| May 7, 2006 @ 8:26 PM |
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DwainP50
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Something I read on MSM! To get some conversation going. Enjoy! 
Sure, girlie-girl moves — a hair flip here, an eye batted there — will attract a guy... some of the time. But you may be surprised at the things guys really can’t resist about women, and some of them are the very qualities women fear will drive men away—from letting a curse word loose to leaving all kinds of makeup near his bathroom sink. Here’s why these habits and others actually win a man over
1. He loves that you indulge at dinnertime.
Guys love girls who love to eat—not girls who say they aren’t hungry and then pick at their date’s food all night. Paul, 30, who lives in Boston, thinks that food may be the reason he fell in love with his fiancée: “When we first started dating, I thought it might be awkward if I wanted greasy food like wings—I figured she’d think it was fattening or unhealthy. Women I’d dated in the past only wanted to go out for salad or sushi. But she was enthusiastic about eating all kinds of things with me. I loved that easygoing attitude of hers.” Aside from showing that you’re not high-maintenance or neurotic about your weight, that kind of unabashed enthusiasm also tends to translate into other areas—including the bedroom. “A woman with a healthy appetite for food tends to have a healthy appetite on all levels, and sex is absolutely a part of that,” explains Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., author of Emotional Fitness for Couples: 10 Minutes a Day to a Better Relationship.
2. He loves your occasional obscenities.
You may worry that it’s not ladylike, but occasionally letting a curse escape your lips at an unexpected moment can be a major turn-on. “Hearing a woman use profanity out of context gives a guy a shock of sexual adrenaline,” explains Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman and co-host of Discovery Health’s Love on the Rocks. “Men like women who can be tough and assertive, and as long as she doesn’t take the talk too far, it’s a positive thing.”
3. He loves that you aren’t a neat freak.
Believe it or not, guys find the proliferation of hair products, accessories and unidentified stuff strewn about your apartment oddly sexy. “I love that my wife makes a bigger mess than I do,” says Ziad, 31, of Durham, NC. “When she cooks, food ends up all over the place. It shows that she’s carefree, and it reminds me to enjoy the moment rather than worrying about the consequences.” This laid-back mind-set also carries over into your weekend wardrobe. “Guys love a woman who’s not trying too hard,” explains Dr. Kerner. “Most men think a pair of boxer shorts and a ratty old T-shirt around the house is your sexiest look.” So don’t spend hours choosing the perfect date-night outfit or getting your place in House Beautiful–shape, because men love you just as you are—in your comfortable, slightly sloppy glory.
4. He loves your extra padding.
Sure, you’ve heard that men love women with curves, but how about those extra pounds you’ve been trying to sweat off at the gym? There’s a good chance that your guy loves them, too. Just ask 26-year-old Nick: “My girlfriend exercises regularly, but I think the little pudginess in her thighs is sexy because it shows she’s not perfect.” Sure, your extra padding may make men feel a little better about their own beer bellies, but there’s also a biological reason why men like this. Psychologists at the University of Texas determined that men were most attracted to women with hourglass figures—specifically, women whose waists were 60 to 80 percent smaller than their hips—regardless of their weight. They theorize that men unconsciously seek this body type because it signals that a woman is able to procreate.
5. He’s fascinated by your knowledge of medieval tapestries.
Or whatever it is that gets you all hot and bothered—whether or not he shares the same interests. “It’s not about knowing facts—it’s about being passionate about something,” says romance columnist Mira Kirshenbaum, author of The Weekend Marriage. “These are things that are important to her, not just stuff meant to impress a guy.” This can be passion for a subject as seemingly obscure as agricultural practices of the Mayans or as popular as Spanish as a second language. He may not quite get it and he may not want to have all-night discussions about it, but he definitely appreciates the fact that you’re a smart, interesting woman who thinks for herself and doesn’t mold her interests to match those of her man. Your interests also fuel what Kerner calls the process of self-expansion. “The more you expand as a person,” he explains, “the more the relationship expands.”
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| May 7, 2006 @ 8:27 PM |
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DwainP50
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6. He loves a good head rub from you.
