| Nov 16, 2005 @ 8:31 PM |
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shyandsweet
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I have met a few men from single sites in the past. THEY think that being a nice guy is all that counts. Sure, most of whom I have met were nice guys both in person and via email but oh my gosh, talk about losers, physical appearances, short, fat, etc. I have come to the conclusion that people on single sites cannot get a date otherwise. I have not yet ran into a Lawyer or doctor on here. And no, I am not gold-digging, I just want someone financially compatible, not looking for a greek god, just someone pleasant to look at.
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 8:38 PM |
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lecriveuse
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that's a shame, shy. i dont know if they're attys or doctors on the net, but i've met a few on the street n they're losers, too. 
the internet wasn't ever my only means of interacting or meeting with ppl. admittedly, its very convenient. i did meet my current husband online (in a chatroom). he's always treated me as i liked (unfortunately, he's not totally paper trained). ppl usually surprised that we met on the net.
when i was single, i always met potentials at the library, bookstore (muscle car mags), coffeehouses/cafes, etc. i'm the consummate southern woman (i'll talk 2 just about anything). whether its on or offline, it takes time, patience n fortitude. good luck n keep those sights set.
p.s.s. eventually i just gave up then i ran into my husband again. it seems when u have given up looking then someone falls at ur feet. 
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 8:44 PM |
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Wibber
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That's funny, I work with lawyers and happen to know one who is on Match.com and Yahoo Personals. I don't think the Internet is for losers at all. And if you think so, then why are you even here?
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 8:46 PM |
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Xavier0777
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 Hey shyandsweet just wondering but dont you have a profile on this site, what does that say about you ?
I just read your profile, it was short to say the least. Where is the depth and persona and heart ? Slam on others without knowing anything about personality and then make genralizations that you can not back up. Sad...
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 8:48 PM |
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summersquall
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The Internet is simply a communication medium. If you look to it for all your dating resolutions, you're in for a big let down.The Internet cannot find the perfect partner for you, it simply widens the search area to one greater than what you were previously limited to.
There are many professionals that might not agree with your assessment of the personality and education of the people on a dating site.
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 8:48 PM |
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shyandsweet
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Now dear Wibber, how do you suppose I knew men on single sites were losers. You dont know unless you try, right?
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 8:52 PM |
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Xavier0777
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 another generalization, so the same can be said about all woman, like yourself right ? What sense does that make, each person is an individual, different with their own persona. So you have seen some bad eggs in the past, haven't we all.
You lose out on so much by judging the whole on the actions of the few ? 
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 8:53 PM |
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buni
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shyandnotsosweet...I'll have you know that there are plenty of lawyers,doctors and good looking men on here.
You are implying that most people on these sites are losers not worth dating, but why are you here?If you don't like what you find on these sites why not go back to the bar?
Being nice counts a lot with me, and it is women like you who make the nice guys not want to be nice anymore....
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 8:56 PM |
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jdctx
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I am one of the nice guy (not sure if I should be admitting that or not). I do understand what you mean. Most of the time the "nice people" seem to be nice with a major catch.
But Overall I think most have ridiculous expectations. As if Mr or Miss Perfect will just happen.. We have 2's who think they should settle for nothing less then a 7. 40 yr old men still living with mom thinking they will get a pretty 23 yr old virgin. Heavy set Moms with 3 or more kids thinking they will land a young stud... and so forth..
For I dont expect any answers from internet dating..Even though I've had countless bad dates. I still like meeting people. I already know it a gamble and chances are ridiculously odd against me finding a remotely decent person but I'm still willing to go on the adventure
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 8:58 PM |
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lobo65
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I don't think I'm a loser, and I've tried the online thing because I don't circulate socially that much. Believe me there are plenty of losers online and off. Of course those guys might have thought you were a loser too.
[Edited on 11/16/2005 10:00 PM]
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 9:52 PM |
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Talonz59
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ok..let's see if I got this straight. Being nice in person and in email is one thing..but if you don't make someone's percieved level of financial success, or aren't they're idea of eye candy, you're a loser? The only loser (in the big sense of having lost out) is the person making such comments.
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 10:03 PM |
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Teddy_Bear050
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I agree both with Talon and Xavier.
