| Jun 20, 2006 @ 7:23 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I think I might be high maintenance. Here's why:
I know what I want and I accept nothing less. Average is not good enough for me.
Do I feel entitled? Of course not...but I do want to be with someone who I feel understands me and complements me and I don't think many "average" guys can do that. I won't even give a guy a chance if he doesn't fit my standards because I don't want to ask him to change who he is for me.
Why does everyone hate "high maintenance" ? Why is the attitude of trying to keep what you don't want out of your life so looked down upon? If my attitude leaves me without a woman or man, it doesn't bother me...I've made it alone before and could do it again. I feel like my attitude is safer for me, it could possibly prevent me from being hurt. I could miss out on something, possibly, but why should I go out on dates with men who are nothing like what I know I need in a man, only to have to end up dumping them after things get kind of serious? Wouldn't it just be better for all parties involved to not even bother?
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| Jun 20, 2006 @ 7:27 PM |
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spongebob777
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I know what I want and I accept nothing less. Average is not good enough for me.
You're not high maintenance, you're normal.
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| Jun 20, 2006 @ 7:31 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I know what I want and I accept nothing less.
 And thats the way it should be...you go for what you want not what everyone else wants.. 
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| Jun 20, 2006 @ 7:43 PM |
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Snappygoddess
Posts: 5,101
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You may be 19 in age.. but in wisdom you are much older 
IMHO... high maintenance is someone who has to have the most expensive of everything... no cheap dates...no cheap anything....always wants more....never satisfied and takes their SO for granted. That is my definition of it anyway.
Not settling is a smart way to be.
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| Jun 20, 2006 @ 9:16 PM |
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DipityDoo
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No, you're not high maintenance. To me, high maintenance is someone who is very difficult to please, almost never happy, focused on material goods, may be shallow, may tend to a lot of drama.
You, on the other hand, know what you like and want what you like. That, to me, is good self-knowledge. I don'/t think people should settle; I think I'm also like you in that there are few that I can "click" with. It may mean waiting a long time to find someone, but to me it's soooo much better. Actually, it's not even worth trying to date someone I don't click with.
Good luck to you....
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| Jun 20, 2006 @ 9:23 PM |
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torees121
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I agree with the others. This is not my definition of high maintenance. Just normal.
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 12:30 AM |
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grumblebear
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there are several schools of thought about love...
some people want a low maintenance, dependable form... lets call it a gas forced air furnace... its just there, it almost always works, once a month you change the air filter, once a year the ducts get cleaned.... boring...
some people like fireplaces... inefficient, you have to clean the chimmney all the time, buy wood, or cut wood, start the fire, add wood to the fire... watch it... etc... all very labor intensive...
I'm a fireplace kind of guy...
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 5:46 AM |
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chinabull2000
Posts: 7,012
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There is really no point in "settling for less". I've done that before and it creates nothing but trouble and strife, believe me!! You're not high maintenance, you're sensible!
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 6:47 AM |
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sciurusniger
Posts: 2,958
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As folks have said, you are smart and perfectly normal-smart, to boot.
High maintenance people are selfish, vain, shallow, grasping and greedy, both materially and emotionally. They don't want to have to do any of the work involved in a relationship, they prefer to think the world revolves around them and use tactics both subtle and not-so-subtle to manipulate others into doing for them what they ought to be doing for themselves. They are extreme "takers", and so exhibit an inordinately high degree of immaturity in their behaviors. Think of babies who, when they need something, simply scream and fuss until they get it; sure, they are innocent and reward you with their cooing and smiles when they are taken care of, but in an adult? This gets old fast. At least it does for me.
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 6:56 AM |
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EvoPsych
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As folks have said, you are smart and perfectly normal-smart, to boot.
High maintenance people are selfish, vain, shallow, grasping and greedy, both materially and emotionally. They don't want to have to do any of the work involved in a relationship, they prefer to think the world revolves around them and use tactics both subtle and not-so-subtle to manipulate others into doing for them what they ought to be doing for themselves. They are extreme "takers", and so exhibit an inordinately high degree of immaturity in their behaviors. Think of babies who, when they need something, simply scream and fuss until they get it; sure, they are innocent and reward you with their cooing and smiles when they are taken care of, but in an adult? This gets old fast. At least it does for me.