Don’t get me wrong—men love it when you grope their erogenous zones. But that’s not the only type of touch they crave. Adam, 28, of Roanoke, VA, confesses: “I love how my wife rubs my head at night.” Sweet, yes, but it also feels oh-so-good: Home to hundreds of nerve endings, the scalp is an often-neglected zone. And light touches anywhere can achieve a similar effect, since they cause his body to produce vasopressin, a feel-good relaxation hormone that also promotes bonding. Another positive side effect? Initiating any kind of physical contact sends your man the message that you want him just as much as he wants you—and that you truly care about him.
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| May 7, 2006 @ 8:33 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 Good Post Dwain.. 
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| May 7, 2006 @ 8:39 PM |
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dixiepixie
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1. He loves that you indulge at dinnertime.
Wow. My kind of guy 
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| May 7, 2006 @ 8:41 PM |
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Jankia
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Its no wonder those as being a secret Dwain,because if those are turn-ons its a secret to men as well.At least to myself,Ive never had any of my brothers or friends ever proclaim a love for a head rub or occasional obsenities let alone fascination for knowledge of medieval tapestries.
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| May 7, 2006 @ 8:57 PM |
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soul_decisions
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Dwain I have to say there is some truth to that..........I have had men tell me they like just the way I am even though I want to lose the weight and I have also given great scalp massages.......they love it and I enjoy giving.......touch is something special for sure
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| May 7, 2006 @ 8:59 PM |
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Loreli
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Most guys I know enjoy back or foot rubs....
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| May 7, 2006 @ 9:01 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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6. He loves a good head rub from you.
Yep...especially if his head's shaved....
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| May 7, 2006 @ 9:02 PM |
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soul_decisions
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loreli try the scalp massage too......see what kind of reaction you get 
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| May 7, 2006 @ 9:04 PM |
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kykykiss4u2
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I like a guy with a nice full head of hair so I can run my fingers through it while giving him a head rub 
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| May 7, 2006 @ 9:30 PM |
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Jankia
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Most guys I know enjoy back or foot rubs....
Well,you dont know me well enough just yet Loreli but nobody...nobody touches this guys feet.To darn tickleish!
Now,about those backrubs...
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| May 7, 2006 @ 9:32 PM |
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spongebob777
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Most guys I know enjoy back or foot rubs....
I pity anyone that wants to get near my feet, they're downright frightening.
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| May 7, 2006 @ 9:32 PM |
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LSU79
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3 & 4 I'm not too sure about. I like a woman to be neater than me, that forces me to clean my house before she comes over.
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| May 7, 2006 @ 9:55 PM |
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painter007
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yippeee woohhhooo
I do some of those..
I eat way more than they think I can
I can let out a good cuss word at just the right second...and I always use them in my naughty talk
and nothin to much better then havin a guys head in my lap while I rub his forehead.
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| May 7, 2006 @ 10:14 PM |
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HARDNTX
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Uncross your legs Painter....I CAN'T BREATH
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| May 7, 2006 @ 10:15 PM |
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lacyvsq
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My place is a mess -- let's go to yours. I love it when you cook for me. I love the different textures, the way way different food feels on the tongue and the teeth as well as the different flavors and temperatures of each dish of food. I will reward you with a foot massage. I was a massage therapist for a while. I like the diversity of people's bodies -- but we'll just talk about the feet. I never met a (substantially) clean foot I didn't like. OK -- you can have a head massage if you prefer. My mother said my dad was going bald when she married him. She massaged his scalp and scratched it gently with a comb every night. He died at 81 with a full head of hair.
This picture reminds me of backpacking in the Grand Canyon. It is the most forking awesome place in the world! If I hadn't put on this extra weight, sheet, I'd love to go back there.
Wonder if my secret guy is turned on yet....
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| May 7, 2006 @ 10:21 PM |
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Jankia
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Lacy-
This picture reminds me of backpacking in the Grand Canyon
I have a pic in my profile just before hiking down the canyon in January.
You are correct,that is an awesome place!
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| May 7, 2006 @ 10:21 PM |
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Jankia
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Lacy-
This picture reminds me of backpacking in the Grand Canyon
I have a pic in my profile just before hiking down the canyon in January.
You are correct,that is an awesome place!
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| May 8, 2006 @ 1:01 AM |
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grumblebear
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uh... I don't see, "Pull my finger" listed anywhere..... 
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| May 8, 2006 @ 2:27 AM |
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waterfire
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He loves your occasional obscenities
He’s fascinated by your knowledge of medieval tapestries-passion
He loves a good head rub from you- any rubbing
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