| May 18, 2006 @ 1:30 PM |
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DwainP50
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Something I found on the net and wanted to share and get some insight on how you handle being one!
One can be the loneliest number but it does not have to be!
What's the secret?
Friends and self-esteem!
Although it is not easy to develop new friends, the friends developed after the end of a relationship are often the closest friendships you will ever have.
Why?
Possibly from necessity. Or maybe it is because people are more receptive to new friendships at this time in their lives.
But whatever the reason, your cure for loneliness depends upon your efforts in building a new social network combined with a few close friends.
The Ladder
Curing loneliness is somewhat like climbing a very high ladder. Each rung takes you closer to your goal because each rung decreases loneliness, yet the top is often out-of-sight.
Will you ever reach the top?
Maybe, maybe not. However, one day you will certainly look down and see most of your loneliness below you and the top of the ladder in sight.
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| May 18, 2006 @ 1:33 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Friends and self-esteem!
 One can never have enough friends... 
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| May 18, 2006 @ 1:48 PM |
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silknpearls
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I actually have several friends I made from dating - if they are good enough to date, then why not be friends?
There are exceptions - but that is the case with anything.
Maybe because I am surrounded by family and friends - just does not seem lonely.
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| May 18, 2006 @ 3:27 PM |
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sophie313
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Sometimes 2 is the loneliest number, if you're in a relationship with the wrong person.
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| May 18, 2006 @ 3:32 PM |
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Michael2972
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^ ^ ^ ^ What she said
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| May 18, 2006 @ 3:40 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Amen! 
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| May 18, 2006 @ 4:20 PM |
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tahoma
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My last relationship was like that... so I ended it and now that I'm alone, I don't feel so lonely
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| May 18, 2006 @ 5:45 PM |
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wandaful123
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Agreeing on all above, but the nights sure can get lonely 
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| May 18, 2006 @ 5:48 PM |
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SylvanDreams
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I need to be alone sometimes; being around other people 24/7 drives me crazy--I need down time. At those times, being a "1" is fine.
However, if I am alone and don't want to be, if I am a "lonely 1," I find companionship--my kids, friends, whoever. Then I am no longer a "1"--I am part of a plural of 2 or more.
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| May 18, 2006 @ 8:23 PM |
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Jankia
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How I handle being one is to remember an old REO song...
I used to be lonely till I learned about livin alone
I found other things to keep my mind on
And Im gettin to know myself a little bit better
Whoa , I keep pushin on
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| May 18, 2006 @ 8:28 PM |
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DwainP50
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I remember that song! Good song Jankia!
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| May 18, 2006 @ 8:40 PM |
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sophie313
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That album saw me through a rough patch years ago. Perhaps I should revisit it. Thanks for the reminder.
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| May 18, 2006 @ 8:44 PM |
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DwainP50
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It should be out on CD by now! REO 
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| May 18, 2006 @ 8:50 PM |
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Jankia
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Your welcome! Glad you like that both of ya.Now I get to tell a story,if you dont mind Dwain.
When I was 14 my folks were gone and my brother made me come with him to a bar so I wouldnt fink on him for taking the truck.At the bar REO was playing,it was before they were famous.Ridin the Storm Out has been one of my favorites since.
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| May 18, 2006 @ 10:52 PM |
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holding4u
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I agree that being in a relationship with the wrong person is truly lonelier than being alone. Staying busy helps. A thought came to me (gosh, do I have those) - if you think being alone is a burden, look around you and see those people who have much worse burdens - blindness, illness, death of a child, etc. Makes you realize that being alone is far lighter than the burdens some carry.
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| May 18, 2006 @ 11:01 PM |
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Jankia
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That is so true Holding.Dwains thread reminds me of one I started in the religion thread about who do you talk to when by yourself not including yourself.I talk to Jesus so that is one of my ways of dealing with being alone because really I never am.
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| May 19, 2006 @ 1:07 AM |
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nah12
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i've always told my newly single friends that when they could spend weekends alone with themselves and truly enjoy it, then they were ready for a relationship with someone else........
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| May 19, 2006 @ 1:34 AM |
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omkeerpunt
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i've always told my newly single friends that when they could spend weekends alone with themselves and truly enjoy it, then they were ready for a relationship with someone else........
This has a ring of truth to it but why spoil the next weekend you could have truly enjoyed on your own.
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| May 19, 2006 @ 9:51 AM |
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SylvanDreams
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Good point, omkeer!
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| May 19, 2006 @ 12:44 PM |
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vnnilagrila1959
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I've spent more time alone than anyone I know,I was an OTR truckdriver for over 10 yrs. and that is a very solitary life, couped up in what I refer to as a rolling prison cell !! Since '97 I've been raising children without anyone's help & I am at home by myself most all the time. I enjoy the solitude to a point, but still feel I want someone to be there when I come home from work. My work now is also a very lonley thing, I run my own paint contracting business & I'm usually inside someone's home by myself. I have to agree that if it wasn't for my relationship with Jesus Christ I'd probably have already gone out of my mind. Sometimes it seems the Lord is my only true friend. Alot of it is my own fault for not getting out and socializing,but I'm starting to realize now that too much time alone without social interaction is not healthy.HEY, at least I don't answer my own questions outloud yet !! 
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