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sweetdanishgirl
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why is it so hard these days to get a proper date.
maybe it's just me.. i was in a relationship for 5 years and today the dating-thing seems very VERY difficult to me it's so bad im thinking of staying single and give up dating..
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 8:05 AM |
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sweet_n_small1
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I was married for 20 years and am finding it very difficult to find someone to date. Being in a small town where everyone thinks of you as half a couple doesn't help either. I would never give up though. Even if you don't find "the one" hopefully you will make some friends, have a chance to get out, do something fun. Why would you just give up dating completely? Just play it by ear and see how it goes. Don't go into it thinking you are looking for a significant other. Maybe you are trying too hard?
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 12:38 PM |
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COWBOYBILLYBOB
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when you have been in a long term relationship, you get comfortable! when you are alone again, obviously, you're not! confidence is down. and the older we get, the more the 'RULES" change. the dynamics have changed. dating may now involve conversation subjects like kids, x spouses, and a lot of things that weren't part of the scenery when you are younger...just my 2 cents!
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 12:41 PM |
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IndigoRose
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Aww pretty girl don't give up!
Dating has really changed in my time I still expect men to act like gentlemen and bring flowers and stuff  even if they pick them from the yard ( the nieghbors yard not mine )
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 1:30 PM |
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Cidronlvnv
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'scuse me, but i do act like a gentleman.. sure, it may be old fashioned and all, but its me..
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 1:47 PM |
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IndigoRose
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You are a gentleman... and sweet for a man 
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 2:38 PM |
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Cidronlvnv
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thank you 
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 2:55 PM |
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NeverB4Alone
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Me Too, Me Too .......  
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 3:57 PM |
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diana143708
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Go to bars, and look for opportunites that aren't really conventional too. Like when you're doing shopping and bump into someone, see it as an opportunity, rather that "oh this isn't SUpposed to develop into anything more"
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 7:02 PM |
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grumblebear
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and some of us do find it easier to just stay out of it... chat with people online, live thru the illusion of online...
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 9:06 PM |
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lonewolf299
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Go to bars
That is a good idea, however bars aren't for everyone. I find myself to be uncomfortable in bars, large crowds of people tend to make me paranoid. It is possible to meet some one while shopping, just as long as you are smart enough to get a name and number or even better a date out of it,  I wasn't , oh well.
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| Jul 20, 2006 @ 10:53 PM |
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Cidronlvnv
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going to bars is uncomfortable for me.. as i dont drink.. kinda a vegatarian going to Sizzler.. Also, in the past, it was the place to meet women, but as the saying back in Kansas goes, "The women get better as closing time approaches"..., plus, i am not interested in a one night stand (ie a quick fu**).. I would be more interested in the person, and all that. Dunno if the meat rack of a bar would do that for me.. *shrug*.. so, options are.. limited.
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| Jul 21, 2006 @ 12:30 AM |
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Always_Striving
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This is easy
Your profile reads
looking for meeting new people aboard
All you need is lots of money to buy plane tickets every weekend to travel to meet your date.
Dammm I'm good.
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| Jul 21, 2006 @ 11:38 AM |
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Cidronlvnv
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alas, but i am not willing to relocate.. not until the kids are 18 and in college, abroad.. so.....
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| Jul 21, 2006 @ 2:56 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Cidronlvnv
I was talking to the OP "sweetdanishgirl"
She intiated the thread.
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| Jul 21, 2006 @ 3:05 PM |
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Cidronlvnv
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forgive me, i was fresh off of a long nights work and the mind was still kinda numb..
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| Jul 21, 2006 @ 3:06 PM |
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Aries361
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What is the male-female ratio over there? Over here there are 50% more men on these dating sites than women. That was from a brief survey I did of a few dating sites. I have given up on dating for now, but I am getting some problems fixed and I will try to get back into it. It might be easier to get a mail order bride though. Do they have mail order husbands for women like you? I wonder.
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| Jul 21, 2006 @ 3:08 PM |
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Gray81
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why is it so hard these days to get a proper date.
maybe it's just me.. i was in a relationship for 5 years and today the dating-thing seems very VERY difficult to me it's so bad im thinking of staying single and give up dating..
Danish people always have this problem.
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 2:36 PM |
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sweetdanishgirl
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well many of you proberbly right at some point.
last time i was free to date i was 18 me and my friends went to bars and that kind of places and we met guys and took it from there.
today people expect bouth women and men that when they hook up in the bar they're going home to have sex.. well im not like that and i don't wish to be like that even though my girlfriends are.
I dont think we have any dating culture here, like in the US.
I like being me but it's proberbly me who're expecting to much.
many thing has happened in my live i didn't asked for and that is mostly why i need that special person to patient with me.
and drunk people in bars are not patient.
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 2:39 PM |
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sweetdanishgirl
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i didn't understand the comment about danish people always has this problem?
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