obsessing about the past.
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| Apr 21, 2006 @ 11:07 AM |
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academicgirl
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My EX is getting remarried--I think I'll wrap the remainder of his gambling debt that I got stuck paying in a box and give it to him as a wedding present. 
I'm not really bitter (though I realize I sound like - lol), and have let it go, but I certainly have not forgotten it. We could never go back to what we had so I let go....
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| Apr 21, 2006 @ 12:08 PM |
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kattsmeow
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What Cracker said!!!!! Nice guy, reliable,,,,boring,,,,
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| Apr 21, 2006 @ 3:54 PM |
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painter007
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I dont have that many ex's....and I still chat with all of them online every so often.
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| Apr 22, 2006 @ 8:44 AM |
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someone_me
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Do I hear violin music playing in the background? 
Nope, my life is going forward, not looking back. Learn from your past but realize there is a whole lot of living today and a future to look forward to. If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over thinking you'll get different results each time. (Applies very much to dating.)
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| Apr 22, 2006 @ 9:01 AM |
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Lunaymar37
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Not much that's why they are ex's, at least for me. Although, I may remain friends, usually that's where it stays with me... friends.
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| Apr 22, 2006 @ 12:18 PM |
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franc0
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according to survey, most couple who ended their relationship ended with not being friends. i wonder why?
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