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sweet5red
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Ok yes this is a serious question.. i dont know if i ever saw it posted.. this is Hypothetical but suppose you met someone wonderful and fell in love and found out they were terminally ill... I thought about this after i watched a movie with richard gere and winona ryder ( autumn in new york) she was 22 and he was 48 and she was terminal.. what would you do...
Myself i beleive i would just love them and make the best of the time we had left together..... Sweet N Louisiana
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| May 10, 2006 @ 12:32 AM |
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Eratimus
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This is also alot like Sweet November
I have thought about it, while it would be hard to get close then lose them I think I would love them to the fullest not because she was termnal but because we actually cared for each other.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 1:23 AM |
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chinabull2000
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You would have to be pretty f***ing nasty to leave them at that point!! I would stay with her and make sure she enjoyed to the fullest whatever time she had left.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 1:43 AM |
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willsmalto
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I think this would be the crucial moment to show her your true love or feelings for her till her last second on earth.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 6:24 AM |
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SunBabe
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While it can be the very worst of times, it can be the very BEST of times  ...the "todays" are savored as if there will be no tomorrow.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 8:01 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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My favorite movie is a Walk To Remember..he found out after he fell in love with her that she was dying of leukemia..they ended up getting married and she lived through the summer...thats all they had together..it was so sad..If I knew..well yes of course I`d stay with that person. 
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| May 10, 2006 @ 8:58 AM |
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Bobbelieu
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I can't imagine just waltzing out of a relationship like that. Besides, what guarantee do we have with anyone in our lives that they will be there tomorrow?
It shouldn't make any difference.
Bob
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| May 10, 2006 @ 9:39 AM |
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WickedWench
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^.^.^.^.^
You're absolutely right Bob. Many people die every day not realizing it's their last day on this earth. You ultimately have no control over it.
Yes I'd stay-and love them like I've never been hurt
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| May 10, 2006 @ 10:16 AM |
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definitelydi
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Not me! I'd run like hell! 
Maybe sometimes I'm too...I dunno...practical! Yet, I realize love isn't practical, nor does it make sense! Strangely, I still try to apply some form of logic to it. Maybe that's what I've done wrong! 
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| May 10, 2006 @ 11:44 AM |
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holding4u
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My husband died of terminal cancer. The short time he had left was time enough to remember, to love and to say all those things that should have been said before.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 12:35 PM |
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sophie313
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If you truly loved them there would be no choice to make. By their side is where you would be.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 12:56 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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If you truly loved them there would be no choice to make. By their side is where you would be.
 
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| May 10, 2006 @ 12:58 PM |
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sweet5red
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My favorite movie is a Walk To Remember..he found out after he fell in love with her that she was dying of leukemia..they ended up getting married and she lived through the summer...thats all they had together..it was so sad..If I knew..well yes of course I`d stay with that person.
tink i loved the movie too i have all the nicholas sparks Movies ( walk to remember. message in a bottle and the notebook.) but then i knew before i posted this what kind of friends i have on Md.. Sweet N Louisiana
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| May 10, 2006 @ 1:39 PM |
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nah12
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that's very difficult in the best of situations......if it was an already established relationship most would probably stay....but if you had just met them and like them and found out i'm sure it would give many reasons to think how deeply you would allow yourself to become involved.......it sounds simple but in all fairness it's not......think of it this way if you just met someone and said hey nice person and interesting and then the bomb is dropped i only have a yr to live and no hopes of that changing would you really be able to go into a 100% giving your total heart knowing it was going to end and you could not change it.....it's one thing to stay around but total involvment is another, is it not?
some years ago during an illness i saw that look in some peoples eyes even as family, friends or possible new friends the look of fear and it is very justified and not an easy thing to see, go thru or watch from either side....because no matter how much you prepare oneself you are never ready for the end........either way a difficult decision and road to travel IMO and experience
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| May 10, 2006 @ 4:20 PM |
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Loreli
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If you felt in your heart and soul a deep love for that person, had admitted it, lived it, felt it- how would you FEEL about the rest of your life if you walked away from somebody you felt so deeply for?
Could you put a child with illnesses in an institution? I couldn't. I didn't. And I don't regret it one bit. If I feel love, I am there for them good or bad.
I couldn't walk away.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 4:30 PM |
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HARDNTX
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I had a uncle who's wife had alzheimers for the last 13 yrs of her life. He would not put her in a home...he bought a hospital bed and took care of her for all those years. He feed her, bathed her, he changed her dipers every day for 13 yrs. Six months after she died...he died....I told him long ago he was showing what the true meaning of love is....I will always remember him for that. He once said what kind of a person would turn his / her back on a loved one in need of care and love.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 4:34 PM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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nah has a point in the aspect if you just started this relationship it would be hard to get fully emotionally involved cause it is the fear of WHEN that person is gonna go and how can one handle it.
On another note if you were in a relationship..I would stand by him through the whole ordeal. Thick and Thin......cherish each and every moment!!! Live life to the fullest! I lost my fiance 5 years ago......Even though we had only 18 short months together I still wouldn't trade those months for nothing.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 4:45 PM |
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redhairNfreckles
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Like most of the posters in this thread, I would have to say I would stay with them. Being a nurse, and having lost my whole immediate family in just 2 1/2 years, I am VERY sympathetic, but also rejoicing with them, towards those who are on their own personal journey towards a heavenly home.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 6:10 PM |
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soul_decisions
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I saw both of those movies and I would definately stay
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| May 10, 2006 @ 6:16 PM |
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spongebob777
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I know exactly what I would do. I would stay.
My last girlfriend died of pancreatic cancer and I found it to be the most amazing source of personal growth for both of us.
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