| May 25, 2006 @ 9:14 AM |
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douge36
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when my sister and her husband divorced she didn't go back to dating for awhile. I questioned this because I assumed other than he was a jerk that she really enjoyed the dating scene more than marriage. Her reply was that she didn't have the strength to train a new one. Now I have heard this phrase before and dismissed it as humorous. In reading some of the forum posts and profiles of the ladies in here I think it is a real problem. I understand there are adjustment periods but it seems to be more on the ladies side of adjusting the new guy into her life style. Is this fair to say? I, being a guy, think I am comfortable anywhere as long as there is running water, TV and food. Ladies, is it alot of work to adjust or train and new man into your lifestyle and is that what is going on or can you not just co exist? Guys, have any of you ever put up a fight in this "training period" and won any battles? I laugh to think of what goes through a womans mind when she meets her new partner on the battle ground of a new relationship. What she must be thinking of the training the last woman had done to this guy. I wonder if you women don't call the ex's and get a list of the training that has been done and discuss the work that yet needs to be done. I wonder!! 
After re reading this, please don't take this as a sexest post or remark. It was just in good humor and something to ponder over. We men know that the ladies that enter in our life is our better half and accept that.
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| May 25, 2006 @ 9:32 AM |
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Cupcake43130
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I have heard that said about training a new one many times. Some people mean it in fun, but others are downright serious. I don't believe you can "train" anyone, nor should you want to. For me, a relationship is a matter of "adjustment" not "training'. If you enter into a relationship with the idea of changing that person....then why do it in the first place. Accept that person as they are....flaws and all. For example...my last SO came from a home that the TP was always "under". I'm an "over" girl. At first it drove me nuts, but as time went by, I realized I should be thankful he even put new paper on the roll...let alone if he did it the way I wanted. So I would leave it and when I changed the roll...I put it the way I wanted. Silly example, but there was no point in trying to change what he grew up with and wasn't worth arguing over. I adjusted to his way and he to mine on more than just the TP issue. To me, that's what a good, healthy realtionship is about.
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| May 25, 2006 @ 9:42 AM |
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LSU79
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One of my favorite quotes is Winston Churchill's line that says a man marries a woman expecting her to never change, and a woman marries a man expecting him to change, and they're both disappointed.
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| May 25, 2006 @ 9:44 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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Cupcake  some use the term or phrase *training* but it is the *adjusting* aspect part of it. Even if he puts both lids down or no cap on toothpaste or doesn't put a new roll on for the toilet paper or leaves his glasses around the house or forgets to put tools away, burps, farts etc.....when your single for awhile and then having a new relationship start it is the adjusting part.
I don't sweat the small stuff. Now if he forgot to flush after  or lifted his leg in public to pass gas or was a sloppy house person then comes the *training* part of it! 
But we all have our flaws and pet peeves but to me if he has a good soul, loving, caring and communicates well. (And has a great dupa to look at) then why sweat the small stuff. Companionship is where it is at. Besides I know some ladies who would gross you out but you wouldn't know it to look at them, dress to the hilt. Make boo-coo money. High society but there living habits are just the pits!! Would a man be willing to *train* them or adjust to it?
Good topic Doug!!! It did make me but everyone has there points and views on the matter!! 
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| May 25, 2006 @ 9:49 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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If you want to train something...get a pet. 
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| May 25, 2006 @ 9:54 AM |
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jim9562
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you train a dog! you adjust to people,,,,,,,,,,,,,and what is it with this toilet seat thing anyways? why is it so tough for women to simply put the seat down? do we complain when it's down and have to put it up? no! we just put it up and go on with life.. is it a lazy issue? some measure of control? perhaps it is the first stage in the training process,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,seat down....roll over,,,,fetch,
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| May 25, 2006 @ 10:11 AM |
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lilfeet
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Thats right -- you have to train men.
This is my world and you should adjust to it.
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| May 25, 2006 @ 10:15 AM |
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definitelydi
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Hmm...my mom told me to pick a young one this time so that I could "bring him up right!" My mom is so friggin' funny!
I'd be pleased if he were well enough trained on his own. If he's fairly clean and neat, and puts up with me, then it's all good!
