| Apr 25, 2006 @ 9:27 AM |
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RachelVaz
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Okay - I don't know about you guys... BUT - I hate jealousy.... I have been jealous in the past, AND IT HAS GOTTEN ME NOWHERE... I say - either the person who says they love you - loves, trusts, and believes in you - or they don't...
What do y'all think???
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 9:42 AM |
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mangolover60
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Jealousy is definately a horrific experience on either end. But then again, I've dated some women who have critized me and even dumped me for NOT being jealous. Good riddance, I say!
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 9:46 AM |
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LSU79
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I've had to break off a relationship because of the woman's jealousy. Otherwise, she was a nice person. I could never figure out what made her that way, her ex never cheated on her. I tried talking to her about it, tried to live with it, but after a while it just started pissing me off too much, it was like constantly being called a liar.
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 9:47 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Jealousy in a relationship can cause your thoughts to be quite compulsive and make you feel like you can't think about anything else.Jealousy almost always is a result of a person's insecurity. The more secure you feel in a relationship, the less likely you are to be jealous.
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 9:48 AM |
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RachelVaz
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Yeah - U hit the nail on the head with that one - I know who I am and who I am not- and I won't lie about that.... Jealous just infuriates me.....It's ridiculous!!!
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 10:42 AM |
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willsmalto
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I think we're surrounded by jealousy. we just can't run away from it....either we're being jealous or are jealous of sth or sb. there are some pple who are born jealous or eaten up with manifest jealousy (too bad). when it comes to serious relationships, jealousy could be tolerated to an extent but being jealous of someone eles's wealth, looks etc, itz bull.
I remember my one time gf putting my jealousy to a litmus test but unfortunately for me, I didn't feel a thing..........I didn't show any sign of jealousy. She was like pissed. we went on a break just cos of this....poor me! 
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 10:57 AM |
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bevrice
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Personally, I am not jealous at all, but, then, I don't put up with so much stuff anymore, either. Say if I went out with someone and they were staring at some other woman or flirting with them, lol, I would get up and leave, and tell them they can have that, they can't have me, but you know that is a thing of respect, and I don't like men who are flirts I don't like men who stare at me or flirt with me when they are out with their wives or girlfriends, that makes me mad, and maybe that is where that comes from.
I think I lean more toward being possessive, if it is mine, it had better be ALL mine, lol, or I don't need it. I would not make an issue of it, would just mark the man off and go on.
Now, I am thinking on what is the difference between being jealous and being possessive.
Any thoughts on this?
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 11:27 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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To me being jealous is a Feeling..while being possessive is Trying to Control another persons life.. 
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 11:32 AM |
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bevrice
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Well, could be, Tink, but then I am not a controller. Just am sick to death of all the garbage stuff. I don't boss people around, nor do I like to be bossed around. Just don't put up with stuff anymore.
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 11:34 AM |
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bevrice
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But, I do need to add, Tink, that I do temperament therapy, lots of people are controllers and there is nothing wrong with that, it is just the way they were made to be, they just need to be with people who don't mind being controlled, I DO mind.
Lol, and jealousy can be an action, it was with my ex husband, if any one even asked me to dance, he got into a fight. Or it can even go to the extremes of shooting people. Jealousy is a destructive emotion.
Now, am not going to edit this again, if there are mistakes, please overlook them.
[Edited on 4/25/2006 11:41 AM]
[Edited on 4/25/2006 11:43 AM]
[Edited on 4/25/2006 11:47 AM]
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 11:39 AM |
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grumblebear
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LMAO...
this is a double edged sword....
Jealous controling behavior is inappropriate, yes
but, Some people behave in an inappropriate manner, I don't get jealous, but I also have no time for idiots who want to engage in bad behavior...
so if you have problems with always dating jealous people, maybe your behavior is the issue, lol...
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 11:58 AM |
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bevrice
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You hit the nail on the head grumble. I can think of nothing more insulting than being with a man who can't keep his eyes off another woman, and have never been with one like that, but because I have had men do their wives like that with me, it really makes me leery of anyone like that.
And a lot of good it does them, I think they are jerks. Sorry, if that is too strong.
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 12:20 PM |
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painter007
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I dont get jealous but...I can feel a slight icky feeling if my sweetie is paying too much attention to anything. It doesnt have to be a member of the opposite sex. Doesnt mean I need to act on that feeling either.
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 1:32 PM |
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grumblebear
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all I meant was if I feel someone I was dating was being innappropriate... I tell them, if they do not like my reaction, I find it very easy to leave....
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 1:42 PM |
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Jankia
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To me those who show jealousy have an inferiority problem with themselves.The only people that dont feel inferior but can still be jealous are those that show it in a humourous way.
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 2:12 PM |
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the_real_me_ok
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I think there is a tendency for everyone to get jealous at one point or another in a relationship. Its a perfectly normal thing in my opinion. What makes it "abnormal" is when things get totally out of hand and it creates arguments in the relationship. We've probably all dealt with jealousy in one form or another in relationships. We're all capable of getting jealous of an ex when we hear a story or see an old picture or see our mate looking at a good looking guy/girl, or a good looking guy/girl looking at our mate. That's ok. Just as long as it doesn't turn to rage....I think it's part of being human.
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 2:22 PM |
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bevrice
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I agree, I think a small amount of jealousy is very normal, even God says that He is a jealous God and we shall have no other gods before Him.
I would be inclined to wonder at someone who showed no jealousy whatsoever, regardless of the situation. The internet being what it is, and many of the people being what they are, trust is hard to establish, and must be earned, too many people have been burned. The old saying, "Once burned, twice shy" holds to be very true.
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 2:28 PM |
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sail_dancer
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I like to dance  , so I tend to make many female friends (good platonic friends).
On any given evening women will ask me to dance with them and I never refuse. While dancing and talking you eventually get to know the person. Some you never see again, most become friends and sometimes you are lucky and the mutual attraction of both partners to each other points to something special.
My last relationship started in this way. We talked and laughed for hours. She warned me that she would not put up with jealousy since that was what broke up her prior relationship. I informed her that there wasn't a jealous bone in my body.
The relationship grew over the months and (as in all good relationships) the magnetism increased.
We attended a big christmas party and a number of my friends were there. Of course they wanted to meet the woman that finally landed me (made me feel like a fish at a trout festival  ). Well to make a long story short, on the way home from the party, she constantly said "all those woman love you". I tried to explain that they were old friends and friends tend to love each other in other ways.
You have to realize that most of these woman were married or in their own relationships and I was also friends with their significant others. This went on for some time and then the questions became more personal. "Did you sleep with this one or did you sleep with that one".
Sorry to say, I had to end the relationship but I truly loved this woman. I loved her more than I'd ever loved my ex. I still miss the intensity of the relationship. But I couldn't accept her jealousy.
I sometimes wonder if it was her jealousy that caused her to break up her prior relationship.
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 2:32 PM |
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grumblebear
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The Traits we dislike the most in others, are usually mirrors of our own....
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 2:41 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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"Once burned, twice shy" holds to be very true.
But those are the ones who haven`t learned how to let go of the past and take everything they`ve been through as a lesson learned and move on...they carry that jealousy with them into a new relationship...but thats just my opinion. 
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