| Jun 19, 2006 @ 4:51 AM |
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sweet5red
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i just dont get it at times.. i have a profile on another singles site.. and well some people can be downright cruel and rude.. all i did was read this one guys profile and knew he was NOT my type.( i didnt write to him). well the next day i got an email message from him that said " MY dream girl" and then in HUGE letters it said NOT and called me a ugly skanky looking well you get the idea.. I should let it bother me but it did.. whats your take on this.. i dont feel that i am a bad lookin lady.. but that email to me was way beyond cruel and vicious..  and uncalled for.. Sweet N Louisiana
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 5:25 AM |
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mailorderannie
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Totally uncalled for. I've had it happen too Red and have no idea why people think they can treat others that way.
Just hang in there and try not to take it to heart.
Hugs!
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 5:27 AM |
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DwainP50
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He just wanted to do some childish venting and unfortunately you got in his sights. I wouldn’t let this childish out burst change anything. You are still a good-looking woman and you know this! So don’t let him win by questioning you worth.  
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 6:11 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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Idiots come in all sizes, shapes and ages......YOU know what you are about, Sweet..... feck him and all the other ignorant a$$'s of the world who wouldn't know a good woman if she ran over them.....(now there is an option  )
A lot of people tell you what a wonderful and sweet gal you are.. and just a few get crude and rude...... now who are ya gonna believe?? 
Hugs
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 6:30 AM |
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luvshorses644
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Sweet...
We have all had this happen to us .. the one that stands out in my mind was a guy that wrote me and in his initial email talked about all the "things" he would like to do on our first date and I was new to this, so I wrote him a note saying that I felt that we were not a good match. Well, the note I got back from him was as you said.. vicious.. he told me that the reason I loved horses was that was prolly the only kind of love I could hope to get returned most prolly because I resembled a horse's a$$ so much!
I think it might even be wounded pride on the guy's part.. he saw you looked at his profile, didn't write and thought.. hmmmppphhh if she thinks she is gonna do something like that, watch this! Now this should resolve the fact that even before he opened his ugly "pen" (I was gonna say mouth, but since there was not a voice involved.. ) you knew he was not your type and perhaps even give your confidence in choosing a mate a boost... you KNEW this before he wrote!!!
And just because some fool wants to reach out and hurt someone should never make you doubt the fine classy good looking woman you are. If it helps, print out the message, rip it to shreds and burn it.. then toss your hair back, strut on away and have a great day knowing that what you KNEW turned out to be TRUTH!!!
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 7:29 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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Sweet it is a sign of insecurity!!!! They feel the need to belittle someone else in our to make themselves feel bigger which it doesn't but they are blindsided.
Also the fact they feel powerful cause they can sit behind a computer and be rude and vulgar but it is those kind you wanna stay clear of. You never know what lerks behind a screen...... 
But remember your better person then he could ever be. You don't need to stoop to there level to feel better about yourself. As long as you love yourself that's all that matter's. Apparently they don't love themself!
Just say *NEXT*!!!!!!!!   
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 7:57 AM |
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amicishirl
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Yep...........I got an e-mail like that from someone and I hadn't even looked at this profile - it was just from something I had posted on a forum. It takes all kinds - and that kind NO ONE needs!  and I sure wouldn't worry about it  .
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 8:05 AM |
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chinabull2000
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You shouldn't worry about it, even though I know it can really piss you off. The bloke is obviously a complete asshole and will be trawling through online dating sites for the rest of his life.
Oh yes, and you should report him to the "report abuse" people on that site, get his skanky attitude deleted!!!
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 8:09 AM |
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nightrider3281
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sweet don;t sweat about a guy that has no self esteem, it is a shame that their are people out there like that. I agree with china need to report him, that is just sad that he is that way
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 10:36 AM |
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Halfevl333
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Very true... lots of jerks out there. Well don't let him get you down.
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 11:00 AM |
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Cupcake43130
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Don't let it bother ya Sweet. I've gotted the vicious mails before too...because of things I've posted in the forums or because of rejecting someone. I don't think too much about it because it just shows THEIR lack of security and self esteem. Being in an abusive relationship in the past...... I have learned people with low self esteem have to belittle others to make THEMSELVES feel better. It's no reflection on you whatsoever. Keep your chin up girl. You're a great catch and you'll run across that special someone....just be patient
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 12:07 PM |
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SensualGemini
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...People that have to put other people down, are beyond insecure; to feel better about themselves.
...Often times and especially on an intermittent basis, these same types can keep a front up for months. When they do find someone that they are attracted to and encounter rejection, these are the same types that are a total pain in the a** to get rid of.
...Red, there is a positive, in that although you had no initial interest, you immediately found out who he was and can use the delete button.
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 12:32 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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thats true theres always the delete button... 
Don`t pay no mind to guys like that sweet...their not worth it..
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 1:59 PM |
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sweet5red
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We have all had this happen to us .. the one that stands out in my mind was a guy that wrote me and in his initial email talked about all the "things" he would like to do on our first date and I was new to this, so I wrote him a note saying that I felt that we were not a good match. Well, the note I got back from him was as you said.. vicious.. he told me that the reason I loved horses was that was prolly the only kind of love I could hope to get returned most prolly because I resembled a horse's a$$ so much!
he musta been blind.. Luvshorses because i said it before you are gorgeous ( LOL i wish i looked that good) and thank you all for the love and support.. yes he was a JERK.. and there will always be fellas like that.. MY white knight/ cowboy/ hero is out there someplace.. Sweet N Louisiana
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| Jun 19, 2006 @ 2:02 PM |
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Cupcake43130
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You got it girl...and when your white knight shows up....ask him if he has a brother for me!!!
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| Jun 20, 2006 @ 7:37 AM |
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imgettingtired
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sweet:
that is the way it is. Men are vicious and cruel and even the ugly ones with pear shapes think they are God's gift to women. That is why I basically don't respect men unless each one individually of that gender proves they are the exception.
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 10:35 PM |
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walkingman
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This is just the said reality of single's sight's on line. People can just be cruel. I wiuld love to have see one of these gutless wonder's do it in person. It won't happen. Let it go in one ear and out the other. I know it's hard but you have to be thick skinned when it come's to people on line. I am sorry it happened to you but just try and forget it.
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 11:04 PM |
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parTgirl
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been there, done that jester ~ had it happen to me in person :(
you meet up with someone, from afar or even close by, you get together with them and as soon as you're alone, 'what's this, where did this come from, or what happened here'?
if you're a person who is only into skin and bones for women/men, by all means put this fully on your profiles, if you're not, then don't expect it, don't nag the other person if they have a few extra pounds cause believe me, the more you nag, the worse it is for them to want to lose weight on their own.
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 11:11 PM |
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robodad
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I've never had that happen to me and I've never heard anyone complain about that before.
No one should ever accept that kind of e-mail....report the abuse and hopefully that fool will be deleted.
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| Jun 26, 2006 @ 6:00 PM |
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geminifla
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What he was doing is called projection. Trust me, that's an individual that's full of self hate. He is mean to other people because he hates himself. Nothing to do with you at all. That's what the block and delete keys are there for.
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