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chinabull2000
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Almost all of us here are single, or at least not in a serious relationship. Looking back through the years, is there one boyfriend or girlfriend that you've had that you really wish you'd stuck with because he or she might just have been the one?
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| May 9, 2006 @ 12:58 PM |
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chinabull2000
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As for me, I can think of one young lady that I let slip through my fingers simply because I didn't feel ready to settle down. We'd been in a serious relationship for about one year and friends for about 5 years even before that, and I dumped her! Why? Because I was stupid! I felt that I wasn't ready, but the next relationship I had I ended up marrying the woman, and what an even stupider mistake that was!!
Why oh why did I let her go!! Ah well!! 
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| May 9, 2006 @ 12:59 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Nope...my past relationship were better off left just that..Past..
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| May 9, 2006 @ 1:24 PM |
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tahoma
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Yes... there was one just a couple of years ago. I really hurt him and he moved back to Vermont so there was no going back. To be fair he really wasn't ready for a fullon relationship. We still email from time to time and both agree we were foolish. If he ever comest back this way, and I'm still single... I won't let him get away again!
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| May 9, 2006 @ 1:48 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Things are just meant to be this way either because you had not figured it out at the time or you were not prepared at that time in your life.
I wouldn't feel bad about it though, you still have unique memories. Things could have taken a turn for the worst too. Most people have a tendency to change, and what was once a desirable attribute may no longer exist. I realized this when I saw the changes which occurred in the people I once knew well, when I attended my 20 year high school reunion. Just hang onto the good memories think about the things that would never have happened in your life if you had chosen the alternative.
It's just the way things were meant to be.
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| May 9, 2006 @ 1:50 PM |
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Jankia
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Yes China there is one gal that I did stick with but she didnt stick with me.That was nearly 30 years ago and I know,let bygones be bygones but nobody forgets there first true love.You could call it yet today,my haunting I suppose.Ive dated plenty of gals and married one in those 30 years but have never found the kind of love that I had for her.
I wish I could get off this island! 
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| May 9, 2006 @ 2:20 PM |
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Loreli
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I think so, but as others have said, it was meant to be, so I accept it. At the time, it didn't work, but as I got older and more knowledgeable, I think it might have worked with a little help..
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| May 9, 2006 @ 2:22 PM |
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painter007
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No all the men who I have wanted to be friends or lovers with I had the pleasure of them also wanting it. I am lucky very lucky.
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| May 9, 2006 @ 2:33 PM |
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Cupcake43130
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Yes I have.....if he comes back into my life, then it was meant to be. If not, then I have wonderful "rocking chair memories".
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| May 9, 2006 @ 3:01 PM |
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holding4u
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I can't remember that long ago, but I have 3 children. Must have been somebody back there somewhere
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| May 9, 2006 @ 4:02 PM |
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lonewolf299
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There was this one girl a few years back and I dumped her after listening to my friends.  I've always felt bad for doing it and will probably never forget her.
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| May 9, 2006 @ 4:29 PM |
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Michael2972
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Yep. There was one girl I went to high school with. We never had a relationship past best friends up until she went away to college. I ran into her a couple years ago and we decided to go out to dinner to catch up. Come to find out she had the same hidden feeling for me that I did for her but we were both to shy and to afraid of screwing up or friendship if we said anything. She's happily married now with two kids and has a really great life. I'm glad things worked out for her the way they did.
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| May 9, 2006 @ 4:32 PM |
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definitelydi
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Isn't it funny when you run into someone you went to high school with only to discover that you both had feelings for one another? Something similar happened to me, only he turned out to be gay. DUDE...I shoulda went out with him! See what happens when a guy is denied his desires for me?! 
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| May 9, 2006 @ 4:36 PM |
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mailorderannie
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See what happens when a guy is denied his desires for me?!
Oh Di -- you are DEFINETLY one of a kind!
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| May 9, 2006 @ 9:48 PM |
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horselady9
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You had to start this! 
Long ago and far away.... and oh my, I adored him!!!! but I didn't let him go, or walk away. He was killed in an accident. He fell, from 10 stories up... and there wasn't much left to bury. He was 28, and I was 22... and he still haunts me, 40 years later.
oh Tucker..... little did you know!
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| May 9, 2006 @ 10:14 PM |
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crackerchickie
Posts: 448
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And then there are those you hook up with, that should have got away....
Boyfriends should have expiration dates yanno?
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| May 9, 2006 @ 10:47 PM |
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Goodness_Gracie
Posts: 710
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Like a renewed license? 
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| May 9, 2006 @ 10:59 PM |
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mogrl1000
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There was one when i was 20 -21 years old.He was from Oakland CA and we met in Bamberg, Germany.We dated for a year and he went back to the States.We stayed in touch for a while and the last time he called me from Portland ,Oregon i had just met my ex husband.I was a little bitchy and i have never heard from him again.His name is John Carter ,DOB 2-7-63,thats all i know.If you know him, send him my way please 
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| May 9, 2006 @ 11:04 PM |
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Eratimus
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I am at the point in my liefe that I dont want to lose the person I am with, but I also dont want to be the reason why it did not happen. gaw, such a horrible feeling not knowing what to do. I am 27, and am ignorant when it comes to relationships.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 12:05 AM |
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one_dimple
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Shortly after my divorce I eased into a relationship with a bear of a man, a brick layer....everything about him screamed ME!!! He had a big heart, was a strong communicator..which is high on my priority list..we could talk to each other about anything and did talk about everything. There was lots of passion mixed with very satisfying daily domestic living. He had been divorced 5 yrs when we met, but during our 'pillow' talks and his openness, he would become sad in spirit when talking about his past and his ex wife. He still loved her, but she had married someone else shortly after their divorce.
I don't know if it was a compliment or not, but he said the time he spent with me, reminded him of the happy times with his ex and that is how he came to realize he still loved her. When he discovered she was divorcing her current husband, he discussed it with me...seeing how he felt about his 'family' life etc;..I sadly (on the inside) encouraged him to reconnect with her...see if she felt the same way. It was a very hard thing for me to do. I had very strong feelings for this man.....but, I had to graciously step back, regardless of much it hurt and give him back to his ex if there was the possibility they could reunite. One cannot stand in the way of that kind of love. There would always have been something lacking in our relationship, had I pushed to keep him. We parted good friends. I wished him luck. I never did find out if he got back with his wife. Thought it best to leave it be.
Still.....after all this time...I think of him with sad regrets.
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