| Jul 22, 2006 @ 3:09 AM |
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covered_in_cake
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So I'm back from my blind date. He did pay for everything and held the door for me and was a perfect gentleman...save when he stuck his hand down my pants, grabbed my boobs, and propositioned me. He put his arm around me and held my hand. We talked for over two hours about music, movies, getting high, politics, and college. He makes my vagina tingle and I've never had that feeling before. But the thing is, he's aggressive and forward and clingy and needy because he wants me to do something again with him this weekend and go see Catch 22 with him sometime next week. I want to see him again, but we just had our first date. Should I accept a second so soon?
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 3:29 AM |
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SunBabe
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when he stuck his hand down my pants, grabbed my boobs, and propositioned me
He WHAT? 
That's when you were supposed to elbow him in the nuts, sweetie.  Then you wouldn't be pressured into having to decide about two more practically back-to-back dates already. 
Time to communicate. Ask him if you're just a booty call...and ask yourself if you're going to have regrets if you give in to your tingling (rather than using your head -- and heart)
Oh, and when/if you're discussing "booty" (or the reality of using some self-control) find out his views on condoms. Please.
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 3:58 AM |
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wlvmark2003
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 8:10 AM |
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sciurusniger
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he's aggressive and forward and clingy and needy
Trust your guts. You've just stated how you really feel, and it's not about the fact he immediately wants to engulf you in his life.
You would never come back from a first date with a real perfect gentleman and say "he stuck his hand down my pants, grabbed my boobs, and propositioned me". Maybe if he'd become rip-roaring drunk, but that is not something a real perfect gentleman would do, either. This was not only rude, but hints of personal issues. The kind that don't usually have happy endings when applied to relationships.
Only you can decide if this is the kind of person you want to become involved with at all, let alone on an intimate basis. Me, personally? Not.
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 8:22 AM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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Wow! That is what you call a gentleman? I agree with Sun and sciurusniger.
You are young and don't need those kind of *gentleman*.
 First Blind date and he stuck his hand down your pants , grabbed your boob, and proposition you? He would of gotten more then an elbow. Perhaps fell to his knees and not be able to get up for awhile!! The guy has issues.
And geesh I hope you or him carry condoms! Don't ever rely on the guy to have them either!
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 8:34 AM |
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AngelLight
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"He did pay for everything and held the door for me and was a perfect gentleman...save when he stuck his hand down my pants, grabbed my boobs, and propositioned me....."
This man is not a perfect gentle man.....he somehow felt entitled to behave in the way he behaved.....why?, because he paid for the meal? or held your hand or the door open for you?
Trust your instincts. He did not treat you well. You may feel confused because of the discrepancies in the ways he treated you.....he paid for dinner, held the door, held your hand and talked with you about things you held in common....yet, he physically mishandled you, breaking sexual boundaries that no person should break....I doubt you asked him to aggressively grab you and put his hands in places hands should only be when they are invited there. I sense you liked him on one hand but felt violated by him on another.
You clearly seek a gentleman. There are many gentlemen out there. He is not one of them.
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 9:15 AM |
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LSU79
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You seem more put off by him asking for a second date, than by him jumping your bones. I'd view the asking for another date (not so sure about 2nd) as the only positive thing about the guy. Afterall, it was a blind date, and he was showing interest in taking you out on a real first date. But, his aggressiveness ruined all that.
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 9:22 AM |
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UpbeatGalinSC
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he stuck his hand down my pants, grabbed my boobs, and propositioned me
Darlin', the title to this thread should have been, "HE'S OUTTA HERE"!!..not "Mixed Emotions". You shouldn't have mixed emotions after he did what he did to you. Please get a grip!
DO NOT make decisions with your CROTCH!! And don't be flattered by his actions..he'd probably screw his own mother!!
You should have come away feeling disgusted, not "mixed emotions". YUCK!!!
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 10:38 AM |
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definitelydi
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He makes my vagina tingle
So will a good vibrator.
If ya wanna phuck him, go ahead. But don't kid yourself...that's all it is...just a phuck.
I have this feeling that do you don't think much of yourself, do ya? 
[Edited on 7/22/2006 10:46 AM]
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 10:42 AM |
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mailorderannie
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Please tell me that this thread is a joke.
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 10:53 AM |
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wiccked
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did anyone catch that part about getting high??????? wonder what on!!
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 10:55 AM |
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wiccked
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you put your hands on me when i dont know you and its like this- Can you say "please dont shoot me!!!!!!" and thats the way it is!!!!! 
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 10:55 AM |
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jamminjerry
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is this billy bob again!!!
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 11:00 AM |
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mailorderannie
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did anyone catch that part about getting high??????? wonder what on!!
Since he reached in her pants, I think they got high on crack.
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 11:02 AM |
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holding4u
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Grabbing boobs and sticking hands down pants does not a second date make. But I agree with Annie, is this thread a joke?
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 11:04 AM |
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lacyvsq
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When you were having great conversation with him, did you talk about boundaries and schedules and friendship and relationship? Did he put his hand in your pants, grab your boobs and proposition you in one slick maneuver, or did you allow him one move and then the next and then the next?
Seems like maybe he thinks he got to second base and wants to get home before the game is called for rain. I think you need to decide where you want to go with this guy. If you want to explore that tingley feeling in your vagina, he'll probably accommodate -- and may want to accommodate frequently -- as may you. Or maybe he just wants to score and move on -- as may you. Or one of you may want frequency and the other to just move on -- not fun!
If you think you might want a relationship with him though, find a place to spend time with him where you can talk about boundaries -- with no risk of them being compromised. Discuss with him how often you need/want to spend time with him and how often he wants/needs to spend time with you. You may decide/find that the impressions of him that you got in one date and that you have given us here are a long way from who he really is.
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 11:20 AM |
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definitelydi
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hand down pants=high on crack!
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 11:31 AM |
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jamminjerry
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wimmin!! good gosh!
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 11:32 AM |
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solitare
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the modernizing of Miss Scarlett and Rhett???????????
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 12:16 PM |
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holding4u
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I thought my vagina tingled once, but is was just a loose wire in my electric blanket.
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