| Jun 3, 2006 @ 9:33 PM |
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Kimmaranclh
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I must be missing something...because I have to say...over the past week I've gotten at least 8 or 9 guys that have send me messages that are along the lines of "Hey, wanna meet up for a good time.."..that isn't an exact quote...I cleaned up the language a little..ok..alot...The messages were much more offensive than that.
I'm just confused....I don't think that's the image that I portray but perhaps I'm wrong?
And don't get me wrong...I would say that most of the messages I get are not geared towards this but over the past week it seems to be pretty frequent.
Do alot of other ladies go through this also?
What is it that makes men write this to women when the woman's profile does NOT say that she's looking for an intimate encounter and does NOT suggest that she'd be open to this kind of thing?
Thanks for the replys..:-)
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| Jun 3, 2006 @ 9:43 PM |
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spongebob777
Posts: 7,904
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That seems to be the way of the world on dating sites like this and it probably runs 10 to 1 women getting vulger messages. I've gotten two since about October and only one of those was from a female.
My reputation is intact.
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| Jun 3, 2006 @ 9:58 PM |
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Jankia
Posts: 11,892
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Your profile looks fine Kimmaranclh but maybe if some of those children that call themselves men saw the word "sensual" in it immediatly thought "this ones looking for a good time"
Just a thought. 
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| Jun 3, 2006 @ 10:56 PM |
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painter007
Posts: 17,853
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I really dont get vulgar messages.....Them men who write are really quite interesting and very nice
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| Jun 3, 2006 @ 10:59 PM |
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painter007
Posts: 17,853
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woohoo baby make it real good Sponge.....
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| Jun 3, 2006 @ 11:07 PM |
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MotownManiax
Posts: 9,737
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I never write women so you won't have to worry about me. 
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| Jun 3, 2006 @ 11:20 PM |
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Snappygoddess
Posts: 5,094
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No matter what any woman puts in her profile.. there are always going to be a few "men" that will take it as a come on and send vulgar messages.. or sometimes.. they just think if they send 1000 women messages, perhaps they will get lucky.....
Animals 
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| Jun 3, 2006 @ 11:37 PM |
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willsmalto
Posts: 3,645
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it's come to my notice that most guys, well some women, wink at or pm or even send a friend request to someone without scanning through their profile.
I don't send messages to "strangers" online, but have pm'd a few forum members just to thank them for a favor done
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| Jun 3, 2006 @ 11:47 PM |
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grumblebear
Posts: 10,559
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hmm, so when women send me a message thretening me? lol
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| Jun 3, 2006 @ 11:48 PM |
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3BearMom
Posts: 195
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I have noticed that it has a lot to do with the full moon -- that darn moon affects the wolf (dog) in some men and they just can't help themselves or maybe it is that they are just dogs (wolves) raised with a bunch of wild animals and don't really know how to treat a real lady.
For those poor, wretched, despicable, inferior, vile men (dogs - wolves) there is only one fitting thing that we can do for them -- have them neutered and put them out of their (our) misery. 
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 12:00 AM |
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grumblebear
Posts: 10,559
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but I don't want to be put down.... 
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 12:02 AM |
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painter007
Posts: 17,853
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men will be men..It is what it is.....I just laugh IF any come in........
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 12:35 AM |
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lacyvsq
Posts: 6,161
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I think 3BearMom is right -- the moon coupled with the end of horny season -- just makes animals out of some people. Yeah let's neuter them   -- don't let them reproduce.
(You think that moon is affecting us?  )
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 1:45 AM |
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DwainP50
Posts: 5,102
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they just think if they send 1000 women messages, perhaps they will get lucky.....
I have to agree with this premise that if just one or two ladies send back a message of interest to the perpetrator of these type of messages, it will justified in his mind that it does work. Something along the line of scam email, we might laugh it off as a scam and think who is so dumb to reply back, but a few do and that is all they need.
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 1:46 AM |
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Ron9
Posts: 386
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People that do that sort of thing on the net - are like that - they are like that in real life - no respect for others. They might hide it in real life for a bit - but as soon as they did not get their way - their true nature would come out. Self serving inconsiderate people - most people are fine but a few ...... ugg.
Just delete them girls and forget it ever happened.
I just got a few jabs from a female - I guess she did not like the fact I did not fall all over her just because she was in my same town. She said she was new to these sites - I took the time to try to help her learn the ropes - told her about a local site (for our town) and so on. She still jabbed me with a reply. Oh well. That reminds me of why I did not use to reply at all.
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 1:54 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
Posts: 10,951
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i get them all the time. it got so bad i had to put something in my profile about why i will not answer certain messages.
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 2:22 AM |
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walkingman
Posts: 639
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It is just the nature of the internet. These guy's are gutless and would never do that in person. Just let it go in one ear and out the other. I have gotten my share from women. I do agree that responding to them will just make them do it more. They do it for attention so ignore it and they will stop.
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 2:23 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
Posts: 6,034
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I've been pretty fortunate lately. I had a married man locally write twice tonight and try to get me to come out and meet him. He wasn't vulgar though, and I tried to be polite, but firm. Even my profile asks married men to move on to the next profile, but do they read? 
Although I haven't had any rude or vulgar men write me, I did receive a few whacked out emails from a woman. I considered the source and chose not to respond. Bothering with those types is just a waste of my time. They have issues, and I'm not getting paid to be a therapist. There was certainly no full moon when I received those emails. 
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 3:06 AM |
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chinabull2000
Posts: 7,012
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I think these idiots just send out out a ton of messages to anyone that's online, or anyone in their local(ish) area on the offchance they may get lucky. They're obviously just complete twats... but hey, do those types of messages ever work? I mean, come on, I hear of these kind of messages being sent all the time, so surely tyhere must be a reason why they carry on sending them. ~shrugs~
And by the way, I would love to receive some vulgar messages. 
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| Jun 4, 2006 @ 9:24 AM |
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doncasto
Posts: 270
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My relatively isolated (in terms of the MD membership ) location has spared me having to sort through any locally generated "spam" sends . . .I do get quite a few from the Philippines and China (the country, not the MD member ) . . .
Until I finally figured out that most of the spam senders did not even bother to check my profile (an advantage I appreciate with my paid membership  ) . . . .I was considering taking Taglog and Mandarin lessons, selling the house, and moving to Asia . . .it seemed the women there REALLY liked me  . . .
As others have mentioned, I cannot fathom how anyone could find any success or response from spam sends and/or mass vulgar sends. I think it is like those gossip magazines at the grocery checkout . . .a few people do gaze at the "Horny Aliens Fathered My New Baby - declares Tom Cruise" headlines but I have never seen anyone actually pay for one. Logic and reason tells me that some people must find some attraction to these (and maybe sneak back to buy them under the cover of darkness and while wearing a clever disguise?) . . .or they would not exist to clutter up the checkout line . . .or our inboxes.
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