You sit here and create a thread about nice guys who aren't meeting your expectations, and that internet dating is for losers. There are plenty of people who have met via internet who are in very happy relationships. The main part of that being that their personalities matched with what they were looking for. The way you talk about it, you say, "I don't want a greek god," Yet you want a man with a nice persona, who's well off finacially, and has the looks of a young model.
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This coming from a woman who's 53 (old), Average body (not fit), lives in Indiana (not well off), 5'4" (short on average), has no picture posted, and is single.
I'm sorry ma'am, but you're definately not going to find the person of your dreams on here if you continue with the attitude you have, because personally, you're not all that special yourself.
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 10:17 PM |
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tjz123
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I'm on here to avoid the bar scene and don't fit your criteria of an online loser.... 
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 10:19 PM |
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corvette_racing
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I know one thing for sure.. I'm not a loser.. not even close.. Other than the fact that I'm single right now, everything else in my life couldn't be better... and I still didn't manage to get any dates (through any of the dating sites) with a woman that would meet my desired criteria... 
I'm not flexible on my criteria.. Attraction is a prerequisite for me to be interested in a relationship and personality would seal the deal... but no luck online so far...
Damn.. that's already post 100.. Maybe I should spend less time online and more time looking for a girl around town....
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 10:21 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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shyandnotsosweet...I'll have you know that there are plenty of lawyers,doctors and good looking men on here.
You are implying that most people on these sites are losers not worth dating, but why are you here?If you don't like what you find on these sites why not go back to the bar?
Being nice counts a lot with me, and it is women like you who make the nice guys not want to be nice anymore....
Preach on sister Buni. I've met doctors, lawyers, on here as well as on other sites. Most of em I met just by sitting on IM and minding my own business. Being a single parent I can't afford to socialize alot and the bar scene has long been over, only reason I went to the bars before was to DANCE and I did sing at a few bars for awhile too. 
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 10:40 PM |
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conny90045
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I have been dating off and on for 8 years. I have met and talked to good men and losers. NOT all men are losers. I am sure men meet women who are losers. It goes both ways.
I am going to make one thing straight here and now. There is nothing wrong with (in your case) "FAT" people. When you put others down it shows how insecure "YOU" are. Get a grip. I have met "FAT" men before and they are decent people. You need to "GROW UP" missy. I get rejected just like everyone else but most of them tell me in a respectful manner. NOT all men are "LOSERS". So instead of of putting others down, look at yourself in the mirror and look at your faults instead of other so you work on your own self esteem.
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 1:19 AM |
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swingpup
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I have not yet ran into a Lawyer or doctor on here.
shyandsweet...................You are indicating that lawyers and doctors are not present upon this or any other "dating" site? I beg to differ, you are reading the typings of one.
Sure, most of whom I have met were nice guys both in person and via email but oh my gosh, talk about losers, physical appearances, short, fat, etc.
Were you not privy to their pictures prior to meeting them in person? If I may ask, where might your picture be found? 
And no, I am not gold-digging, I just want someone financially compatible, not looking for a greek god, just someone pleasant to look at.
What, do you request there W-2's, 941's and/or 1099's before meeting or continuing to date?
I have come to the conclusion that people on single sites cannot get a date otherwise.
I am of course unable to type for all males however many of us have "dates" readily available. Maybe you are a newbee to all of this.....hang in there, it shall fall into place for you.
You may desire to post your pictures, restructure your profile which shall assuredly draw an large supply of buff male lawyers and physicians with deep pockets to your e-mail.
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 2:50 AM |
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grumblebear
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its all perspective... if you are drawing the wrong type, change bait
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 2:54 AM |
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RareQuestor
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I am fairly sure that shyandsweet is what we Usenet regulars call a troll: someone who is just trying to provoke outrage by making inflammatory statements.
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| Nov 17, 2005 @ 3:11 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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Ok fine I'll admit I'm one of those so called "losers" haha!
I agree with everyone else as to what are you doing on here and posting this if you are convinced people online are loser? I personally have met some wonderful friends off the internet and I think personality and similarities should be one of the most important part of finding a friend or a relationship.
Well I might as well defend myself since I butted into the conversation lol. I actually perfer the internet to look for friends and maybe someday a possible relationship, because it gives me a chance to look beyond the state of WI people and opens up a whole world of different types of people, and the fact that most of the people in my area are into the whole bar scene and partying and I am not looking for that. And I will admit I am antisocial to an extent, so its easier to get to know someone by phone or email first.
*AsH :)
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