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| May 25, 2006 @ 5:36 PM |
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Loreli
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I got ONE thng to say about the TP!
Depending on where the bracket is mounted- women have to lean to get to it...therefore, it is nicer to have the roll come over the top...less reach, ergonomic reasons, ya know...
(plus you can put the very elegant v-creases in the TP then, like the hotels do! hehe
Learn together.
And start right away!
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| May 25, 2006 @ 6:51 PM |
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calee
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[/QUOTE]why is it so tough for women to simply put the seat down? do we complain when it's down and have to put it up? no! we just put it up and go on with life.[QUOTE]
I have a few things to say about this .. #1 it is a proven fact that women have to use the toilet 3 times as much as men. If we lifted it every time for the man we would be lifting it for no reason 2/3rds if the time... Not to mention the times when the man wants the seat down. #2 sorry about being so blunt.. but when you pee all over the back of the seat we dont want to touch it..thats your job and hopefully you will be washing your hands afterwards. #3 when you have to make a night time run to the potty half asleep it is no fun sitting your butt down in the water.
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| May 25, 2006 @ 7:07 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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^^^^^^^^^^ couldn't have said it better myself 
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| May 25, 2006 @ 7:11 PM |
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Jankia
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I dont know what kind of men you gals are finding out there but peeing all over the seat when you miss? Gimmee a break,men have to sit down occasionally too,we dont piss with the seat down.Notice the word "men" in that opinion.
None of my friends,including myself,that are bachelors have a home that is so disgusting that they need training.We keep clean houses,know how to cook and take pride in how we live alone.
Toilet paper? Whenever I buy a new package I put all four rolls in a small wicker basket next to the toilet.Outta toilet paper? Grab a new roll and never get off the can.
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| May 25, 2006 @ 7:20 PM |
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jim9562
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i said=
why is it so tough for women to simply put the seat down?
which would seem to indicate the seat was up!
you said=#2 sorry about being so blunt.. but when you pee all over the back of the seat we dont want to touch it..thats your job and hopefully you will be washing your hands afterwards.
since the seat was up there is no way i could have pee'd on it,,,making that statement moot,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,i stand by my original thought which was,,,,,,seat up,,seat down,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,who cares! stop complaining if the seats up! put the damn thing down! if it's down ''i'll put the damn thing up without complaining! god forbid her highness has to bend over and do a little extra lifting perhaps she will break a nail! oh my! and then she can't work the remote to watch oprah or open up that box of bon bon's to shovel down her gullet !!!!!!!!!!!!
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| May 25, 2006 @ 11:24 PM |
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Greystone1
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#3 when you have to make a night time run to the potty half asleep it is no fun sitting your butt down in the water.
It's an IQ test.
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| May 25, 2006 @ 11:29 PM |
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Pete73052
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For example...my last SO came from a home that the TP was always "under". I'm an "over" girl. At first it drove me nuts, but as time went by, I realized I should be thankful he even put new paper on the roll...let alone if he did it the way I wanted. So I would leave it and when I changed the roll...I put it the way I wanted.
Oh yeah!! I hate "under" people. I can't tell you how many arguments I've had over this. Under people are just retarded. I really don't know why they don't have a checkbox for this - it's THAT important... like Smoker or Non-Smoker. 
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| May 25, 2006 @ 11:39 PM |
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wandaful123
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It's an IQ test.
Failed it twice that i can remember! wasn't pleasant
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| May 25, 2006 @ 11:49 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Oh yeah!! I hate "under" people. I can't tell you how many arguments I've had over this
Funny, this one bothers me soooooo much more than the toilet seat! I'm an 'over' person too...
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| May 25, 2006 @ 11:51 PM |
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Pete73052
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I'm an 'over' person too...
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| May 25, 2006 @ 11:53 PM |
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wandaful123
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Under people are just retarded. I really don't know why they don't have a checkbox for this
Ouch Pete! couldn't we just compromise? I'll leave the seat up...
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| May 25, 2006 @ 11:55 PM |
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Pete73052
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Should we keep a life preserver close by? Just in case 3rd time's a charm?
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