| Apr 26, 2006 @ 1:31 AM |
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sleeping_beauty
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The other day my friend was so excited coz she's going on a date. She's like walking in the clouds. The very next day, when i asked her if she enjoyed her date, her response wasn't what i have initially expected. She said she'll never date that guy again. I found out later that after they had a dinner at the restaurant, the guy told her they should split the bill.  That apparently, ruined her night.
Is it really good to split the bill on the first date? In the Philippines, most ladies expect their dates to pay for everything. I think most men also feel the same way and that they are not men if they allow their dates to pay for it. In Japan, however, this practice has suddenly changed and the males have started demanding a split the bill on dates. Now the ladies are complaining. 
regards,
Sleeping_Beauty
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 1:47 AM |
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redhairNfreckles
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I have always offered to pay for my own meal when on a date. Most of the men refused and one or two seemed very offended. I know to take a woman out is very expensive now, not unusual to drop a $100 bill or more, and I don't want him to think that I am taking advantage of him by going out with him. The sweetheart that I am dating now (met him on MD) is of the old school, he wont let me pay for a thing! We went and played Bingo tonight and he even insisted on buying my cards.
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 2:12 AM |
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chinabull2000
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On a first date I will always pay for everything, it just seems like the "gentlemanly" thing to do, but at the same time I fully expect the woman to offer to pay her share at the end of the date, even though I'll not let her.
Second date? Hell yeah she can pay her half!
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 2:31 AM |
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WickedWench
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That's ok China. I'll pay the bill for dinner but I do expect sex afterwards 
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 2:36 AM |
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chinabull2000
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That's ok China. I'll pay the bill for dinner but I do expect sex afterwards How about Friday at 8 o'clock? 
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 2:37 AM |
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sleeping_beauty
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hehehehe rich
Please don't get the wrong idea that i expect my date to pay for everything. If i would ever find the man who can touch my heart  , i'll be willing to offer him an expenses paid trip to Japan (plane tickets and accommodation included).... for our first date. My reason being that i just can't take a vacation on the fly because of my job. Actually, I have accumulated huge mileage due to my frequent international travels and can use them anytime. Still, finding that man may prove to be difficult because i'm not that easy to fall in love. 
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 2:53 AM |
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chinabull2000
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Still, finding that man may prove to be difficult because i'm not that easy to fall in love. I've always liked a good challenge!
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 2:55 AM |
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sleeping_beauty
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i got a heart made of stone! 
[Edited on 4/26/2006 3:07 AM]
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 2:57 AM |
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chinabull2000
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And I've got a hammer and chisel and can chip away at it!
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 3:57 AM |
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walkingman
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I will alway's pay for the first date. It would be nice if the lady would offer at the end to pay her half as china say's but I have never had that happen. . I agree that after one date it should be 50/50. Time's have changed alot. There are alot of single Dad's out there and that was a rarity before. I think sharing the expenses after the first initial date is fair. . I just can't meet ladie's who see it that way so it limit's how much I date.
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 5:05 AM |
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Scrapfuzz
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I'm of the mindset that who asks the other out flits the bill. However, nothing wrong with, say bringing dessert when invited to dinner. Same thing with picking up the date. If I ask, I plan on picking him up and taking care of all the arrangements, including either making chaildcare arrangements and/or paying the sitter. Why should the burden always be on the man to do the asking and paying? Like someone said, times are different now.
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 5:32 AM |
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willsmalto
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I feel kind of embarrassed letting the woman get the check on our first date but would highly appreciate her willingness to chip in or treat it, even though I wouldn''t let her do so.
I think this is a matter of culture or sth.
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 10:03 AM |
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Fate38
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I always offer to pay, but like it when it is refused, why -- well China said it best, it is the "gentlemanly" thing to do. I'm usually taken back if the guy says "sure".
If there is a second date then I usually get sneaky and pay the tab upfront or something like that so the 'guy' does feel like he is being taken advantage of.
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 10:10 AM |
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silknpearls
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I am of the old school, if the guy asks me out, he pays. I never ask guys out, so, I never pay. However, I will, after I get to know him, invite him to my house for dinner and movies or suggest things that are free to do (like the zoo, the park, or a picnic). That way his wallet gets a break.
I have been on dates that guys think you should pay for the whole bill or split - I usually just say I do not have any money on me. End of discussion and end of relationship.
I just have no respect for a guy that expects me to pay - I am sure this is due to my upbringing. I know that if my family thought I was paying for half, he would be ostracized.
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 10:32 AM |
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raykl
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I know to take a woman out is very expensive now, not unusual to drop a $100 bill or more,
When did McDonalds raise their prices????
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 11:09 AM |
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DwainP50
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If it was a first date I wouldn’t mind paying for the whole date, would figure it was part of the cost of courtship. If she insists on paying something I would do the gentlemanly thing and insist that it not a problem at all if I paid. Now if she is adamant in help paying then, it would be rude and disrespectful in not letting her.
Now if she asks me out for a date I would again offer to pay, it would be the gentlemanly thing to do unless she is adamant about paying. It will not hurt my manhood to have a woman pay every once in a while. In a way it would be flattering to think that a woman is willing to pay for a date just to be with me.
Later on in when you are in a relationship it shouldn’t matter who pays (or going Dutch) because money pooled means more time spent together. IMO
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 3:20 PM |
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grumblebear
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I used to pay when I dated, but since I stopped, I have no need or desire to buy for anyone... I've had a few friends, or ladies I thought were friends, try to use the "Men should buy" game on me... and my reply is, Friends share bills, I'm retired, not dating.
Too many people don't believe I have totally given up on dating...
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 3:41 PM |
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soul_decisions
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Most of us were probably brought up with the proper way was a man pay the bill and times have changed with so many things in the dating realm. I always offer to pay, whether the guy says that he will. What I have learned due to change is if you know you are planning a dinner date, suggest dutch so there is no pressure on either party and if he still insists on paying, then by all means go ahead. If it goes to more than one date and you get to know each other, it becomes easier on the issue.
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 3:50 PM |
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lacyvsq
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Too many people don't believe I have totally given up on dating...
We're going to split the bill? I thought I was treating...
In my book (of accounting) inviter pays...
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| Apr 26, 2006 @ 4:00 PM |
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Atone74
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It should not be a question. If I ask a woman out, I will pay for it. I don't expect her to offer. If she did offer, of course I'll pay for it. But I would make a comment like, okay we're going to go have a few drinks and you buy the 1st round. I would say this of course in a humane way hehe..
Now if she asked me out, I would expect her to pay. I would offer to pay 50/50. If she insisted to pay, I would insist to buy the 1st round of drinks..
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