| May 30, 2006 @ 2:57 PM |
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Master2one
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Do woman in general feel that a married man is a married man. Even if he is a hopeless romantic and seeks to explore all sides of his being. What if he is not just after sex. Are there times when a married guy is any less off limits? Personally I would like to think it would be somewhat of a case by case bases. But I am coming from a bias position. Personally I think most woman have traveled the road of being with a married man but they are the first to write and attack. Are there any benifits of an affair for woman?
So, all men are scum? Lets hear.
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| May 30, 2006 @ 3:01 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 Married is married...off-limits?..For sure...
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| May 30, 2006 @ 3:02 PM |
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tahoma
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Absolutely off limits... why would I even want to go there?
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| May 30, 2006 @ 3:09 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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So, all men are scum?
First off, who said that???? That's so stereotypical.
Married men who want to explore outside their marriages are scum. I don't care what the reason is. If you need more than your wife, you shouldn't be in that marriage..
Yes, married men are always off limits. I've had I think two (that I know of at least) write to me. One insisted he just wanted to share erotic stories with me and the one wanted to get to know other women because his wife was disabled. The Erotic Story Man proceeded to call me tons of names and accuse me of tons of things when I turned him down, and I didn't even respond to the other guy, although he had the nerve to write to me again as if he'd never actually written to me.
Marriage is sacred. If you want to have a free sex life or whatever, divorce your wife.
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| May 30, 2006 @ 3:09 PM |
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lacyvsq
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There was a time when married was "safe" -- no chance for commitment -- no risk of real invovlement. Then I grew up...
It's playing by the golden rule -- I don't want to be instrumental in hurting any other woman -- as I hope no other woman wishes to hurt me. I wish all of us women would treat each other as sister/friends.
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| May 30, 2006 @ 3:33 PM |
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Master2one
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Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
I starting to bleed from the ears...
I love starting an interesting tread. Of course I was not talking about me.....a friend of a friend, yeah thats it. lol
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| May 30, 2006 @ 3:41 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
Scorned? I'm 19, when was I ever married to get hurt like this?
I just have morals.
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| May 30, 2006 @ 3:42 PM |
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lacyvsq
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Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
I starting to bleed from the ears...
Where did you get the fury? Where do you see women scorned? You are creating in your own mind the retribution that you believe you deserve...
One post out of four says something negative about men -- and she only quoted you. Maybe you ought to listen to your conscience...or advise your friend of a friend.
Editted to add -- oh yeah -- I've never been married either.
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| May 30, 2006 @ 3:50 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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I have a very dear friend who happens to be married. He lives in another state and travels to my state a couple of times a year. We always go out when he's in town and always have a great time. Do I consider this cheating on his wife?? Nope. We're not doing anything wrong by enjoying a meal and a few drinks and some great conversation. We also talk on the phone at least once or twice a month, sometimes once a week. There's no love involved and no committment. We simply enjoy talking to each other and spending time together.
I think that being with a married man should indeed be taken on a case by case basis. Especially if you read the thread on here about being "seperated". A lot of MD users openly admit to being seperated but not getting divorced for one reason or another. I certainly am in no position to sit in judgement of anyone. Everyone has to do what they feel in their heart is right for them.
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| May 30, 2006 @ 4:01 PM |
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Master2one
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What many will not freely express to others or even to themselves is that monogamy may perhaps not be a natural state for all humans. Does not mean they are immoral or indecent. Those are all labels society has deemed as to control the masses. The best one can do is to not judge others and look for the good in each of use. In the course of our lives we go though many facets. To think one person can coincide and grew together may be foolhardy. Hope does spring eternal so perhaps I am some strange anomaly who thinks romance with others is not a sin. Perhaps I am just one willing to admit that some of us have a large appetite and love variety. Not sexually so much as close romantic friendship. Life is too short to be held by archaic standards. What is good for one perhaps is not for another. Tolerance is key.
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| May 30, 2006 @ 4:01 PM |
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chinabull2000
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If a man is married and still living with his wife in a relationshgip then he should certainly be off-limits to everyone (apart from his wife), and he should not be seeking any extra-marital affairs.
And if he is a hopeless romantic, then he should try romancing his wife and stop looking for a quick shag elsewhere!! Duh!
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| May 30, 2006 @ 4:05 PM |
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kattsmeow
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China! 
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| May 30, 2006 @ 4:08 PM |
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raykl
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We always go out when he's in town and always have a great time. Do I consider this cheating on his wife?? Nope. We're not doing anything wrong by enjoying a meal and a few drinks and some great conversation. We also talk on the phone at least once or twice a month
Harley: Does his wife have knowledge of this and she has no problems with this?
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| May 30, 2006 @ 4:10 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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What many will not freely express to others or even to themselves is that monogamy may perhaps not be a natural state for all humans.
Then howbout not getting married, blockhead?
Oh, and lots of stuff that humans enjoy are not natural--- cars, SPAM, and Joan Rivers.......doesn't mean we don't enjoy them.
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| May 30, 2006 @ 4:22 PM |
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spongebob777
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When I was married I didn't even consider screwing around on my wife even when things were at the worst.
If someone were going to have an affair behind my back, I would rather have them just leave and be done with it.
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| May 30, 2006 @ 4:23 PM |
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Master2one
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Now we resort to name calling. Why we have so many unnessasry wars. Everyone thinks they are the one who holds the one and only truth. Blockhead should only be reserved when speaking about the President. :)
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| May 30, 2006 @ 4:36 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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Master..you started this thread with a very defensive attitude which IMHO shows that you suffer from a guilty conscience.
I think its a case by case thing.. personally, I have never cheated on a partner or with a married man when I was widowed. Just a moral choice for me.
I do not happen to think all men are scum.. all of us are just different with diff points of view.
If a person is unhappy with his/her marriage.. they need to get out....period!
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| May 30, 2006 @ 4:37 PM |
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definitelydi
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If one isn't done having relations with MANY people, then one shouldn't be married..I think that may be what LGQ was getting at, Master.
If you are okay with your wife doing the very same thing and have an agreement with her, then by all means, have at it. But seriously, what would the point of marriage be then? 
Several good points have been made...like turning that desire for "romance" back on your wife. You're not going to get more out of your marriage than you put into it. Quit looking for justifications for appalling behavior!
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| May 30, 2006 @ 4:56 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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Harley: Does his wife have knowledge of this and she has no problems with this?
Yes she is aware. She has been here with him and we've all gone out to dinner together. She's a wonderful person and understands that her husband and I are only FRIENDS! I respect their marriage. They're wonderful people. I'm just better friends with him than I am with her. Actually she has invited me to their home for a 4th of July party this year. 
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| May 30, 2006 @ 5:16 PM |
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chinabull2000
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Now we resort to name calling. Why we have so many unnessasry wars. Everyone thinks they are the one who holds the one and only truth.
Personally I think most woman have traveled the road of being with a married man but they are the first to write and attack.
If you started treating your wife (and other women) with a little bit more respect rather than this, perhaps people would be more ameniable to you.
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