| Apr 28, 2006 @ 6:09 AM |
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silknpearls
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I would see your point if I had actually lied to some one about it. But I didn't I just said I would. A lot of things in life are easier said than done.
But isn't that in itself a lie? Saying you will do something and not doing it? Not that I would recommend that you do it - just trying to get at the logic here.
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| May 3, 2006 @ 3:04 AM |
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Bagherra
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Yes well, I kindov agree but I also think that a ‘relatingship’ is about working with values or standards if you like. Honesty makes sense but not as a light on the hill or a blazing symbol in the night for that matter. For me & for so many I've compared notes with - its a pragmatic method for coping with what life throws you. A much utilised setting on life's autopilot.
My mother for example was simply not very good at telling the truth. It was something she didn't seem to understand other than in a superficial way. In fact, she found it threatening. I had to work out other ways of getting her onside or working with her. In the end I sold her on it by years & years of encouraging her to believe me.
Personally, I find honesty very useful for all sorts of reasons. I speak truth to power because... well, what else is it for? In a relationship I can suffer dishonesty for limited periods and still trust a person but there had better be a very good reason.
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| May 3, 2006 @ 5:26 AM |
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chauntra
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Well, talking from recent experience......like last night. I have been speaking with a gentleman and things sounded like they were going well. When he asked me why I moved to Michigan and where from and why, I told him. He said my life sounds like nightmare ............and good bye. AUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I am always honest and I try to be kind about it, but when you ask the questions and get the answers, dont say "sorry not interested, your life sounds like a nightmare, good bye and good luck".........whatever!...jerk... Why do people want to know then turn around and run!!! So my life is crazy right now........anyone elses? lol
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| May 5, 2006 @ 4:09 AM |
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GoodBear
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My life is most definitely crazy. It's been getting more wacked everyday for just about two years. I've been down, but now I am getting up. You have all of my sympathy chauntra.
As for my best friend, if I ever gave her an STD, not currently a possibilty, I would have no problem telling her where it came from. I would be highly embarrassed and ashamed to have caused her such grief. I love the woman, not in love with her.
Example She asked me once why, the cop gave her a ticket for speeding even though she cried. I told her she wasn't young enough to get away with that anymore. Usually though I am helping her find the difference between insane and sane in her difficult life. She married the wrong guy, then she married Mr. even worse. Then she got a heaping dose of unfairness from the courts. Her life is a nightmare at the moment. Some day I need to start a post about women who get abused and what happens to them. Yes as much as my honesty means to her, I am sure my loyalty and unfaltering admiration for her mean more. I gotta go see her again soon.
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| May 5, 2006 @ 10:27 AM |
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Outdoorjoe
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| May 5, 2006 @ 2:33 PM |
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holding4u
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There is a difference between honest and a confessional. Unless the truth is something that directly involves that person - I can't see confessing to anyone but a priest.
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| May 5, 2006 @ 5:10 PM |
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GoodBear
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Yes honesty shouldn't be used as an excuse to burden someone with your confessions. It shouldn't be used as an excuse for any other unpleasant thing, it does save time though.
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| May 5, 2006 @ 7:33 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I can't see confessing to anyone but a priest.
 I need to confess..
But if they ask you a question and you had a choice between lying and being honest..you`d have to be honest..but if they didn`t ask then..your choice. 
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| May 5, 2006 @ 10:08 PM |
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greatgirl96
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How much do you tolerate when it comes to dishonesty in a relationship, especially when you are in love? I would love to find a man who is faithful, and if he tells a 'tale tail' to boost his ego FINE, but dont tell me something that I can check into and find out the truth... lol
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