I have nothing to add to that...Could not have answered that question better.
That is dead spot on.
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 7:03 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
Posts: 710
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Yeah what sciurusniger said , high maintence is taker's they would rather recieve then to give. Like a person who don't wanna get there nails dirty they would rather be pampered like a baby!! Selfish and shallow people.
But lipgloss whoever said your high maintence needs to learn what the definition means. You are normal in knowing what you want out of life and won't settle for nothing less. That is guarding yourself. Your heart your dignity etc etc.
All very good advice on here! Nothing more to say!
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 8:53 AM |
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sweet_n_small1
Posts: 753
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I would guess that Paris Hilton would be high maintenance...not LGQ.
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| Jun 22, 2006 @ 1:37 PM |
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sweet5red
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High maintenance people are selfish, vain, shallow, grasping and greedy, both materially and emotionally. They don't want to have to do any of the work involved in a relationship, they prefer to think the world revolves around them and use tactics both subtle and not-so-subtle to manipulate others into doing for them what they ought to be doing for themselves.
High maintenance to me always are the "gold digger" type or it seems.. materially and with the buy me this and that( cars etc..) diamonds, etc.. sure isnt me.. LOL i pay my own bills, bought my own house.. ( paying for) working my butt off .. ( omg worked a double yesterday) getting ready to go to work again.. im not the type for a sugar daddy.. but would love to find my partner for life.. :) sweet N Louisiana
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| Jun 22, 2006 @ 2:55 PM |
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grumblebear
Posts: 10,559
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every person I have met from the web who hated "High Maintenance people" were themselve high maintenance who didn't want to share their "time", they didn't want to be anything but the "top" priority...
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| Jun 24, 2006 @ 1:00 PM |
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sjpinatl
Posts: 671
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Don't worry about what everyone else thinks and get off the message boards and live your life. You are on here too much for a young woman.
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| Jul 8, 2006 @ 6:07 PM |
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jamminjerry
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i don't have a problem with high maintenance as long as it doesn't overflow LOL but then again, there is humor in all things! so i would just make light of the high maintenance thing.as with most things in life it should not be taken seriously. the loss would be much greater than the gain.
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 6:49 PM |
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CrackerJackPat
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Hmmm....
We've got 2 of the same kinda thread going....
In reply.... however...
I don't think your necessarily the 'norm' because I think there are a lot of people out there who really don't care who/what they get.
From what I've been gathering, you wouldn't be considered "high maintenance" if the man you are/were with held the same values as your own.
On the OTHER HAND IF you went into a relationship with a man whose values were not on par with yours... for HIM you'd be pretty "high maintenance".
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 6:59 PM |
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jamminjerry
Posts: 4,085
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there ya go! a most excellent example of logic from a woman.
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 7:05 PM |
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GildedLion
Posts: 119
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My sister was high maintenance and liked to let everyone know she was a JAP (Jewish American Princess), she seriously made me tell her she was gorgeous twenty to fifty times a day (I counted a few times) to boost her self-esteem, and needed all sorts of reassurance to the point where everything I said was insincere, and I didn't want to be insincere, I'll compliment someone enough (whenever I notice, which is a lot), but not fifty times a day. Eventually she did turn out really pretty, but still, it was torture.
But no, you aren't high maintenance, just smart.
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| Jul 29, 2006 @ 5:15 AM |
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luvmycats
Posts: 10,208
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You are not high maintenance, like most everyone else is saying.
I don't agree with sjpinal, you spend as much time on here as you are comfortable with. You are young and don't need to rush into any kind of relationship you are not comfortable in. You are very wise for your age and being here a lot may be part of what lead to that. I know even at 45, I still learn things from being on here. I have friends and family that think I too, spend too much time on here, but I could be out doing things that I don't believe in or am not comfortable doing, such as doing drugs, spending my time in bars, picking up useless men. Sorry, I am much more comfortable right here, listening and learning, and putting in my 2 cents.
Good luck sweetie, keep your standards.
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