| Jun 1, 2006 @ 10:32 PM |
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Jankia
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We all find it.Look back on your life,the times that were most enjoyed were those times that we were in love.Just because some of those times the love that we had for someone was not given back doesnt mean we didnt find it ourselves.
For anyone to say that you cannot or dont "fall in love" obviously never has, so they wouldnt even know its meaning.
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| Jun 2, 2006 @ 1:23 AM |
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omkeerpunt
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I think we just have this love thing completely wrong. When I read history I see people put in a position where they had to depend on one another, relating the greatest love stories. They seldom had much of a choice. They simply chose the one they liked best and stuck to that person irrespective of the circumstances under which they exist. They also didnt have much trouble in doing so and they were rewarded with a very close bond.
What I am saying is that virtually any two people who like each other can have this thing called love. It is a simple matter of choosing to belong and care and to stick to your choice. What we are all after is the reward from this.
There is another side to this though. Today I see people who "fell in love" ending up hating or at least seriously disliking each other. More often than not I see that this is because one or both chose to stop trusting or stop being unconditionally loyal to the other. Often this is a function of our extremely high expectations of oneanother/life in general and the associated busy lifestyle. We are simply paying the price for selfishness and the price is loneliness.
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| Jun 2, 2006 @ 2:10 AM |
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DwainP50
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you find out that having sex with someone new is so scary that you drink too much the next day. Yes, I did, and I am ashamed and have only myself to blame....I think.
Myself I would have a big s*** eating grin on my face and it will take a lot of drinks to take that away!!! 
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| Jun 2, 2006 @ 3:14 AM |
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chinabull2000
Posts: 7,012
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bus stands Your friends stand as bus stops looking for love? 
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| Jun 2, 2006 @ 4:27 AM |
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walkingman
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I don't think you can look for love. I feel it has to find you. I think then when you seek it that we try and look for something that should just be there. I am sure we all have all the chance's to be with somone that we were not into. I won't be with someone just for the sake of not being alone.
I will never look for love again. It will happen when it is mean't to be. I have no idea when, where, or if that will ever happen. I just take life on day at a time. I look forward to one day being in love It is a wonderful emotion that is not easily felt..It is very elusive but " all good thing's come to those who wait" . So let's all just have fun and let it come to us. when it doe's we will be  . Just don't  on why love has not found you. Life doe's not happen that way.
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| Jun 2, 2006 @ 5:18 AM |
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willsmalto
Posts: 3,645
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In my view, it's hard to fall in "true romantic love" and even much harder to maintain or stay in it, unlike the case with other kinds of love like parent/child love, teacher/student love, you name it.
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| Jun 2, 2006 @ 5:33 AM |
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mailorderannie
Posts: 6,021
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Myself I would have a big s*** eating grin on my face and it will take a lot of drinks to take that away!!!
Tooo funny!
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| Jun 2, 2006 @ 11:43 AM |
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DoorWatcher
Posts: 6,259
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Hey Dwain???
 I feel the love.....
Looking for love always brings me back full circle to ME....how much do I love? Can I forgive? Can I let go of the losers???
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| Jun 2, 2006 @ 12:14 PM |
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nah12
Posts: 3,973
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as once said by a wise person:
"No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE"
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 6:48 PM |
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sweet5red
Posts: 10,212
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i don't understand why many people are soo damned in a hurry looking for it as if it's the end of the world or something. there's a time for everything and it comes one at a time. let love finds you. online dating isn't the only place to meet that special someone. there's the supermarket, convenience store, coffee shops, train stations, airports, bus stands, elevators, market fairs are amongst the possible places to lock up eyes and hook up. at least, that's where my friends are on the look out.
well i must not be in a hurry as u call it since i have been divorced/single for 7 years..get to where i hate dating and want to get off the dating go round.. trust me it gets old.. whoever he is or whereever he is i sure wish he would find me...  Sweet N Louisiana
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 9:20 PM |
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sleeping_beauty
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Sorry if the waiting time gets longer for you. There is a novel that i want you to read and happens to be my all time favorite. It's titled Love In The Time Of Cholera by a Spanish author Gabriel Garcia Marquez. That novel will tell you the importance of patience. The lovers waited 50 years to find each other. I'll guarantee you'll enjoy it as the story itself is hilarious. By the end of the story, you'd feel it won't matter if you have to wait another 20 years.
S.B.
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 9:22 PM |
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mailorderannie
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It's titled Love In The Time Of Cholera by a Spanish author Gabriel Garcia Marquez.
Duh! I never got the significance of that book in the movie Serendipity until now!  Thanks SB for bringing that to light!
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 10:45 PM |
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desertwolf
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"Luck affects everything; let your hook always be cast. In the stream where you least expect it, there will be fish." (Ovid...1st century B.C.)
Perhaps, the same can be said about our search for that special connection with another person? In order to be able to recognize the opportunity, maybe we need to ensure that "we" are able to give and receive love, first? And maybe, without surrendering values, we need to be "open" to what this person will look like..be like...not limit ourselves to too narrow a vision?
One thing is for sure...if we don't cast our hooks...we won't catch any fish..
just some thoughts...
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 10:56 PM |
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LSU79
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you find out that having sex with someone new is so scary that you drink too much the next day
Didn't you do that backwards? Most people have too much to drink, and then have sex with someone new.
But, then you do what you've done your whole life, you learn from your mistakes, and move on.
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| Jun 5, 2006 @ 2:01 AM |
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grumblebear
Posts: 10,590
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well, some of us aren't looking... I've been free and single for 6 years since the last mess, and she was only around for 6 months, prior to her I went 10 years alone...
I don't date, I don't look... and these days I push women away... I'm willing to be friends with anyone, but I'm not going to let anyone get close enough to hurt me again
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| Jun 5, 2006 @ 8:31 AM |
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imgettingtired
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Candy:
Picky, not likely. I would rather not have a relationship ever than have a man that tries to control and rule my life and the thought of not being who I am personality wise just to have a man makes me sick. I've seen to many woman settle instead of being with their equal.
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| Jun 5, 2006 @ 9:24 AM |
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Loreli
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Everyone should be picky to the point that they don't just settle down with somebody to have somebody. As said by others, let love just happen. It usually does when you least expect it.
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| Jun 5, 2006 @ 9:56 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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Of course we all are (and were) picky to certain levels. But I must also state that some that are so picky are closed minded. Depending on what aspect of the picky level you are willing to take. Time is of essence. learning, growing listening adapting to things that don't seem to be perfection.
Some just aren't willing to let things go with the flow. Talk, listen observe and willing to communicate. Some also bring in baggage from past relationships which they tend to forget no 2 people are the same. What happened in past relationships doesn't mean it is gonna happen in another. Sometimes we all forget to look past the dark cloud that has been hanging over us at one point or another. To be able to go in it looking at it from another perspective. I feel to many have to many restrictions due to past relationships.
Just my 2 cents worth! 
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| Jun 5, 2006 @ 10:02 AM |
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wandaful123
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Yes, I am the one common denominator in all my failed relationships  or lack of success in building new ones. Think it may be time for some changes... or some serious councelling... 
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| Jun 5, 2006 @ 10:12 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
Posts: 710
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wandaful I had to reflect and make changes myself. I just told my family and friends * I got a new *ATTITUDE*......(hence sort of singing the same melody but different words the song I got a brand new pair of roller skates ) !!!
But I got rid of the black cloud as my family called it!
But changes in life can be soooooo good!! 
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