| May 8, 2006 @ 10:30 AM |
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definitelydi
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There are certain behaviors and personality traits that I am totally opposed to. Lying, womanizing (or maninizing), using others, unfaithfulness, et cetera.
Through some introspection, I've found that I am the actually the pot calling the kettle black. I hadn't realized that I am guilty of a particular personality trait until recently. This same trait is something I always threw in my exhusband's face, as he was the Grand PooBah of this hideous habit. Unfortunately...I seem to be doing the very same thing.
Have you ever found yourself guilty of a similar situation? How did you cope with it? How did you reverse the process...or were you unable to?
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| May 8, 2006 @ 10:47 AM |
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WickedWench
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I used to hate men for a brief period of time. This was back when I used to work with sexually assaulted women. I realized pretty quickly that it was a reaction to the trauma and hurt the women were going through and was able to contend with it along with developing a deeper understanding of why rape occurred.
Only lasted a short time but during that time, men were the underscum of the pond, lower than snake poop, maggots of chaos, things to be stepped on and scorned, locked up and thrown green bread with worm infested water.
 Yup I hated 'em
But I'm all better now *head twitches to the right a few times*
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| May 8, 2006 @ 12:19 PM |
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definitelydi
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Hmm...I love men...probably too much! 
Maybe I really need a deeper understanding of my own behavior! I really wish the answer was more obvious!
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| May 8, 2006 @ 12:32 PM |
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nah12
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Di most everyone does it whether they want to admit it or not......but it takes a special person to see that they can be the pot much less try to fix it.......so here's too you lady  ......
being truly honest with one's self is not an easy task and it takes lots of digging pass the surface........
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| May 8, 2006 @ 2:25 PM |
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WickedWench
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Hey Di 
If you dig deeper like Nah suggested, you'll probably find the answer honey. The hard part is recognizing what is triggering it. Often times I've found it's because I'm hurting over an issue that I don't really want to face. It's something pretty unattractive and I don't want to "admit" it so this temporarily prevents me from healing.
You're doing soul searching in order to better yourself and that is a very good thing.
And good news is you're human and like the rest of us!
Welcome 
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| May 8, 2006 @ 4:28 PM |
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grumblebear
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I know for myself... my choices in the past, have lead to many bad interludes....
for what ever reason(s), I chose the wrong individuals... and so I make the choice to avoid anything more than friends.... Not because all women are bad... but the ones I am attracted to and who are attracted to me, are not good for me...
but because I don't trust my own judgement.....
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| May 8, 2006 @ 4:35 PM |
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Always_Striving
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What is maninizing? What is womanizing? What is PooBah?
Is this a hate thread?
Di, I thought you were a sweet girl 
So many questions..........
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| May 8, 2006 @ 5:29 PM |
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waterfire
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WOW WW I can just picture some poor guy approaching you when you were err uh not overly into men
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| May 8, 2006 @ 5:33 PM |
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Loreli
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Di-
I don't think you are that different from most people in this respect, except that you do recognize it!
They say we are a product of our environment, so if that is what you were around, you may have just leaned that direction unknowingly.....
And I think we all pick up a little of the bad habits around us-unintentionally.
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| May 8, 2006 @ 6:57 PM |
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WickedWench
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WOW WW I can just picture some poor guy approaching you when you were err uh not overly into men
WaterFire
This was 20 some odd years ago. I've since mellowed ....a little  Truth be told I'm usually one of the first ones to defend men when the bashing starts. Can't stand that crap. 
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| May 8, 2006 @ 8:10 PM |
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walkingman
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I think at one time or another we have have all exhibited behavior that we are opposed to. Since we know we have done it then we can change that behavior . A
big part of growing as a person is the ability to identify a problem and work at resolving it. I am alway's striving to be a better person. Hope that make's sense.
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| May 8, 2006 @ 8:14 PM |
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AngelLight
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| May 8, 2006 @ 8:17 PM |
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wandaful123
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If and when, someone gets to me, I remove myself from the situation and take a look at myself. I am aware I have no control over other "people, places or things" I look at me and wonder why I am behaiving this way, usually cuts most of the BS that could occur, whether this be in my own or the others behaivour. Works for me...
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| May 9, 2006 @ 5:45 PM |
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mangolover60
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 Mango rises his sperpent head above the water, snidely peers around, and then delvs slowly back under the pondscum and feeds on the green bread in the worm infested water.
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| May 9, 2006 @ 6:28 PM |
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WickedWench
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^
but ....but.....but that was years ago Mango!!!! 
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| May 10, 2006 @ 11:51 AM |
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chinabull2000
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I think that, to a certain extent, we are all guilty of having some of the traits that we dislike in others. I know that I am!
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| May 10, 2006 @ 4:46 PM |
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Ron9
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Who me ? naw ....... (insert Angel emicon)
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